Japan Dating Statistics

[Vernie Montagna]

Thefirst topic we agreed to write about is dating. Specifically, dating Japanese people in Japan. Kayo wrote her piece from the perspective of an outgoing, independent, and overall badass Japanese lady. Be sure to check it out here.

Then there is language. Japanese language is extremely high context, and the level of mastery you need for a healthy, fulfilling relationship goes far beyond what you need with friends or for business.

Naturally, people who feel exhausted with their lives in Japan figure the grass must be greener at the chalet. Usually you can tell when during the first few dates, your romantic interest asks you how long before you plan to go home, and how wonderful it must be to live abroad.

The most famous is the go-kon (合コン), which is basically a group first date. Many Japanese people are nervous of just meeting one-on-one, so instead they meet two-on-two, or three-on-three. A group of single ladies will meet with a group of single men, and couples will be formed.

I was also surprised by how many couples are formed within companies. Japanese employment is usually for life, so the company can be a second family. When you spend most of your time with colleagues, romance will naturally ensue.

Sadly, sometimes declarations fail. If she friendzones you, tough luck. On the bright side, you get to use one of my favorite Japanese phrases, furareta (振られた, meaning to get rejected)! Might as well turn it into a learning experience.

Also, as you say in your blog post: Speaking the local language really opens up lots of more possibilities. In China most people either speak very poor English, or (for the vast majority) do not speak any English at all.

The truth is (this is my gut feeling, you may challenge me on that ? ) about 95% of the woman will never consider dating a foreigner, about 5% would date both and then there is this tiny tiny fraction of women (actually significantly less than 1%) that will

exclusively target foreigners. They have the same weird motives of mixed blood child and this BS and some want to leave China ( a lot of Chinese people are not very happy with their lives).

Additionally, due to this stupid one child policy and the fact that still to this date women are considered as the inferior gender, men significantly outnumber the women. So there is a shortage of women especially in rural

areas. However, while men tend to stay at home the women tend to move into the big cities. Therefore in cities like Shanghai and Shenzhen women outnumber men a little bit.

Due to these circumstances foreigners (applies only to males) are considered to be stealing Chinese women while women that date a foreigner are considered inferior and therefore dating a foreigner gets a pretty bad touch.

1. Some girls will want to fuck/date/bfgf because you are white. These tend to be 1-3s/10 with the occasional cute party girl, but these girls are low not just because of looks but they will have the worst personalities. Girls that like you for being white, black, American- these girls are the bottom of the barrel, girls that japanese guys tend to not like (its no wonder they suddenly quit and turn to foreigners).

I can 100% confirm this experience. In Tokyo it is easy to get with women, but remember there are over 40 million people living in that area. In reality there are not that many women interested in dating a foreigner, especially high quality women.

If the guy is so ashamed to tell his family that he is dating a gaijin, drop him. His small penis will not give you any pleasure anyway. It is not like they are filthy rich like some of the Chinese people are, so their small wiener size cannot be made up with earning money since most Japanese men do not necessarily earn per hour what people do in the west. Are you aware that most Japanese men have experiences paying for sex? Unless you are comfortable dating men who have been with prostitutes, which is a deal breaker for most people, I would not touch these perverted men. You will see that most Japanese women know how much of a pig Japanese men are being misogynistic and all prefer to date white men.

For a Japanese boy to introduce his girl friend to his mother is an indication to his parents that he is going to marry with her. It has nothing to do with gaijin/Japanese thing, and purely a cultural difference.

wow! a very interesting read. sometimes i think it would be nice to have a japanese boyfriend, but then i think i only think so because i like toma. haha. probably would not work out if i actually tried finding one. xD

As a gay man that has been seeing a Japanese guy for a couple of months, it would have been nice to know whether the situations I find myself to be in are more likely to be down to cultural differences or whether it is more likely a difference in personalities.

