Planetary Aum Feb 4 8pm ET
Still Undefined
Aum....a prayer for peace....a living smile....is happening.
Exactly
like the 4th of July Aum circle at Rainbow Gathering. Many groups
are
participating....as well as individuals....all done where ever you
are
at....you can even do it to the TV....!!!!
The TV works in reverse, you know!!!!!
You are invited to "SMILE" or dance ...to let it all go....to choose
peace...to pray...whatever works for you...and experience this
healing
energy.
You do not have to be here....just know at 8 pm ....many
people....even if its only you and me.... but many all over the
world
(now that is a network!)...will be "Smiling" or letting go of their
anger...and forgiving....
Please participate....it might set many of us free of this dangerous
downward destructive spiral of anger of us earth inhabitants...
If the anger is too real to let go....the following might help you
release it.
Stepping out of the anger is what most of us are learning to do. If
you choose, spread the word to your loved ones....and your
enemies....!
HOW TO DEFEAT YOUR ENEMY:
Warriors of Light....heal (LOVE)yourself....then you heal (LOVE)your
enemy!
IF IT DOESN'T WORK....YOUR ANGERT WILL BE REFUNDED, AS WELL AS YOUR
MISERY....because what you put out, returns to you tenfold now.
Want love....? Then put out love....!
The following "excerpt" is quite interesting. I, also, will be doing
what it suggests....but maybe it doesn't apply to some...
so....I am not endorsing it or promoting it...it was just sent to
me....it just has an unusual angle to help those who are angry....it
is titled: The Work
Namaste....Undefined...!
What is The Work?
The Work is a simple yet powerful process of inquiry that teaches you
to identify and question thoughts that cause all the suffering in the
world. It's a way to understand what's hurting you, and to address
your problems with clarity.
People who do The Work as an ongoing practice report life-changing
results.
Alleviation of depression: Find resolution, and even happiness, in
situations that were once debilitating.
Decreased stress: Learn how to live with less anxiety or fear.
Improved relationships: Experience deeper connection and intimacy
with
your partner, your parents, your children, your friends, and
yourself.
Reduced anger: Understand what makes you angry and resentful, and
become less reactive, less often, with less intensity.
Increased mental clarity: Live and work more intelligently and
effectively, with integrity.
More energy: Experience a new sense of ongoing vigor and well-being.
More peace: Discover how to become "a lover of what is."
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How to Do The Work
The simplest way to do The Work is outlined below:
1
Judge Your Neighbor
For thousands of years we’ve been told not to judge, but we still do
it all the time—how our friends should act, whom our children should
care about, what our parents should feel, do, or say. In The Work,
rather than suppress these judgments, we use them as starting points
for self-realization. By letting the judging mind have its life on
paper, we discover through the mirror of those around us what we
haven't yet realized about ourselves.
Fill in a Judge-Your-Neighbor Worksheet. You can download one here,
or
simply use this online version [below]:
The Judge-Your-Neighbor Worksheet
Fill in the blanks below, writing about someone (dead or alive) you
haven’t yet forgiven one hundred percent. Use short, simple
sentences.
Don’t censor yourself—try to fully experience the anger or pain as if
the situation were occurring right now. Take this opportunity to
express your judgments on paper.
1. Who angers, confuses, saddens, or disappoints you, and why? What
is
it about them that you don’t like?
I am ________________ at ____________________ because
__________________________________________________.
Example: I am angry at Paul because he doesn’t listen to me, he
doesn’t appreciate me, he argues with everything I say.
2. How do you want them to change?
What do you want them to do?
I want ________________ to __________________________
___________________________________________________.
Example: I want Paul to see that he is wrong.
I want him to apologize.
3. What is it that they should or shouldn't do, be, think, or feel?
What advice could you offer?
________________ should/shouldn't_____________________
___________________________________________________.
Example: Paul should take better care of himself. He shouldn't argue
with me.
4. What do they need to do in order for you to be happy?
I need________________ to ___________________________
___________________________________________________.
Example: I need Paul to hear me and respect me.
5. What do you think of them? Make a list.
________________ is _________________________________
____________________________________________________.
Example: Paul is unfair, arrogant, loud, dishonest, way out of line,
and unconscious
6. What is it that you don't want to experience with that person
again?
I don't ever want to __________________________________
____________________________________________________.
Example: I don’t ever want to feel unappreciated by Paul again. I
don’t ever want to see him smoking and ruining his health again.
2
The Four Questions
Investigate each of your statements from the Judge-Your-Neighbor
Worksheet using the four questions and the turnaround below. The Work
is meditation. It’s about awareness, not about trying to change your
thoughts. Ask the questions, then take your time, go inside, and wait
for the deeper answers to surface. Download the Facilitation Guide
for
helpful sub-questions.
In its most basic form, The Work consists of four questions and a
turnaround. For example, the first thought that you might question on
the above Worksheet is "Paul doesn't listen to me." Find someone in
your life about whom you have had that thought, and let's do The
Work.
