Managing Grief

[Gentle Deer Lion Tamer]

All of experience times when we mourn a loss or must reach out to
others in need. For some, asking for help or extending sympathy comes
easily, but many wonder what to do and/or say. From my experience in
my life personally, as as a healer, I recommend the following
guidelines.

Time:
Be careful not to rush the grieving process, which varies for each
individual. If intense grief persists after eight weeks, preventing
normal functioning, seek help through a spiritual teacher, guide or
through counseling or a support group, (such as different forums) or a
local social service agency.

Talk:
In the days and months following a loss, the bereaved may want to
share feelings with trusted friends or family members, who should
listen and not try to fix everything. Offering genuine condolences of
"I'm sorry" or "I care" is helpful. However, avoid trying to explain
why something happened or saying, "I know how you must feel," since
explanations or seemingly insincere comments rarely console.

Touch:
When people are experiencing a loss, it's important that they tell
someone if they need a hug. Also, for some people, having a pet for
company can bring great comfort.

Tears:
Cry, alone or with a friend, silent or aloud - whatever helps to
release built-up frustrations, grief, or anger. Many mean are often
reluctant to show their emotions, and some women worry that crying
shows a lack of faith. Crying can be very helpful and should not be
viewed as a weakness.