Check-In .. Wednesday 10/19

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"There may be some wrongs we can never fully right. We don't worry
about them if we can honestly say to ourselves that we would right
them if we could. Some people cannot be seen - we send them an honest
letter. And there may be a valid reason for postponement in some
cases. But we don't delay if it can be avoided. We should be sensible,
tactful, considerate and humble without being servile or scraping. As
God's people we stand on our feet; we don't crawl before anyone."


~ Alcoholics Anonymous, page 83

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Just because I apologize and mean it doesn't mean the receiving party
will be as willing to move on. They tend to be hurt more than we were
- booze numbed my feelings and enhanced the lack of emotion. I may be
sorry, but time heals most wounds. Some wrongs from our active days
may have cut so deeply that no amount of time doing the next right
thing will ever erase the old memories.



There are many different ways to make an amend. We can have a face-to-
face conversation, a written letter (that may only be shared with a
sponsor and then destroyed), or a prayer to God with those we harmed
in mind. What's done is done - we cannot live in the past, we may be
ready to move forward with our life, but we also cannot minimize what
we have done. Alcoholism sometimes hurts those around us even more
than it does ourselves.



"People pleasing" is a character defect many sober drunks come to
recognize that we share. If others were happy (even if it meant
manipulating them to thinking they were happy), the focus would be
removed from our excessive drinking. Well, today we live an honest
lifestyle - owning our wrongs but not acting as a doormat either. The
only time I get on my knees is to pray before bed each night; not
because I am lower than or less important than anyone or anything!

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Rainy day in New Jersey - great day for an office job. Great day to
appreciate the peaceful sound of raindrops on the window.

R - Ready for another productive, valuable day
A - Another day sober, than God
I - I went to the 7am meeting before work again today - still the best
way to start the day
N - Never give up - despite present circumstances, tomorrow can always
be better
Y - You know what? I'm happy today thanks to AA!


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Wednesday Music:
+ Alice in Chains - Heaven Besides You - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TEAylKJb-to&feature=share
+ Ozzy Osbourne - Crazy Train - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3MLp7YNTznE&feature=share
+ Quiet Riot - Cum on Feel the Noize - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e322vTpTyOE&feature=share



Wednesday Quotes:
+ Say what you mean and mean what you say. Nobody has time to sit and
guess your thoughts so learn to speak up...
+ You can't start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading
the last one!
+ Many of the great achievements of the world were accomplished by
tired and discouraged people who kept on working.

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Jonathan, Alcoholic from New Jersey
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