"[Name] doesn't listen to me":
Is it true?
Can you absolutely know that it's true?
How do you react, what happens, when you believe that thought?
Who would you be without the thought?
Then turn it around (the concept you are questioning), and don't
forget to find three genuine, specific examples of each turnaround.
3
Turn it Around
After you've investigated your statement with the four questions,
you're ready to turn it around (the concept you are questioning).
Each turnaround is an opportunity to experience the opposite of your
original statement and see what you and the person you've judged have
in common.
A statement can be turned around to the opposite, to the other, and
to
the self (and sometimes to "my thinking," wherever that applies).
Find
a minimum of three genuine, specific examples in your life where each
turnaround is true.
For example, "Paul doesn't understand me" can be turned around to
"Paul does understand me." Another turnaround is "I don't understand
Paul." A third is "I don't understand myself."
Be creative with the turnarounds. They are revelations, showing you
previously unseen aspects of yourself reflected back through others.
Once you've found a turnaround, go inside and let yourself feel it.
Find a minimum of three genuine, specific examples where the
turnaround is true in your life.
As I began living my turnarounds, I noticed that I was everything I
called you. You were merely my projection. Now, instead of trying to
change the world around me (this didn't work, but only for 43 years),
I can put the thoughts on paper, investigate them, turn them around,
and find that I am the very thing I thought you were. In the moment I
see you as selfish, I am selfish (deciding how you should be). In the
moment I see you as unkind, I am unkind. If I believe you should stop
waging war, I am waging war on you in my mind.
The turnarounds are your prescription for happiness. Live the
medicine
you have been prescribing for others. The world is waiting for just
one person to live it. You're the one.
Examples of Turnarounds
Here are a few more examples of turnarounds:
"He should understand me" turns around to:
- He shouldn't understand me. (This is reality.)
- I should understand him.
- I should understand myself.
"I need him to be kind to me" turns around to:
- I don't need him to be kind to me.
- I need me to be kind to him. (Can I live it?)
- I need me to be kind to myself.
"He is unloving to me" turns around to:
- He is loving to me. (To the best of his ability)
- I am unloving to him. (Can I find it?)
- I am unloving to me (When I don't inquire.)
"Paul shouldn't shout at me" turns around to:
- Paul should shout at me. (Obviously: In reality, he does sometimes.
Am I listening?)
- I shouldn't shout at Paul.
- I shouldn't shout at me.
(In my head, am I playing over and over again Paul's shouting? Who's
more merciful, Paul who shouted once, or me who replayed it a 100
times?)
Embracing Reality
After you have turned around the judgments in your answers to numbers
1 through 5 on the Worksheet (asking if they are as true or truer),
turn number 6 around using "I am willing ..." and "I look forward
to ..."
For example, "I don't ever want to experience an argument with Paul"
turns around to "I am willing to experience an argument with Paul"
and
"I look forward to experiencing an argument with Paul." Why would you
look forward to it?
Number 6 is about fully embracing all of mind and life without fear,
and being open to reality. If you experience an argument with Paul
again, good. If it hurts, you can put your thoughts on paper and
investigate them. Uncomfortable feelings are merely the reminders
that
we've attached to something that may not be true for us. They let us
know that it's time to do The Work.
Until you can see the enemy as a friend, your Work is not done. This
doesn't mean you must invite him to dinner. Friendship is an internal
experience. You may never see him again, you may even divorce him,
but
as you think about him are you feeling stress or peace?
In my experience, it takes only one person to have a successful
relationship. I like to say I have the perfect marriage, and I can't
really know what kind of marriage my husband has (though he tells me
he's happy too).
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Frequently Asked Questions
I have a hard time writing about others. I know the problem is me.
Why
can't I write about myself?
If you want to know yourself, write about someone else. Point The
Work
outward in the beginning, and you may come to see that everything
outside of you is a direct reflection of your thinking. It is only
about you. Most of us have been pointing our criticism and judgments
at ourselves for years, and it hasn't solved anything yet. When you
judge someone else, inquire, and turn it around (the concept you are
questioning). This is the fast path to understanding and self-
realization.
It is extremely difficult to judge yourself. Some of us are very
invested in our identifications; our ideas about ourselves-how we
should look, how we should feel, what we should or shouldn't be
doing-
are so strong that we may not be able to answer the four questions
and
turnarounds honestly. If you are new to The Work and feel that you
must judge yourself, please call the Do The Work Helpline and ask an
experienced facilitator to walk you through your Worksheet.
Do I have to write? Can't I just ask the questions and turn it around
in my head when I have a problem?
Mind's job is to be right, and it can justify itself faster than the
speed of light. Stop the portion of your thinking that is the source
of your fear, anger, sadness, or resentment by transferring it to
paper. Once the mind is stopped on paper, it's much easier to
investigate. Eventually The Work begins to undo you automatically
without writing.