Biblical Marriage, Godly Leadership, Service & Submission - Revised & Expanded
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M- A Controversial Understanding of the Bible
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CONTENTS
[1] THE BOTTOM LINE IN MARRIAGE
[2] THE CHARACTERISTICS OF A GODLY MARRIED COUPLE
[3] ENABLED TO LIVE SUPERNATURAL LOVE IN MARRIAGE
[4] THE BEHAVIOR OF THE GODLY SPIRIT FILLED WIFE
[5] MARITAL CLEAVING, SEPARATION, DIVORCE AND REMARRIAGE
[6] MONEY AND FINANCES IN THE GODLY CHRISTIAN FAMILY
[7] GODLY SEX IN A GODLY MARRIAGE
[1] THE BOTTOM LINE IN MARRIAGE
***Ephesians 5:33 To sum up, each one of you should [patiently, kindly, humbly, unselfishly, politely with godly behavior] Love his wife as himself [whether or not she deserves it], and the wife should be respectful to her husband [whether or not he deserves it]. AmpB EXB
***Colossians 3:18 Wives, yield to the authority of [submit yourselves to] your husbands, because this is the right, appropriate and fitting thing to do in the Lord. 19 Husbands, [patiently, kindly, humbly, unselfishly, politely with godly behavior] Love your wives and don’t be bitter toward them or treat them harshly. EXB, HCSB, CJB
[2] THE CHARACTERISTICS OF A GODLY MARRIED COUPLE
A “reborn in the Spirit” married couple is a couple where both the husband and the wife believe in, rely on and trust the One true God, Yahweh/Jehovah of Israel, the Most High Father. They both have both come to believe that
[1] The Father has revealed Himself as Jesus of Nazareth and Bethlehem, virgin born of Mary by the Holy Spirit.
[2] As the atoning Lamb of God He let His body die on the cross to suffer the consequences of our natural incompatibility with the Holy Father, and the consequences of our failure to live holy.
[3] Father and Jesus rose His human body from the grave and transformed it into Jesus’ forever body, in which He showed Himself to His disciples many times after His resurrection, and to show them what they would be like when He gives them their forever bodies.
[4] Jesus will return visibly to keep all of His promises to Abraham, Isaac, Israel, and King David, setting up His Kingdom on earth to reign visibly over the earth from Jerusalem for the 1000 years described in Revelation 20:1-5.
[5] Jesus purchased them with the death of His body so that now they are bought and paid for by Jesus to live for Him, they no longer belong to themselves to do whatever they may wish to do, and that they were then placed in Father’s hands where no one can remove them, not Satan, not any demon or even themselves.
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A “reborn in the Spirit” married couple both have
[1] Accepted the fact that each of them is totally incapable of deserving or earning God’s salvation on their own and by their own efforts;
[2] Asked Father to save them from the power, presence and penalty of their sins and incompatibility with the Father, agreeing with Him about their failures to be holy, and trusting Him to keep on forgiving them and cleansing them from all the unrighteousness of their imperfect daily lives;
[3] Asked and trusted Jesus to come and live inside of them by His Holy Spirit, for Him to Live His new Life in and through them and adopt them as His forever children;
[4] Come to the place where they consider (a) their natural selves to be effectively dead for the purposes of sin, and (b) their Holy Spirit indwelt selves to be very much alive to and for Father by the Holy Spirit, because of what Jesus did for them;
[5] Chosen to (a) not let sin dominate and rule them in their natural bodies and minds, to (b) ask Father to enable them to not obey their natural sinful desires, and when sin seeks to dominate, rule over and control them, to (c) consciously call out to Jesus to enable them, moment by moment, to resist and escape from sin in order to do His will;
[6] Chosen to present, offer and yield their bodies, souls and spirits to Father by His Spirit as being forever alive, no longer spiritually dead, and to be His instruments of and for Christ’s righteousness;
[7] Become aware of the Spirit working in them the daily desire (a) to worship and praise Father and pray for the people in their lives, (b) to read, meditate on and obey the Word of God in the Bible;
[8] Committed themselves to allow Jesus, by His Holy Spirit, to enable them to obediently Love Father, Son and Spirit; and to enable them to regularly, consistently, patiently, kindly, unselfishly, humbly, forgivingly and selflessly Love and serve the followers/disciples of Jesus.
