Chat With the Ego

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Have you ever gotten ready for work and forgot whether you put on your
deodorant? There are many things we do automatically--like personal
grooming when getting ready for work; many aspects of driving;
preparing meals; the list goes on and on.
One of the things we do automatically is "self-talk." That's when you
see something you'd like to purchase and part of you says something
like, "you can't afford that;" or, it says, "If you put that on the
credit card, you won't have to pay for it all at once." Never mind
that the credit card is nearly maxed out and you'll pay more for the
item in the long run.
All that self-talk is the ego which is trying hard to keep you in its
comfort zone. For the majority of people, it is most comfortable
staying in a mediocre space. It generally wants you to be much like
everyone else--hanging in the rat race, busting butt to get nowhere.
At least, for most of us, that is what the ego has been taught to do.
But, what if you could change that self-talk? What if you could change
your life to allow everything that you desire? Would you do it?
Right about now, your ego is saying something. Is it, "Yeah, right,
like that will ever happen," or, something similar?
Let me suggest something really radical. Your ego likes to be in
control. It likes to tell you that if you don't struggle for
everything in your life it's not worth having. These are things it's
been taught since you were a child. Family, friends, teachers,
siblings and co-workers have re-enforced this view because that's what
they were taught.
Now, what if you took control of some of the self-talk and had a chat
with your ego? Just imagine if you could talk your ego into supporting
your desire for change! What couldn't you do?
Remember that your ego is "human," so the trick to enlisting its help
is to list the benefits of changing.
For instance, say you want to change your thinking about having
abundance in your life, but you don't want to work 60+ hours a week to
do it. Talk to your ego. Tell it all the benefits working less, but
making more would have.
Things like less stress, more time for healthy pursuits, more time
with your family...there are lots of benefits you should be able to
come up with. Write a list of them that pertain to your situation,
then, "discuss" them with your ego.
In the recent past, affirmations were a large self-help thing. The
problems was, if your ego wasn't engaged in what you were affirming,
nothing changed.
Instead of saying affirmations your ego is against, develop
affirmations with your ego that it can get behind. Discuss the best
affirmations for you and you'll find that when you can come into
agreement, your affirmations will work much better.
Another thing you can do to help your ego help you is to focus on the
aspects of your life you're grateful for. Reminding your ego that
there are already many wonderful things you've acquired or achieved
will plump up its "self-esteem" (a.k.a. your self-esteem).
When you focus on what is wonderful in your life, your ego will get
enthused about ensuring more wonderful things come into your life. And
that's the basis for bringing more abundance into your life.
In his book, "The Attractor Factor" (which I highly recommend), Dr.
Joe Vitale talks about getting "clear" on what you don't want and what
you do want in your life.
One of the ways to "clear up" things in your life is to discuss them
with your ego. Let it tell you about things from your past that might
be obstructing the changes you want to make.
By discussing these things in self-talk with your ego, you enlist the
aid of one of the most powerful aspects of your personality.
No one has to know about your self-talk discussions with your ego. You
can do it silently when you have a spare bit of time. These moments
can occur frequently during your day--when you're waiting for a report
to print, when you're placing a phone call and it rings a long time,
when you're waiting for your computer to complete an action, in the
shower.... There are many moments during every day that you can
utilize for these little "chats" with your ego and make a huge
difference in your life.
One last thing to keep in mind, as your ego comes into alignment with
your desires and changes start happening in your life (i.e., you start
becoming more "true" to yourself), people in your environment may
start giving you some grief about changing.
You are welcome to share this information with them so they, too, can
begin to improve their own lives. If they aren't interested in
improving their lives, ask your ego the best way to handle the
situation and let it help you deal with them. It may even be that it
suggests you ignore some people and just take care of your own life.
Follow that advice and watch how many of those who don't want to
change remove themselves from your life or leave you alone. However,
in the words of Hippocrates, "First, do no harm."
Here's wishing you the very best in your life.