What is God’s Word To A Believer About Divorce?
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What is God’s Word To A Believer About Divorce?
By R Tyler 8/14/22
https://www.tapatalk.com/groups/biblicalmaturity/what-is-god-s-word-to-a-believer-about-divorce-t347.html
I heard a radio “Bible Answer Man” give a horrible answer to a listener’s question about divorce and remarriage that would lead the listener to live in adultery while thinking she was living in God’s will.
So I wrote this document to give what I understand to be the Bible’s answer to divorce and remarriage questions. Please do 1 Thessalonians 5:21,22.
***Jesus Mark 10:2 Some Pharisees approached Him [Jesus]to test Him. They asked, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife?” 3 He replied to them, “What did Moses command you?” 4 They said, “Moses permitted us to write divorce papers and send her away.” [Deuteronomy 24] 5 But Jesus told them, “He wrote this command [Deut 24] for you because of the hardness of your hearts. 6 But from the beginning of creation God made them male and female. 7 For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, 8 and the two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one flesh. 9 Therefore what God has joined together, mankind must not separate.”
10 In the house His disciples asked Him concerning this matter again. 11 He said to them, “Whoever divorces, dismisses, sends away, releases and/or repudiates [https://www.blueletterbible.org/lexicon/g630/nkjv/tr/0-1/] his wife and marries another commits adultery against her. 12 And if a woman divorces, dismisses, sends away, releases and/or repudiates [https://www.blueletterbible.org/lexicon/g630/nkjv/tr/0-1/] her husband and marries another, she commits adultery.”
***Matthew 5:32 But I tell you, everyone who divorces, dismisses, sends away, releases and/or repudiates [https://www.blueletterbible.org/lexicon/g630/nkjv/tr/0-1/] his wife, except in a case of sexual immorality, causes her to commit adultery. And whoever marries a divorced, dismissed, sent away, released and/or repudiated [https://www.blueletterbible.org/lexicon/g630/nkjv/tr/0-1/] woman commits adultery. . . .19:9 And I tell you, whoever divorces, dismisses, sends away, releases and/or repudiates [https://www.blueletterbible.org/lexicon/g630/nkjv/tr/0-1/] his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery.
Comment: Please notice that these are not commands to divorce/dismiss and not permission to divorce/dismiss one’s mate. They are statements of fact about one who has disobeyed the command of King Jesus to not separate and divorced/dismissed one’s mate Why is it adultery to marry a sinfully divorced/dismissed wife? Because she is still maritally bound to the husband who divorced/dismissed her.
In the New Testament of Jesus Christ there is no command, there are no instructions, to divorce one’s mate for adultery or desertion. The instructions for dealing with the adultery or desertion of a mate are in Galatians 6:1; 2 Timothy 2:24-26; Matthew 18:15-17 and 1 Corinthians 5:3-5,11
The Spirit of God by the Apostle Paul
***Romans 7:Since I am speaking to those who understand law, brothers, are you unaware that the Law [of God] has authority over someone as long as he lives? 2 For example, a married woman is legally bound to her husband while he lives. But if her husband dies, she is released from the Law regarding the husband. 3 So then, if she gives herself to another man while her husband is living, she will be called an adulteress. But if her husband dies, she is free from that Law. Then, if she gives herself to another man, she is not an adulteress.
***1Corinthians 7:10 I command the married—not I, but the Lord—a wife is not to leave her husband. 11 But if she does leave/separate<G5563>, she must remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband—and a husband is not to leave, send away or bid depart<G863> his wife. 12 But I (not the Lord) say to the rest: If any brother has an unbelieving wife and she is willing to live with him, he must not leave her. 13 Also, if any woman has an unbelieving husband and he is willing to live with her, she must not leave her husband. . . .15 But if the unbeliever leaves, let him leave<G5563>. A brother or a sister is not bound in such cases. God has called you to live in peace. . . . 39 The wife is bound by the Law [of God] as long as her husband lives. But if her husband dies, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will, but only in the Lord.
<G5563> https://www.blueletterbible.org/lexicon/g5563/kjv/tr/0-1/
<G863> https://www.blueletterbible.org/lexicon/g863/kjv/tr/0-1/
So the Word of King Jesus does not authorize a married couple to separate, except for when a wife celibately separates or when an unbeliever leaves and no longer wants to live with a believer and separates from the believer.