The “reborn in the Spirit” married couple submit to each other out of reverence for Christ, submitting to Christ and the Word of God in their mate {1}, living together in the miraculous and God enabled manner of Romans 12:9-21, e.g. with Love that is kind, patient, gentle, humble and genuine without hypocrisy, that detests and abhors evil that threatens one's marriage; that clings to what is good for one's marriage; that shows devoted family affection to each other with brotherly love; where each eagerly outdoes the other in showing honor to the other, works hard and is not lazy with each other, serves the Lord in the mate with a heart full of devotion, rejoicing in hope for one's marriage, patiently persevering in marital tribulations, persistently devoted to prayer for each other; sharing what one has with the other, and showing hospitality to each other. asking Father to do good to one's mate when one's mate is troublesome, rejoicing with one's mate when that mate rejoices, weeping with one's mate when that mate weeps; living in harmony with each other; not being proud or haughty but helping one's mate when that mate feels lowly; not being wise in one's own estimation; never paying back evil for evil to one's mate, trying to do what is honorable in God's sight, living in peace with one's mate if possible and to the extent that it depends on the one involved; not being conquered by evil, injury, harm or wickedness; but conquering evil, injury, harm or wickedness with God's good and enabling.{2}
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>>>{1} Ephes 5:21
>>>{2} Philippians 2:13; 4:13;
Hebrews 13:20,21;
[3] ENABLED TO LIVE SUPERNATURAL LOVE IN MARRIAGE
All of the Romans 12 miraculous and Loving harmony and unity among husbands, wives and children is by means of the grace and Spirit enabling from Father, since God has set it up that it is impossible to achieve this level of godly living on our own, by our own efforts, in our own strength{3a}. It is only possible for the believer to achieve this kind of supernatural living by calling on the Lord to do it in her/his life, by believing and knowing only God’s Spirit can do it in her/his life, by considering her/his own self life to be dead to sinful living and her/his new life alive to godly living by God’s Spirit, by choosing to not allow sin and evil to rule in her/his life, and by yielding her/his entire self - body, soul & spirit - to be instruments of righteousness of King Jesus for Him to work His will in every part of her/his life.{3a} Their prayer is "Holy Father, please work and energize in me to do Your will and Your Way, and please give me the desire and the will to allow You to work in and through me to do Your will and Your Way."
Enabled in this manner, the wife is able to be careful not to dominate her husband, not telling him what to do and/or how to do it{3b}. She understands that the godly husband and wife are instructed that they have no right or authority to make, coerce or intimidate their mate into doing or believing what one of them might want the other to do; no right to rule over, boss, control, dominate or subjugate the other or each other to bring the other into submission {4}. In God's plan, marriage means humble, unselfish and Loving leadership from the man and respectful and voluntary submission by the woman{5}. If the woman doesn't want to submit herself to a husband, then she should not marry, should remain single and be her own boss {6}.
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>>>{3a} Ephesians 2:8,9; 3:14-18,19; Philippians 2:13; 4:13; Hebrews 13:20,21; Judges 7:1-3; 1 Samuel 17:46-48; 2 Chron 20:14-16; 32:7-9; Prov 21:30-31; Romans 6:6,8-13
>>>{3b} Luke 22:23-26; 1 Timothy 2:11,12; Ephes 5:33; 1 Peter 2:13-3:1-6
>>>{4} 1 Peter 5:1-3; Luke 22:24-27; Ephes 6:6-9; Mark 9:35; John 13:5-15; 3 John 9;
>>>{5} Genesis 3:16; Ephes
5:22-24,33; 1 Peter 3:1-6, 13-17; Hebrews 13:7, 17;
Titus 2:4; Colos 3:18;
>>>{6} 1 Corinthians 7:7,8,24-35;
[4] THE BEHAVIOR OF THE GODLY SPIRIT FILLED WIFE
The "born again Christian" wife accepts her husband’s position under God as the one who is appointed to teach and disciple her in the Word, even if it is only him reading the Bible to her, or them singing praises together or their shared giving of thanks {7}. She tests, tries and examines all that he asks her to do, all that he teaches her to do{8}. When she determines by the Word and the Spirit that what her husband asks her to do, or believe, is in harmony with the Word of God, she submits and does what he has asked her to do, doing it as if she were doing it unto the Lord {9}. If she determines by the Word of God and the Spirit that what her husband asks her to do or believe is contrary to clear, specific and explicit Scripture, then she humbly and respectfully informs her husband that as a citizen{10} of the Kingdom of God and daughter {11} of the King, she should not, and so will not, do or believe that which her husband asks her to do, that which is contrary to clear, specific and explicit Scripture{12}.
Any godly wife is under God's command to do the following with reference to anything Her husband does or tries to get her to do: "21 But examine everything carefully; hold fast to that which is good; 22 abstain from every form of evil." 1 Thess 5. - - - "God’s wrath is coming on the disobedient because of these things. 7 Therefore, do not become their partners. . . . 11 Don’t participate in the fruitless works of darkness, but instead expose them." Ephes 5 - - - "Do not be hasty in the laying on of hands, nor take part in the sins of others; keep yourself pure." 1 Timothy 5:21-23 -- - Just like in Acts 4 when the God appointed rulers of Israel told the apostles to disobey Jesus and not obey His Word to teach and disciple all in Jesus Name, if an ungodly husband husband demands that his wife not obey Jesus and not teach and disciple others in Jesus' Name, the wife should obey her King, God and Savior first and disobey the human authorities over and teach and disciple people in Jesus' Name, just like Moses' mother disobeyed the rulers of Egypt to obey God and saved Moses, just like Rahab disobeyed the God appointed rulers over her in Jericho to save Israel, just like Abigail disobeyed her ungodly husband Nabal to minister to David (1 Samuel 25).
