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Oct 12, 2011, 9:44:47 AM10/12/11
to AA Way Of Life Group
"Our design for living is not a one-way street. It is as good for the
wife as for the husband. If we can forget, so can she. It is better,
however, that one does not needlessly name a person upon whom she can
vent jealousy.
Perhaps there are some cases where the utmost frankness is demanded.
No outsider can appraise such an intimate situation. It may be that
both will decide that the way of good sense and loving kindness is to
let by-gones be by-gones. Each might pray about it, having the other
one's happiness uppermost in mind. Keep it always in sight that we are
dealing with that most terrible human emotion-jealousy. Good
generalship may decide that the problem be attacked on the flank
rather than risk a face-to-face combat."
~ Alcoholics Anonymous, page 81-82
=================
Newly sober alcoholics who start to gain hope when shown the potential
blessings of recovery tend to want to leave the past behind right
away. The path ahead looks so promising that we no longer wish to look
back in the rear view mirror. As beneficial as it is to keep the eye
on the prize, we must also realize that everyone we affected due to
our drinking may not be as willing to forgive and quickly forget.
The steps are a process - if continually practiced then time alone
will heal most wounds. Sure, there are some truly mean and horrible
things many of us did because of alcoholism that we would prefer to
black out of our minds, but our spouses and loved ones may have
permanent scarring. We cannot minimize their pain although we
sometimes wish to only move forward.
I have learned that both my wife and I have feelings and emotions.
We've seen each other at the best of times and the worst of times. So,
when she is feeling harmed by my old actions, instead of telling her
to forget it and move on with life, I need to pause and listen to her.
That alone may be the best step toward making a living amend and
improving our lives.
=================
So today is day #2 on Lexapro, and I don't think I feel any different,
although a major project at work yesterday fell thru and prior to
taking the meds this is the kind of scenario that may have tossed me
over the edge into a mental aggravation. Is it the Lexapro that helped
or just a conscious state of awareness? I dunno - regardless, today
I'm happy, joyous, and free! Amazing how our MENTAL state of mind can
change when we ask for and accept help!
M - My whole attitude and outlook on life HAS changed
E - Enjoying life, a little bit more each day as I progress further
into recovery
N - No reason to drink; every reason to keep working on bettering
myself
T - Today I have a lot to do, as always - one thing at a time
A - Another day sober, thank God!
L - Love my job, love my recovery, love my family, I can even love
myself today!
=================
Wednesday Quotes:
+ "Be mindful of what you toss away, be careful of what you push away,
and think hard before you walk away."
+ "Life has no remote. Get up and change it yourself!"
+ "Begin each new day as if it is the beginning of your life, for
truly it is the beginning of what is left of your life."
+ "Don't be afraid to change. You may lose something good, but you may
gain something even better." - Leslie Esdaile
Wednesday Music:
+ AC/DC - Who Made Who - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j2TADt0y5h8&feature=share
+ Van Halen - Panama - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w-NshzYK9y0
=================
Jonathan, Alcoholic from New Jersey
TXT MSG: 917-741-3656
http://billwfriends.ning.com/
http://www.facebook.com/NOW.HIRING.JOBS
wife as for the husband. If we can forget, so can she. It is better,
however, that one does not needlessly name a person upon whom she can
vent jealousy.
Perhaps there are some cases where the utmost frankness is demanded.
No outsider can appraise such an intimate situation. It may be that
both will decide that the way of good sense and loving kindness is to
let by-gones be by-gones. Each might pray about it, having the other
one's happiness uppermost in mind. Keep it always in sight that we are
dealing with that most terrible human emotion-jealousy. Good
generalship may decide that the problem be attacked on the flank
rather than risk a face-to-face combat."
~ Alcoholics Anonymous, page 81-82
=================
Newly sober alcoholics who start to gain hope when shown the potential
blessings of recovery tend to want to leave the past behind right
away. The path ahead looks so promising that we no longer wish to look
back in the rear view mirror. As beneficial as it is to keep the eye
on the prize, we must also realize that everyone we affected due to
our drinking may not be as willing to forgive and quickly forget.
The steps are a process - if continually practiced then time alone
will heal most wounds. Sure, there are some truly mean and horrible
things many of us did because of alcoholism that we would prefer to
black out of our minds, but our spouses and loved ones may have
permanent scarring. We cannot minimize their pain although we
sometimes wish to only move forward.
I have learned that both my wife and I have feelings and emotions.
We've seen each other at the best of times and the worst of times. So,
when she is feeling harmed by my old actions, instead of telling her
to forget it and move on with life, I need to pause and listen to her.
That alone may be the best step toward making a living amend and
improving our lives.
=================
So today is day #2 on Lexapro, and I don't think I feel any different,
although a major project at work yesterday fell thru and prior to
taking the meds this is the kind of scenario that may have tossed me
over the edge into a mental aggravation. Is it the Lexapro that helped
or just a conscious state of awareness? I dunno - regardless, today
I'm happy, joyous, and free! Amazing how our MENTAL state of mind can
change when we ask for and accept help!
M - My whole attitude and outlook on life HAS changed
E - Enjoying life, a little bit more each day as I progress further
into recovery
N - No reason to drink; every reason to keep working on bettering
myself
T - Today I have a lot to do, as always - one thing at a time
A - Another day sober, thank God!
L - Love my job, love my recovery, love my family, I can even love
myself today!
=================
Wednesday Quotes:
+ "Be mindful of what you toss away, be careful of what you push away,
and think hard before you walk away."
+ "Life has no remote. Get up and change it yourself!"
+ "Begin each new day as if it is the beginning of your life, for
truly it is the beginning of what is left of your life."
+ "Don't be afraid to change. You may lose something good, but you may
gain something even better." - Leslie Esdaile
Wednesday Music:
+ AC/DC - Who Made Who - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j2TADt0y5h8&feature=share
+ Van Halen - Panama - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w-NshzYK9y0
=================
Jonathan, Alcoholic from New Jersey
TXT MSG: 917-741-3656
http://billwfriends.ning.com/
http://www.facebook.com/NOW.HIRING.JOBS
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