I am going to loose it soon
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clueless father
Dec 17, 2009, 8:08:59 AM12/17/09
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I have no idea how to talk to my children. I have one teen-aged
Daughter fifteen, and another twelve. I don't know how to communicate
with them, I loose my temper faster and faster these days. I am
afraid I have become a terrible parent and I need some advise on how
to keep cool without having them walk all over me.
Daughter fifteen, and another twelve. I don't know how to communicate
with them, I loose my temper faster and faster these days. I am
afraid I have become a terrible parent and I need some advise on how
to keep cool without having them walk all over me.
Bryan G
Dec 21, 2009, 12:58:54 AM12/21/09
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Now this is going to at first sound strange but I am going to recommend a book for you to read it is called "Being the pack leader" by Cesar Millan now it is a dog training book but I have found that the rules for being Calm and Assertive apply to kids too.
The other piece if advice I have takes time lots of time. Spend time with your kids. You dont have to talk but just go out and act like a kids with them. Show them that the "Old Man" knows how to cut loose from time to time. go see movies that they want to see, and appropriate, ride bikes. remove chunks of time that you would be doing other things that you would rather do and set it aside with your kids.
For example, my son like to play catch, I HAAAAaaaaate to play catch I find it almost mind numbingly boring, but From time to time when ole sonny boy throws a mitt at me and asks if I will throw a ball from time to time I will go out and not much is said but there are time I have gotten some very good incites to his world as a young teen. Think back to when you were a teen at your daughters age and I bet if you are honest you will remember times that you did just what your girls are doing.
Rember that in the teen years it is all about me, me, ME! So and so is such a bitch.what will the peers think of me is I wear these pants? you are always so hard on me! I have had a bad day. I never get to watch what I want to watch but that boy like me, and I like him. you have to stay calm. you have full control of your funtions an your daugher currently know what buttons to push to get you to blow up. you have to show them that you are the parent and you are going to stay calm and be assertive in your ruling. You can do it just be the adult and that doesn't mean that you can scream louder.
OK Lets try this again
The other piece if advice I have takes time lots of time. Spend time with your kids. You dont have to talk but just go out and act like a kids with them. Show them that the "Old Man" knows how to cut loose from time to time. go see movies that they want to see, and appropriate, ride bikes. remove chunks of time that you would be doing other things that you would rather do and set it aside with your kids.
For example, my son like to play catch, I HAAAAaaaaate to play catch I find it almost mind numbingly boring, but From time to time when ole sonny boy throws a mitt at me and asks if I will throw a ball from time to time I will go out and not much is said but there are time I have gotten some very good incites to his world as a young teen. Think back to when you were a teen at your daughters age and I bet if you are honest you will remember times that you did just what your girls are doing.
Rember that in the teen years it is all about me, me, ME! So and so is such a bitch.what will the peers think of me is I wear these pants? you are always so hard on me! I have had a bad day. I never get to watch what I want to watch but that boy like me, and I like him. you have to stay calm. you have full control of your funtions an your daugher currently know what buttons to push to get you to blow up. you have to show them that you are the parent and you are going to stay calm and be assertive in your ruling. You can do it just be the adult and that doesn't mean that you can scream louder.
OK Lets try this again
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Gavin
Dec 21, 2009, 8:29:29 AM12/21/09
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I know what you mean. My wife and I had the same problem. You might
want to check out what people are saying about "Grooming the Next
Generation for Success". Many of my friends are on the video sharing
their personal testimonial about how it has helped them. Best of luck!
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want to check out what people are saying about "Grooming the Next
Generation for Success". Many of my friends are on the video sharing
their personal testimonial about how it has helped them. Best of luck!
http://tiny.cc/SI0TT
Timothy McAuliffe
Dec 21, 2009, 2:29:12 AM12/21/09
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misba kiani
Dec 29, 2009, 4:59:23 AM12/29/09
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ha really i have no idea of married life n also of kids so
carla ana Thomas de Oliveira
Jan 4, 2010, 3:06:40 AM1/4/10
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I know teenage girls can be really trying sometimes! Was one once
lol. I have a moody teenage son! All I can say is try & remember
what it was like when you were a teenager, relax take a deep breath or
walk away. Teenage girls will always come running to you if there's a
problem after all you are their hero & know that she's just going
through phase, like when she was younger she went through all kind of
stuff. She's just testing the waters try to be patient & show her
your kinder side she'll soon tire of trying to p. you off.
Hope this helped always be one step ahead of them or they will drive
you insane! mwah Carla
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