The mature-in-the-Lord wife knows that if instead of peace of mind and heart {13} she has doubts about the rightness, goodness, or acceptability to God of something her husband asks her to do or believe, then she understands that she should not do it.{14} In Western and modern cultures it can be very difficult for a wife to accept the Word of God that she has no right in the Lord to be teaching, bossing or dominating her husband, when at work she might be a supervisor or teacher required to control and use her authority over men at work {15}. The "born again Christian" wife should accept her own husband as the God ordained head and leader {16} in the marriage in everything {17} as doing it for the Lord {18}.
If one of the mates believes the other has been deceived or snared by the world, the flesh or an evil one, that one should humbly, patiently and kindly do what the Word says to do{19}. Given the fact of the involvement of evil spirit beings in our lives today, this might involve prayer and fasting if evil spirit beings are involved{20}.
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>>>{7} Matthew 28:19,20; Ephes 5:19,20,25,26;
>>>{8} 1 Thessalonians 5:21; 1 John 4:1; Romans 12:2; Galatians 6:4; 1 Corinthians 11:28-31; 2 Corinthians 13:5; Lament 3:40;
>>>{9} Ephes 5:21-22; Matt 25:30-40;
>>>{10} Hebrews 11:13-16; 2 Cor 5:6-8, 20; Revelation 21:2-4, 10, 22-27- 22:5;
>>> {11} Luke 13:16; Luke 20:36; John 1:12; 12:15; Romans 8:16; 1 John 3:2;
>>> {12} Ephes 5:7-11; 1 Timothy 1:5; 3:9; 5:22; 1 John 3:3; James 4:8; Titus 2:5; Phil 1:10; 2:15;
>>>{13} Philippians 4:6-7;
>>>{14} Romans 14:5,23; 1 Corinthians 10:14-21;
>>>{15} 1 Timothy 2:11,12; Luke 22:24-26; John 13:5-15;
>>>{16} 1 Corinthians 11:1-10;
>>>{17} Strong's Greek: “pas” = in all, in
anything, in everything, always, every way, thoroughly;
Genesis 3:16; Ephes 5:22-24,33; 1 Peter 3:1-6, 13-17;
Hebrews 13:7, 17; Titus 2:4; Colos 3:18;
>>>{19} Gala 6:1; 2 Timothy 2:24-26; Matthew 18:15-17; 2 Thessalonians 3:6-14; and if that does not result in godly repentance then it becomes a matter of Matthew 18:17; 1 Corinthians 5:3-5,11; and the marriage instructions become 1 Cor 7:13-15;
>>>{20} Ephesians 2:1,2; 6:10-18; Mark 9:14-29 with Matthew 17:14-21 “prayer and fasting” in WEB + NKJV + YLT + GNV + WYC +NLV + DRBY [http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Mark%209&version=NLV;YLT;WEB;GNV;WYC].
[5] MARITAL CLEAVING, SEPARATION, DIVORCE AND REMARRIAGE
In the Word there is a double standard for husbands and wives. According to the Word, a genuinely believing wife can separate from or divorce her genuinely believing husband and either live in a celibately unmarried status, or be maritally reconciled to her husband; BUT under no circumstances should the genuinely believing husband lay aside, forsake, leave, &/or send away his genuinely believing wife{21}. The King’s command for the genuinely believing husband to not separate himself from (send away, forsake, lay aside, leave) his genuinely believing wife allows for no exceptions or exemptions {21&22}. Father does not command or instruct His people to divorce their mates in the New Testament/Covenant {21}. In the Old Testament/Covenant Father allowed the hardhearted {23} to divorce or repudiate their wives just as He allowed Pharaoh to harden his heart against Moses and the Israelites. God hates the breaking of wedding covenants, divorce, sending away or forsaking or laying aside or leaving one’s marital partner {23}. There are options for the godly husband in the event that his wife exercises her celibate separation option {21} or refuses to obey the Word about sexual intimacy in marriage {24}, but they are too controversial to deal with here. Contact the author for further information on these options {31}.
The godly couple accepts the King's command that people should not separate those who have been united maritally in the will of God, that a believing wife should not leave, depart or separate from her believing husband if they were both free in the Lord to marry each other when they married, or if they were saved after marrying each other. But if she does leave, depart, and/or separate from her believing husband (1 Cor 7:11), she must remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband; and a believing husband should not forsake, lay aside, leave, send away and/or divorce his own woman to whom he is bound in the Kingdom of God {22} even if there is sexual immorality involved. Sexual immorality by one or both of the married partners does not terminate the marriage {22} and should be handled in the manner given in Scripture {19}. The genuinely Jesus-believing wife is maritally bound to her genuinely Jesus-believing husband by God's Kingdom Law as long as he lives, even if they are separated or divorced or if there is sexual immorality involved, but if the husband dies, she is free to be married to whom she will, only provided that he too is in the Lord {22}. There are options for the godly husband in the event that his wife exercises her celibate separation option or refuses to obey the Word {24}, but they are too controversial to deal with here. Contact the author for further information on these options {37}
God's Word for believers who are
married to unbelievers is found in 1 Corinthians 7:11-21,39.