Hi, thank you for all that interesting information! I am also a German married to a Japanese guy, living in Japan. The thing with a lack of showing physical contact in public is new to me, my husband kisses me in public and if I do not watch out he will start grabbing my butt when I stand in front of him on the crowded escalator (he ruins my good reputation, hahaha :-) ) It might be because we had lived together in Germany for 2 years before we moved to Japan, so he has adopted German manners.

Also I have a very good friendship with his mom, but I was told people from Osaka are more open-minded than other Japanese, no idea if that is true.

However the communication problem is familiar to me as well, we mostly use German but sometimes he misunderstands what I say. Not because of lack of vocabulary or grammar, but some German ways of saying something seem to be impolite to him, while they are very normal for a German native speaker. So I try to do my best to quickly identify a misunderstanding and explain to him.

Announced by a government official, the unusual move is part of a broader initiative to encourage marriage and family formation among the city's residents, a response to the country's shrinking population.

The new app, unique in its rigorous verification process, is expected to require users to submit documentation proving they are legally single. Users must also sign a letter affirming their willingness to get married.

Government involvement in dating isn't unusual in Japan, where municipalities often organize matchmaking events, and while it is common for Japanese dating apps to ask for income details, Tokyo's app is set to go a step further by requiring a tax certificate slip to verify users' annual salaries.

A spokesperson for the Tokyo Metropolitan Government (TMG) told Newsweek: "The factors contributing to the declining birthrate are complex and cannot be solved by any one measure. As part of the marriage support program, the TMG is working to encourage those who wish to get married but cannot take the first step, by generating momentum of support for marriage throughout society."

According to data released by Japan's Health Ministry on June 5, 727,277 babies were born in Japan in 2023, down 5.6 percent from the previous year and the lowest since the country started recording the statistics in 1899, the Associated Press reported.

It isn't just births that are falling either. The Health Ministry's recently released data also showed that the number of marriages fell by 6 percent last year, to 474,717, the AP reported. Japan's low birth rate has been closely linked to the lower marriage rate, as births taking place outside of marriage are rare in the traditional society.

Alice Gibbs is a Newsweek Senior Internet Trends & Culture Reporter based in the U.K. For the last two years she has specialized in viral trends and internet news, with a particular focus on animals, human interest stories, health, and lifestyle.

Introduction: The cause of the syphilis resurgence in Japan is still unknown. In this study, we hypothesized that the spread of mobile dating software for use on mobile phones might have contributed to it. We investigated possible contributing factors of the syphilis resurgence in Japan.

Methods: We retrieved the number of reported cases of syphilis, human immunodeficiency virus infection, carbapenem-resistant Enterobacteriaceae infection, invasive Streptococcus pneumoniae infection, general population, foreign national residents, international overnight guests, detachment-type sex trade shops, physician density, and smartphone penetration rate at the prefectural level in 2017. We also obtained the number of three major dating app users in each prefecture. Using them, we performed association analyses.

Conclusions: Dating app penetration rate was significantly associated with syphilis incidence. The popularization of social media is a possible contributing factor in the syphilis resurgence in Japan. Information concerning the use of social media should be included in future studies on transmission and prevention of sexually transmitted infections.

Changes of sexual behavior or commercial sex work, insufficient funding for prevention, and poor education during school years are possible causes of the increase in the number of sexually transmitted infections (STIs), but the true reasons for the current syphilis resurgence in Japan still remain unknown (1), (3). Some hypothesize about its association with the abrupt increase in the number of foreign visitors to Japan, a 3.43 times increase in 2017 compared to 2012. Alternatively, we hypothesized that the explosive spread of specific software applications (apps) on smartphones used to locate and connect with members of the opposite sex (also known as mobile dating apps) launched in 2012, and that had gained wide-ranging popularity since 2013, might have contributed to the significant rise in syphilis cases due to their potential to accelerate casual sex among unfamiliar partners.

In this study, to elucidate the possible contributing factors of syphilis resurgence in Japan, we performed an exploratory statistical data analysis concerning the association between syphilis incidence and dating app penetration rates in 47 prefectures, based on publicly available data.

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