What if a believer has wrongfully separated from or divorced a mate? Such a believer agrees with God about the sin, confesses the sin and forsakes the sin, stops doing the sin.
***Proverbs 28:13 The one who conceals his sins will not prosper, but whoever confesses and renounces them will find mercy.
***1 John 1:9 If we confess and agree <G3670> with [God] about our sins, He is faithful and righteous to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
<G3670> https://www.blueletterbible.org/lexicon/g3670/kjv/tr/0-1/
***2 Corinthians 7:8 For even if I grieved you with my letter, I do not regret it—even though I did regret it since I saw that the letter grieved you, yet only for a little while. 9 Now I rejoice, not because you were grieved, but because your grief led to repentance. For you were grieved as God willed, so that you didn’t experience any loss from us. 10 For godly grief produces a repentance not to be regretted and leading to salvation, but worldly grief produces death. 11 For consider how much diligence this very thing—this grieving as God wills—has produced in you: what a desire to clear yourselves, what indignation, what fear, what deep longing, what zeal, what justice! In every way you showed yourselves to be pure in this matter.
So what is the application of all of this?
1a. I accept Jesus Word in Matthew 19:1-10 and Mark 10:1-12 that the divorce and remarriage regulations of Deuteronomy 24 are null and void and have been returned to the original Word, Deut 24 falling far short of the glory of God.
1b. Given the believing woman is free to marry a believing man who is free to marry her. What does God in the Bible say about the believing woman who divorced her believing husband, with whom she had two kids, and then went on and married another believer and had two more kids with him? If she repents, what does she do to repent?
1c RT: I believe that since she is maritally bound to the believing husband, as long as they both live, she rounds up her two new kids, by her new husband, and takes the four of them back to live married to her first believing husband. The courts may decide who gets the kids.
2a****MATT. 5:32* But I say to you that whoever shall put away his wife, except for the cause of fornication, causes her to commit adultery. And whoever shall marry her [who is put away or divorced] commits adultery.
2b What should a believing and divorced mother of two do who marries a believer? If she repents, what does she do to repent if she feels it is necessary? What does he do to repent if he feels it is necessary?
2c. I believe that since as a believer she is maritally bound to her first believing husband, as long as they both live, she rounds up her two new kids by her new husband, and takes the four of of her kids back to live married to her first believing husband.
3a***Mt19:9* And I tell you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except her unfaithfulness, and marries another woman, commits adultery.”
3b What should a believing married mother do if she married a believer who had divorced his believing wife for irreconcilable differences, not for immorality?
3c. Her believing husband is maritally bound in God's Kingdom to two women. Please contact the author for the Scriptures that deal with this situation at elkana...@gmail.com, oldse...@gmail.com
4a***Rom 7:2 For the married woman is bound by Law [of God] to her husband while he is living; but if her husband dies, she is released from the Law concerning the husband. 3 So then, if while her husband is living she is joined to another man, she shall be called an adulteress; But if the husband dies, she is free from the Law, so that she is no adulteress, though she is joined to another man.
4a***1 Cor 7:11 But if she does leave/separate<G5563>, she must remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband—and a husband is not to leave, send away or bid depart<G863> his wife. . . 39 A wife is bound by Law for as long as her husband lives; but if the husband is dead, she is free to be married to whomever she desires, only in the Lord.
4b In the case where both were saved and free in the Lord to marry, what should the wife do who divorced her believing husband and married another and had children with the second husband?
4c. Since she is maritally bound in the Kingdom of God to her first believing husband, she should take her children and return with the children to the believing husband she left and divorced. Please contact the author for the Scriptures that deal with this situation at elkana...@gmail.com, oldse...@gmail.com
5a***1 Corinthians 7:12 To the rest I, and not the Lord, speak. If any brother has a wife who does not believe, if she is content to dwell with him, he should not put her away. 13 And the woman who has an unbelieving husband, if he consents to dwell with her, she should not put him away.
5b What should believers do who divorced their unsaved mates who still consented and are content to dwell with the believers who divorced them, the unsaved mates?
5c. Since the unbelievers still consented and were content to dwell with the believers who left (1 Co7:12,13) and since the unbelievers did not make the separation, the believers are still maritally bound to the unbelievers and should return to the their unbelieving mates.