***10 I command the married —not I, but the Lord—a [believing] wife is not to leave, depart or separate from [Strong's 5563] her [believing] husband. 11 But if she does leave, depart, and/or separate [Strong's 5563], she must remain unmarried<Strong's 22> or be reconciled to her husband—and a [believing] husband/man should not forsake, lay aside, leave, put (send) away and/or divorce [Strong's 863] his wife/woman. . . . 12 But to the rest I, not the Lord, say: If any brother has an unbelieving wife/woman, and she is willing [consents, would like] to continue on occupying a house, residing , cohabiting and/or dwelling [Strong's 3611]> with him, he must not forsake, lay aside, leave, put (send) away, and/or remit [Strong's 863] her. 1 Cor 7:13 Also, if any woman has an unbelieving husband/man, and he is willing [consents, would like] to keep on occupying a house, residing , cohabiting and/or dwelling [3611] with her, she must not forsake, lay aside, leave, put (send) away [Strongs 863] her husband/man . . .15 But if the unbeliever leaves, departs and/or separates himself [Strong's 5563], he should go away/depart/separate/leave, [he should separate, make the separation]. A brother or a sister is not [morally, maritally] bound [like a slave] in such cases [in the Kingdom of God]. God has called you to peace. . . . 17 However, each one must live his life in the situation the Lord assigned when God called him. This is what I command in all the churches. . . 20 After God calls him, everyone should remain in the station or condition of life in which the summons [of God] found him. . . . 24 Brethren, each one is to remain with God in that condition in which he was called [by God]. . . . . .. . 27 Are you bound to a wife? Do not seek to be loosed. Are you loosed from a wife? Do not seek a wife. 28 But if you marry, you have not sinned. If a virgin marries, she has not sinned. . . . 39 A [believing] wife is bound to her [believing] husband by [God's] Law as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to be married to anyone she wants—only in the Lord.
Regarding the believing wife married to the unbeliever, if she does leave, depart, and/or separate from him while he still wants to keep on housing with her <Strong's 5563> 1Cor7:11, she must remain unmarried or be reconciled to her unsaved husband because he still wants to live/house with her, verse 11. So for the believing wife who has the unbelieving husband, verse 39 is changed in this way: 39 A [believing] wife is bound to her [unbelieving] husband by [God's] Law as long as he is willing [consents, would like] to keep on occupying a house, residing , cohabiting and/or dwelling [Strong's 3611] with her and he has not separated himself from her. But if her [unbelieving] husband is no longer willing [consenting, would like] to keep on occupying a house, residing , cohabiting and/or dwelling [Strong's 3611] with her and he has separated himself from her, she is free to be married to anyone she wants—only in the Lord.
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>>>{21} Matthew 19:6;
Mark 10:9-12; 1 Corinthians 7:10,11 (no buts, no ifs, no
exceptions for a believing couple, but recognizing the right
to divorce in the case of believer married to unbeliever
according to 1 Corinth 7:12-15)
>>>{22} Matthew 5:32; 19:1-9; Mark 10:6-12; Romans 7:1-3; 1 Corinthians 7:10,11,39 (no exceptions, no matter what has happened);
>>>{23} Deuteronomy 24:1-7; Matthew 19:1-9; Mark
10:6-12; Psalm 119:69-70;
Prov 28:14; Zech 7:12; Malachi 2:14-16; Ezekiel 2:4; 3:7;
17:15-20; Acts 28:27; Romans 2:5; Ephes 4:18; Heb 3:15;
7:18-19; Psalm 95:8
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-------------------------[6] MONEY AND FINANCES IN THE GODLY CHRISTIAN FAMILY
Since money and finances are among the leading causes of marital problems today, the married couple need to follow the directions given in the Word for managing their money and finances: [1] that money etc should serve them and be used by them as God's stewards according to the Word of God {25}; [2] that the financial goal for those in close fellowship (eating &/or staying together) is an equality, fairness and reciprocity, where when A has more than he needs he shares it with B, and when B has more than she needs she shares it with A {26a}; [3] that this should be true of every godly Christian marriage: “None of them said that any of their belongings were their own, but they all shared with one another everything they had” {26b}; [4] that when a couple has more than they need they acknowledge that one of the main reasons they have more than they need is so that they can be generous in “supplying the needs of the saints,” not in selfishly indulging themselves and living in pleasure {27}; [5] and that they should give priority to giving to and meeting the needs of those who teach the Word and minister to the needs of the saints {28}
Since the Tithe, the giving of a tenth of all one's income, was established before the Sinai Law{28b} and was practiced by Abraham{28c}, it appears that it would be the minimum of our giving. The only "storehouse" for the tithe given today is the storehouse{28d} established by each assembly of believers{28e}, since there is no more Temple in Jerusalem. Please note that the mandate is for meeting the needs of the PEOPLE in need, not for building buildings that are not NEEDED by the local assembly of believers. I believe it is a serious error for a local assembly to spend its money on buildings when the food, clothing and shelter needs{28f} of some of its members are not being met{28g}.
