The Power of Blending In
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Casino Wolf
Apr 1, 2008, 5:54:42 AM4/1/08
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Hello,
I practice NLP from time to time, and I have a question as I still
consider myself a newbie so here goes...
Suppose, what a person wants are A, B, and C (they could be ideas,
concepts, goals, plans, etc.). You, on the other hand, prefer D and
E. The only problem is that if you bring up D and E, you'd be facing
hostility. So, was wondering if you somehow came up with a way to
blend-in D and E with A, B, and C, would D and E meet more
acceptance? For instance, you could say something like: "Yeah, I
agree with you; people should really be A, or at least do some B, C, D
or E." In other words, A, B, and C have certain qualities for the
person, and what you're doing is that your rating your D and E "up
there", putting it on par with A, B, and C.
Would like to hear some feedback on this idea. Thanks,
C.W.
I practice NLP from time to time, and I have a question as I still
consider myself a newbie so here goes...
Suppose, what a person wants are A, B, and C (they could be ideas,
concepts, goals, plans, etc.). You, on the other hand, prefer D and
E. The only problem is that if you bring up D and E, you'd be facing
hostility. So, was wondering if you somehow came up with a way to
blend-in D and E with A, B, and C, would D and E meet more
acceptance? For instance, you could say something like: "Yeah, I
agree with you; people should really be A, or at least do some B, C, D
or E." In other words, A, B, and C have certain qualities for the
person, and what you're doing is that your rating your D and E "up
there", putting it on par with A, B, and C.
Would like to hear some feedback on this idea. Thanks,
C.W.
Chris
Apr 1, 2008, 6:14:16 AM4/1/08
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Hello,
I suggest that rather than get caught up with the content and the
conflict use the nlp negotiation model. As one step for each persons
proposal(s) find the intention. If you can find matching or agreeable
intentions then both parties can search for possible proposals that
they both agree with the meet the intention.
Chris Collingwood
I suggest that rather than get caught up with the content and the
conflict use the nlp negotiation model. As one step for each persons
proposal(s) find the intention. If you can find matching or agreeable
intentions then both parties can search for possible proposals that
they both agree with the meet the intention.
Chris Collingwood
Kristian Townsend
Apr 1, 2008, 6:17:30 AM4/1/08
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Sounds like B S to me
Casino Wolf
Apr 1, 2008, 7:48:31 PM4/1/08
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Well, one thing's for certain: NEVER, ever, apply or support D and E
as punishment (i.e. If you don't ___ , I will do D and E). That'll
just create undesired anchors.
C.W.
On Apr 1, 3:17 am, "Kristian Townsend" <kristian.towns...@gmail.com>
wrote:
as punishment (i.e. If you don't ___ , I will do D and E). That'll
just create undesired anchors.
C.W.
On Apr 1, 3:17 am, "Kristian Townsend" <kristian.towns...@gmail.com>
wrote:
> Sounds like B S to me
>
> On Tue, Apr 1, 2008 at 8:54 PM, Casino Wolf <dumpjunkmailh...@yahoo.com>
>
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