By R Tyler 8/14/22
https://www.tapatalk.com/groups/biblicalmaturity/what-is-god-s-word-to-a-believer-about-divorce-t347.html
I heard a radio “Bible Answer Man” give a horrible answer to a listener’s question about divorce and remarriage that would lead the listener to live in adultery while thinking she was living in God’s will.
So I wrote this document to give what I understand to be the Bible’s answer to divorce and remarriage questions. Please do 1 Thessalonians 5:21,22.
***Jesus Mark 10:2 Some Pharisees approached Him [Jesus]to test Him. They asked, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife?” 3 He replied to them, “What did Moses command you?” 4 They said, “Moses permitted us to write divorce papers and send her away.” [Deuteronomy 24] 5 But Jesus told them, “He wrote this command [Deut 24] for you because of the hardness of your hearts. 6 But from the beginning of creation God made them male and female. 7 For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, 8 and the two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one flesh. 9 Therefore what God has joined together, mankind must not separate.”
10 In the house His disciples asked Him concerning this matter again. 11 He said to them, “Whoever divorces, dismisses, sends away, releases and/or repudiates [https://www.blueletterbible.org/lexicon/g630/nkjv/tr/0-1/] his wife and marries another commits adultery against her. 12 And if a woman divorces, dismisses, sends away, releases and/or repudiates [https://www.blueletterbible.org/lexicon/g630/nkjv/tr/0-1/] her husband and marries another, she commits adultery.”
***Matthew 5:32 But I tell you, everyone who divorces, dismisses, sends away, releases and/or repudiates [https://www.blueletterbible.org/lexicon/g630/nkjv/tr/0-1/] his wife, except in a case of sexual immorality, causes her to commit adultery. And whoever marries a divorced, dismissed, sent away, released and/or repudiated [https://www.blueletterbible.org/lexicon/g630/nkjv/tr/0-1/] woman commits adultery. . . .19:9 And I tell you, whoever divorces, dismisses, sends away, releases and/or repudiates [https://www.blueletterbible.org/lexicon/g630/nkjv/tr/0-1/] his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery.
Comment: Please notice that these are not commands to divorce/dismiss and not permission to divorce/dismiss one’s mate. They are statements of fact about one who has disobeyed the command of King Jesus to not separate and divorced/dismissed one’s mate Why is it adultery to marry a sinfully divorced/dismissed wife? Because she is still maritally bound to the husband who divorced/dismissed her.
In the New Testament of Jesus Christ there is no command, there are no instructions, to divorce one’s mate for adultery or desertion. The instructions for dealing with the adultery or desertion of a mate are in Galatians 6:1; 2 Timothy 2:24-26; Matthew 18:15-17 and 1 Corinthians 5:3-5,11
The Spirit of God by the Apostle Paul
***Romans 7:Since I am speaking to those who understand law, brothers, are you unaware that the Law [of God] has authority over someone as long as he lives? 2 For example, a married woman is legally bound to her husband while he lives. But if her husband dies, she is released from the Law regarding the husband. 3 So then, if she gives herself to another man while her husband is living, she will be called an adulteress. But if her husband dies, she is free from that Law. Then, if she gives herself to another man, she is not an adulteress.
***1Corinthians 7:10 I command the married—not I, but the Lord—a wife is not to leave her husband. 11 But if she does leave/separate<G5563>, she must remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband—and a husband is not to leave, send away or bid depart<G863> his wife. 12 But I (not the Lord) say to the rest: If any brother has an unbelieving wife and she is willing to live with him, he must not leave her. 13 Also, if any woman has an unbelieving husband and he is willing to live with her, she must not leave her husband. . . .15 But if the unbeliever leaves, let him leave<G5563>. A brother or a sister is not bound in such cases. God has called you to live in peace. . . . 39 The wife is bound by the Law [of God] as long as her husband lives. But if her husband dies, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will, but only in the Lord.
<G5563> https://www.blueletterbible.org/lexicon/g5563/kjv/tr/0-1/
<G863> https://www.blueletterbible.org/lexicon/g863/kjv/tr/0-1/
So the Word of King Jesus does not authorize a married couple to separate, except for when a wife celibately separates or when an unbeliever leaves and no longer wants to live with a believer and separates from the believer.