******2 Cor 8:13 It is not that there may be relief for others and hardship for you, but it is a question of equality. 14 At the present time your abundance will be for their need, in order that their abundance may also be for your need, so that there may be equality, 15 Even as it is written, “HE WHO GATHERED MUCH HAD NOT TOO MUCH, AND HE WHO GATHERED LITTLE HAD NOT TOO LITTLE.” [From WEY, YLT, ASB] . . . 9:10 Now the One who provides seed for the sower and bread for food will provide and multiply your seed and increase the harvest of your righteousness. 11 You will be enriched in every way, so that you can be generous in everything. And through us your generosity will cause people to thank God, 12 because the service of this ministry is not only supplying the needs of the saints, but also is overflowing through many expressions of thanksgiving to God. 13 In offering this service you prove to these people that you glorify God by actually doing what your acknowledgement of the Good News of the Messiah requires, namely, sharing generously with them and with everyone.
***6 But let him who is taught in the word share all good things with him who teaches. . . 10 So then, as often as we have the chance, we should do good to everyone, and especially to those who belong to our family in the faith. GNT Galatians 6
>>>{25} Luke 12:41-43;
>>>{26} 2 Corinthians 8:12-15; Acts 2:44-46; 4:32, 34,35; 1 Timothy 6:17-19;
>>>{27} 2 Corinthians 9: 6-15; 1 Timothy 5:6, 13; 6:17-19; 1 John 3:16-18; Matthew 25:31-46
>>>{28a} Galatians 6:6; 1 Corinthians 9:11, 14; Romans 15:27
>>>{28b} Leviticus 27:30; Malachi 3:7-12
>>>{28c} Hebrews 7:1-3
>>>{28d} Malachi 3:7-12
>>>{28e} Ephesians 2:19-22
>>>{28f} Exodus 21:10; Matthew 6:25-33; 1 Timothy 6:6-8
>>>{28g}1 John 3:16-18
[7] GODLY SEX IN A GODLY MARRIAGE
Because of and to avoid sexual immorality each man should be intimately experiencing his own woman, and each woman should be intimately experiencing her own man, the man understanding that it is his responsibility to be in complete ecstasy by means of her body, and the woman understanding that her responsibility is to welcome and encourage her own man to be in such ecstasy by her {29} The woman doesn't have sexual authority over her own body, but the husband does; in like manner also the man doesn't have sexual authority over his own body, but the woman does {30}. This is an example of when it is the husband’s responsibility to submit to his wife’s authority over his body (Ephes 5:21). Her authority over her husband's body has the same importance as any other Romans 13:1-5 authority Father has allowed to be over the husband, the local authorities and the national authorities. Now the wife doesn't carry a sword (Rom 13:4), but Father's angels do including the one ministering to the man's wife (Heb 1:14; 1 Cor 11:10), so it would be foolish for a man to not only risk not having his prayers heard (1 Peter 3:7) but also to risk his good health and well being (1 Cor 11:30-32). If Corinthian believers were unusually weak or sick, and some even dead, because they shamed the poor in their meetings, what does one think will happen if a husband wrongfully offends, stumbles and grieves his wife (Romans 14)?
>>>{29} 1 Corinthians 7:1-5; Proverbs 5:17-19;
>>>{30} 1 Corinthians 7:4,5; Romans 13:1,2
God says "21 Submit to one another in fear of the Messiah." <Ephes 5> "In the same way, a husband does not have the right over his own body, but his wife does (HCSB). . . . the husband is not in charge of his own body, but his wife is (CJB). . . . the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does (ESV). . . a husband is not the master of his own body, but his wife is (GNT). . . the husband [anēr] does [exousiazō] not [ou] have authority [exousiazō] over his own body [sōma], but the wife [gynē] does (Mounce Greek).”{30} Clearly the wife has the right over her husband's body and he should submit to her right, she is in charge of his body and he should submit to her charge, she has the God ordained and appointed authority {30} over his body and her husband should submit to her authority, she is the master of his body and he should submit to her mastering. "21 Submit to one another in fear of the Messiah." <Ephes 5> "Skin hunger" is a valid psychological and physical condition (http://www.psychologytoday.com/.../201308/skin-hunger) and if a wife is suffering from skin hunger she has the right and authority to expect her husband to submit to her authority over his body and, if nothing more, at least lay together naked, skin to skin, to satisfy her need of skin hunger. She has authority to require much more, for example her husband's obedience {30}. - - - - - -
In exercising their right to and over the body of their mates {30}, both of the mates come under the same commands that all godly rulers and leaders come under in the use of their authority, e.g. [1] Serve their mates with fear and trembling before the Lord {31}; [2] Exercising their authority over their mate’s body not to selfishly please oneself but to do it as God’s will sincerely from the heart with a good and enthusiastic attitude {32}; [3] Knowing that whatever good the mate does in her/his authority over her/his body he/she will receive good back from the Lord {33}; [4] Avoiding threatening and manipulation {31}; [5] Using her/his authority over her/his mate’s body with justice and fairness {34}; [6] Abiding by all of the Spirit's instructions {2}; [6] Settling disputes by using the age old tradition of casting or drawing lots to settle differences and conflicts {35}. Such a family that Loves Jesus shows that Love by kindly, unselfishly, generously and patiently Loving each other, so when they see each others’ need, they do what they can to meet that need {36}.
>>>{30} 1 Corinthians 7:4,5; Romans 13:1,2
>>>{31} Ephes 6:5,9; Colos 3:22
>>>{32} Ephes 6:6,7,9; Colos 3:22;)
>>>{33} Ephes 6:8,9; Colos 3:24)
>>>{34} Colos 4:1)
>>>{35} 1 Chron 25:8; Neh 11:1; Prov 16:33; 18:18; Acts 1:26)
>>>{36} 1 Jn3:17-19; Eph 4)
The sexual ministry of the husband to the wife and of the wife to the husband should be embraced wholeheartedly and enthusiastically because it is a ministry to save one's mate from sexual immorality, from the sexual temptations with which the evil ones try to destroy the work and power of God's Spirit in your mate's life. That ministry should be done as if Jesus Himself tells you to do it for Him personally, a big "I Love You Jesus" act of obedience showing Jesus how much you Love Him.
***23 Whatever may be your task, work at it heartily and enthusiastically (from the soul), as [something done] for the Lord and not for men, Colossians 3:23 AnpB, HCSB
***1 Corinth 7: 1* ¶ But concerning the things of which you have written to me: It is good for a male not to continue -keep on - touching a woman; 2 but because of [and to avoid] sexual immorality each man should be [sexually] having his own<1438> woman, and each woman should be [sexually] having her own<2398> man. . . 5 Do not be denying each other [sexually], unless, it may be, by consent for a time, that you may devote yourselves to fasting and prayer, and again be conjugally cohabiting [sexually reuniting], that Satan might not tempt you because of your failure to control yourself.
***John 1415 If you Love me, keep my commandments.
These are God's commands, so if the husband isn't sexually having his own woman, the wife is still under command to be sexually having her own man, or at least to be making a good effort to try to do so.
***Prov. "5:18 [The issue of] your fountain<4726> should be blessed; and rejoice and be glad with the wife of your youth. 19 . . . her breasts should satisfy/intoxicate/saturate you at all times; you should be intoxicated continually with her affectionate loving."
That means the wife lets the husband know that he is welcome to delight in her breasts, that she encourages and allows him to satisfy/intoxicate/saturate himself by means of her breasts, that he is welcome to delight in her affectionate loving, and that she encourages and allows him to be intoxicated continually with her affectionate loving.
***1 Cor 7:3 The husband should be rendering unto the wife [the] kindness, intimate marital duty, benevolence and good will <Strong's 2133> [that is] due, owed and obligated <Strong's 3784> ; and likewise also the wife [should be rendering the kindness, intimate marital duty, benevolence and good will that is due, owed and obligated] unto the husband.
***Eccles 9:9 Enjoy life with your wife, whom you love, all the days of this vainly fleeting life that God has given you [in your body] under the sun— all your vainly fleeting days. For this is your lot in life and in your toilsome labor under the sun.
***1 Cor 7:4. The woman doesn't have [sexual] authority over her own body, but the husband [does]; in like manner also the man doesn't have [sexual] authority over his own body, but the woman [does].
In the Bible's Song of Solomon the Spirit of God gives us an example of body preparation for marital intimacy, an example that every husband and wife would be wise to follow to enrich their experience in their intimacy and reinforce its bonding effect in their hearts and minds. The importance of the wife’s preparation of her body for intimacy, from the Bible's Song of Solomon:
***Song 1:2 [Wife]
He should kiss me with the kisses of his mouth!
For your loving is better than wine; . . .
3.Your ointments smell sweetly; . .
4. Lead [me], drawing me along! . . .
12 While the king sat at his table,
my perfume spread its fragrance. . . .
13 My lover is to me a sachet of myrrh
resting between my breasts.
2:6 [Wife]His left hand is under my head,
and his right hand embraces me! . . .
14 . . . Let me see your face.
Let me hear your voice;
for your voice is sweet,
and your face is lovely. . . .
17 Until the day breathes
and the shadows flee,
turn, my beloved, be like a gazelle
or a young stag on the divided mountains [her breasts].
3:4[WIFE] Scarcely had I passed them
when I found him whom my soul loves.
I held him, and would not let him go . . . .
4: [HUSBAND] 1Behold, you are beautiful, my love,
behold, you are beautiful [to me]! . . .
2 Your teeth are like a newly shorn flock,
which have come up from the washing, . . .