What if a believer has wrongfully separated from or divorced a mate? Such a believer agrees with God about the sin, confesses the sin and forsakes the sin, stops doing the sin.
***Proverbs 28:13 The one who conceals his sins will not prosper, but whoever confesses and renounces them will find mercy.
***1 John 1:9 If we confess and agree <G3670> with [God] about our sins, He is faithful and righteous to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
<G3670> https://www.blueletterbible.org/lexicon/g3670/kjv/tr/0-1/
***2 Corinthians 7:8 For even if I grieved you with my letter, I do not regret it—even though I did regret it since I saw that the letter grieved you, yet only for a little while. 9 Now I rejoice, not because you were grieved, but because your grief led to repentance. For you were grieved as God willed, so that you didn’t experience any loss from us. 10 For godly grief produces a repentance not to be regretted and leading to salvation, but worldly grief produces death. 11 For consider how much diligence this very thing—this grieving as God wills—has produced in you: what a desire to clear yourselves, what indignation, what fear, what deep longing, what zeal, what justice! In every way you showed yourselves to be pure in this matter.
So what is the application of all of this?
1a. I accept Jesus Word in Matthew 19:1-10 and Mark 10:1-12 that the divorce and remarriage regulations of Deuteronomy 24 are null and void and have been returned to the original Word, Deut 24 falling far short of the glory of God.
1b. Given the believing woman is free to marry a believing man who is free to marry her. What does God in the Bible say about the believing woman who divorced her believing husband, with whom she had two kids, and then went on and married another believer and had two more kids with him? If she repents, what does she do to repent?
1c RT: I believe that since she is maritally bound to the believing husband, as long as they both live, she rounds up her two new kids, by her new husband, and takes the four of them back to live married to her first believing husband. The courts may decide who gets the kids.
2a****MATT. 5:32* But I say to you that whoever shall put away his wife, except for the cause of fornication, causes her to commit adultery. And whoever shall marry her [who is put away or divorced] commits adultery.
2b What should a believing and divorced mother of two do who marries a believer? If she repents, what does she do to repent if she feels it is necessary? What does he do to repent if he feels it is necessary?
2c. I believe that since as a believer she is maritally bound to her first believing husband, as long as they both live, she rounds up her two new kids by her new husband, and takes the four of of her kids back to live married to her first believing husband.
3a***Mt19:9* And I tell you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except her unfaithfulness, and marries another woman, commits adultery.”
3b What should a believing married mother do if she married a believer who had divorced his believing wife for irreconcilable differences, not for immorality?
3c. Her believing husband is maritally bound in God's Kingdom to two women. Please contact the author for the Scriptures that deal with this situation at elkana...@gmail.com, oldse...@gmail.com
4a***Rom 7:2 For the married woman is bound by Law [of God] to her husband while he is living; but if her husband dies, she is released from the Law concerning the husband. 3 So then, if while her husband is living she is joined to another man, she shall be called an adulteress; But if the husband dies, she is free from the Law, so that she is no adulteress, though she is joined to another man.
4a***1 Cor 7:11 But if she does leave/separate<G5563>, she must remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband—and a husband is not to leave, send away or bid depart<G863> his wife. . . 39 A wife is bound by Law for as long as her husband lives; but if the husband is dead, she is free to be married to whomever she desires, only in the Lord.
4b In the case where both were saved and free in the Lord to marry, what should the wife do who divorced her believing husband and married another and had children with the second husband?
4c. Since she is maritally bound in the Kingdom of God to her first believing husband, she should take her children and return with the children to the believing husband she left and divorced. Please contact the author for the Scriptures that deal with this situation at elkana...@gmail.com, oldse...@gmail.com
5a***1 Corinthians 7:12 To the rest I, and not the Lord, speak. If any brother has a wife who does not believe, if she is content to dwell with him, he should not put her away. 13 And the woman who has an unbelieving husband, if he consents to dwell with her, she should not put him away.
5b What should believers do who divorced their unsaved mates who still consented and are content to dwell with the believers who divorced them, the unsaved mates?
5c. Since the unbelievers still consented and were content to dwell with the believers who left (1 Co7:12,13) and since the unbelievers did not make the separation, the believers are still maritally bound to the unbelievers and should return to the their unbelieving mates.
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