5 Your two breasts are like two fawns,
like twin fawns of a gazelle
that browse among the lilies.
6 Until the day breaks
and the shadows flee,
I will go to the mountain of myrrh [one of her breasts]
and to the hill of incense [her other breast ]. . . .
10How beautiful is your loving, my sister, my bride!
How much better is your loving than wine,
and the fragrance of your oils than any spice!
11Your lips drip nectar, my bride;
honey and milk are under your tongue;
the fragrance of your garments is like the fragrance of Lebanon. . .
13 Your branches [arms and legs] are a paradise of pomegranates
with choicest fruits,
henna with nard—
14 nard and saffron, calamus and cinnamon,
with all the trees of frankincense,
myrrh and aloes,
with all the best spices [available at most supermarkets]. . . .
[WIFE]4:16 Awaken, north wind—
come, south wind.
Blow on my garden [her body],
and spread the fragrance of its spices.
My love should come to his garden [HER]
and eat its choicest fruits.
5:[HUSBAND] 1 I have come to my garden—my sister, my bride.
I gather my myrrh with my spices [4:6].
I eat my honeycomb with my honey. [4:11]
I drink my wine with my milk. . . . [4:10,11]
[WIFE] 5 I rose to open for my love.
My hands dripped with myrrh,
my fingers with flowing myrrh . . .
7: [HUSBAND]
6 How beautiful you are and how pleasing,
O love, with your delights!
7 Your stature is like that of the palm,
and your breasts like clusters of fruit.
8 I said, "I will climb the palm tree;
I will take hold of its fruit [her breasts]."
May your breasts be like the clusters of the vine,
your breath as fragrant as apples,
9 And your mouth like the best wine.
8:[WIFE] 3 His left hand is under my head,
and his right hand embraces me. . . .
14 Come away, my lover,
and be like a gazelle
or like a young stag
on the spice-laden mountains [her breasts; Prov 5:19].
We have the example of the working lady’s preparation for a very important meeting with the man she hopes to marry, in the history of Ruth and Boaz, when Naomi gave Ruth the following advice:
***Ruth 3:3 Wash, put on perfumed oil, and wear your best clothes. . . .
From the Bible's book of Esther. Here the king provided her with the oils, perfumes and cosmetics that were pleasing to him and her. King Solomon provided his Shulamite with these, as seen in Song 4:6-14 above. I believe the wise husband should do the same
***Esther 2: 9 The girl pleased him and won his favor. Immediately he provided her with her beauty treatments and special food. . . . 12 Before a girl's turn came to go in to King Xerxes, she had to complete twelve months of beauty treatments prescribed for the women, six months with oil of myrrh and six with perfumes and cosmetics.
>>>The importance of the husband’s preparation of his body for intimacy, from the Bible's Song of Solomon
1:3 Your anointing oils have a wonderful fragrance;
your name is like anointing oil poured out.
This is why young women love you — . . .
3:6 Who is this coming out of the wilderness
Like pillars of smoke,
Perfumed with myrrh and frankincense,
With all the merchant’s fragrant powders?
7 Behold, it is Solomon’s couch/litter,
With sixty valiant men around it,
Of the valiant of Israel. . . .
[WIFE]5:13 His cheeks are like a bed of spices
with mounds of perfumes.
His lips are like lilies, dropping liquid myrrh.
16 His mouth is sweetness.
He is absolutely desirable. . . .
The godly couple should not be denying each other sexually, unless, it may be, by mutual consent for a time, that they may devote themselves to fasting and prayer, and again be sexually reuniting maritally, that Satan might not tempt them {30}. If a mate keeps on denying or defrauding his/her mate in their sexual intimacy, they should deal with that sin in the manner given in the Word{19}.
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>>>{29} 1 Corinthians 7:1-5; Proverbs 5:17-19;
>>>{30} 1 Corinthians 7:4,5; Romans 13:1,2
>>>{31} Ephes
6:5,9; Colos 3:22
>>>{32} Ephes
6:6,7,9; Colos 3:22;)
>>>{33} Ephes
6:8,9; Colos 3:24)
>>>{34} Colos
4:1)
>>>{35} 1
Chron 25:8; Neh 11:1; Prov 16:33; 18:18; Acts 1:26)
>>>{36} 1
Jn3:17-19; Eph 4)
>>>{37} 1 Corinthians 7:1-5
>>>{38} Gala 6:1; 2 Timothy 2:24-26; Matthew 18:15-17; 2 Thessalonians 3:6-14; and if that does not result in godly repentance then it becomes a matter of Matthew 18:17; 1 Corinthians 5:3-5,11; and the marriage instructions become 1 Cor 7:13-15;
>>>{39} Ephesians 2:1,2; 6:10-18; Mark 9:14-29 with Matthew 17:14-21 “prayer and fasting” in WEB + NKJV + YLT + GNV + WYC +NLV + DRBY [http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Mark%209&version=NLV;YLT;WEB;GNV;WYC].
===================== FOOTNOTES ====================
>>>{1} Ephes 5:21
>>>{2} Romans 12: 9-21; Philippians 2:13; 4:13; Hebrews 13:20,21;
>>>{3a} Ephesians 2:8,9; 3:14-18,19; Philippians 2:13; 4:13; Hebrews 13:20,21; Judges 7:1-3; 1 Samuel 17:46-48; 2 Chron 20:14-16; 32:7-9; Prov 21:30-31; Romans 6:6,8-13
>>>{3b} Luke 22:23-26; 1 Timothy 2:11,12; Ephes 5:33; 1 Peter 2:13-3:1-6
>>>{4} 1 Peter 5:1-3; Luke 22:24-27; Ephes 6:6-9; Mark 9:35; John 13:5-15; 3 John 9;
>>>{5} Genesis 3:16; Ephes
5:22-24,33; 1 Peter 3:1-6, 13-17; Hebrews 13:7, 17;
Titus 2:4; Colos 3:18;
>>>{6} 1 Corinthians
7:7,8,24-35;
>>>{7} Matthew 28:19,20; Ephes 5:19,20,25,26;
>>>{8} 1 Thessalonians 5:21; 1 John 4:1; Romans 12:2; Galatians 6:4; 1 Corinthians 11:28-31; 2 Corinthians 13:5; Lament 3:40;
>>>{9} Ephes 5:21-22; Matt 25:30-40;
>>>{10} Hebrews 11:13-16; 2 Cor 5:6-8, 20; Revelation 21:2-4, 10, 22-27- 22:5;
>>> {11} Luke 13:16; Luke 20:36; John 1:12; 12:15; Romans 8:16; 1 John 3:2;
>>> {12} Ephes 5:7-11; 1 Timothy 1:5; 3:9; 5:22; 1 John 3:3; James 4:8; Titus 2:5; Phil 1:10; 2:15;
>>>{13} Philippians 4:6-7;
>>>{14} Romans 14:5,23; 1 Corinthians 10:14-21;
>>>{15} 1 Timothy 2:11,12; Luke 22:24-26; John 13:5-15;
>>>{16} 1 Corinthians 11:1-10;
>>>{17} Strong's Greek: “pas” = in all, in anything, in everything, always, every way, thoroughly; Genesis 3:16; Ephes 5:22-24,33; 1 Peter 3:1-6, 13-17; Hebrews 13:7, 17; Titus 2:4; Colos 3:18;
>>>{18} Ephes 5:22; Matt 25:30-40;
>>>{19} Gala 6:1; 2 Timothy 2:24-26; Matthew 18:15-17; 2 Thessalonians 3:6-14; and if that does not result in godly repentance then it becomes a matter of Matthew 18:17; 1 Corinthians 5:3-5,11; and the marriage instructions become 1 Cor 7:13-15;
>>>{20} Ephesians 2:1,2; 6:10-18; Mark 9:14-29 with Matthew 17:14-21 “prayer and fasting” in WEB + NKJV + YLT + GNV + WYC +NLV + DRBY [http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Mark%209&version=NLV;YLT;WEB;GNV;WYC].
>>>{21} Matthew 19:6; Mark 10:9-12; 1 Corinthians 7:10,11
(no buts, no ifs, no exceptions for a believing couple, but
recognizing the right to divorce in the case of believer
married to unbeliever according to 1 Corinth 7:12-15)
>>>{22} Matthew 5:32; 19:1-9; Mark 10:6-12; Romans 7:1-3; 1 Corinthians 7:10,11,39 (no exceptions, no matter what has happened);
>>>{23} Deuteronomy 24:1-7; Matthew 19:1-9; Mark 10:6-12; Psalm 119:69-70; Prov 28:14; Zech 7:12; Malachi 2:14-16; Ezekiel 2:4; 3:7; 17:15-20; Acts 28:27; Romans 2:5; Ephes 4:18; Heb 3:15; 7:18-19; Psalm 95:8
>>>{24} in 1 Corinthians 7:1-11 & Prov 5:19
>>>{25} Luke 12:41-43;
>>>{26} 2 Corinthians 8:12-15; Acts 2:44-46; 4:32, 34,35; 1 Timothy 6:17-19;
>>>{27} 2 Corinthians 9: 6-15; 1 Timothy 5:6, 13; 6:17-19; 1 John 3:16-18; Matthew 25:31-46
>>>{28} Galatians 6:6; 1 Corinthians 9:11, 14; Romans 15:27
>>>{29}
1 Corinthians
7:1-5; Proverbs 5:17-19;
>>>{30} 1 Corinthians 7:4,5; Romans 13:1,2
>>>{31} Ephes
6:5,9; Colos 3:22
>>>{32} Ephes
6:6,7,9; Colos 3:22;)
>>>{33} Ephes
6:8,9; Colos 3:24)
>>>{34} Colos
4:1)
>>>{35} 1
Chron 25:8; Neh 11:1; Prov 16:33; 18:18; Acts 1:26)
>>>{36} 1
Jn3:17-19; Eph 4)
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