Next NEHPG meeting
c.h.b...@googlemail.com
Next scheduled meeting is scheduled for the 21st January folks.
Looking foreward to topics for the agenda folks,
My best,
Chris
Matthew Hudson
Ideomotor signals and Six Step Reframing
Six Step Re-Framing
1) Identify the behaviour (x) to be changed
2) Establish communication with the part responsible for the behaviour
a. "Will the part of me responsible for behaviour (x) communicate with
me in consciousness?"
b. Establish the yes/no meaning of the signal
3) Distinguish between the behaviour (x) and the intention of the part
that is responsible for the behaviour
a. "Would you be willing to let me know in consciousness what you are
trying to do for me by behaviour (x)?"
b. If yes - ask the part to go ahead and communicate its intention - Is
that intention acceptable to the consciousness?
c. If no - do you agree to trust that your unconscious has some
well-intentioned and positive purpose for you, even though it won't tell you
at this moment?
4) Create new alternative behaviours to satisfy the intention.
Accepting that there is a part of you that comes up with new ideas, at the
unconscious level get the part that runs behaviour (x) to communicate with
the creative part and generate at least 3 new alternative behaviours, that
satisfy to the same or greater degree the intention that behaviour (x)
currently satisfies.
When complete have your unconscious give a "yes" signal
5) Ask the part "Are you willing to take full responsibility for
implementing if not all at least one of these new alternative behaviours in
the appropriate contexts?"
Let your unconscious mind identify the cues that will trigger the new
choices and experience fully what it feels like to effortlessly and
automatically have those new choices become available in those contexts.
6) Ecological check - "Is there any other part of me that objects to
the new alternative behaviour/s?" or
"Does anything else need to change for these behaviours to be fully
implemented?"
If there is a "yes" go back to 2 above and re-frame on that
nigel hetherington
Appleorgies for mixing the December meeting, I was lured away by mince
pies and a wood burning fire.
I have uploaded a 'kind of 6 step' reframing. This one takes just
four steps. The number of steps isnot important. You will find this
in the files section.
Both bandler and Grinder ( since the early 80's) moved away from the
version mat has proposed studying. I think it is well worth knowing
both versions. The important differences are
no creation of parts, assumption of positive intention of behaviour
( do u know any models of nlp where behaviour intention isnt
positive? ), no conscious mind involvement in generation of new
behaviours, no invitation to objections, this is for increasing
performance ( not just nlp's bias to problem resolution )
hope to see you in Jan 08
nigel
On Dec 19, 12:42 pm, "Matthew Hudson" <matt...@uniquechange.com>
wrote:
nigel hetherington
excellent. Being able to calibrate these is critical to being a
competent therapist with your attention on your client. Best place as
far as I am concerned is start with yourself.
By connecting and communicating with 'the unconscious' or the wisdom
of the body ( the existence of 'unconscious' is meaningless, the
actuality of 'unconscious' responses can not be doubted ) you open up
the possibility or real second-order change.
There are many ways in which to set up the bio-feedback system that is
called ideo-motor responses. Here is just one way.
Pick three memories where looking back, you know you made really good
decisions.
Pick three memories where looking back, you did not make good
decisions.
Now select one good one and 'self-calibrate', notice how your body
feels when you hold the representation of the good decision. When you
have a sense of your body, move to a 'bad' decision and self-
calibrate. Repeat the process, shifting from good to bad to good ...
until you can detect a difference in what and how your body feels. Its
just the difference you are interested in ( a process content
distinction ). And once you have detected differences, you now have
an unconscious yes / no, ideo-motor, bio-feedback system. Cool.
This may well be easier for some people than others. Those who are
honestly in touch with their body will likely find this easy, others
will find this a little more work.
I once worked with a woman who, looking at her, slouched, lower lip
off at an odd angle ( I almost asked if she had had a stroke! ) who
was so obviously out of touch with her body could detect no difference
between the states. To the observant ( external ) calibrator the
differences were totally obvious.
Self calibration and elicitation of somatic or ideo-motor responses
are essential aspects of self application of NLP. It also makes
applying the reframing process discussed in previous emails very very
easy to apply to yourself. But don't take my word for it.
Like I say this is just one way to elicit unconscious responses. You
should have at least three ways to do this. As some clients ( like
the woman cited above ) are not currently ably to feel their own
body's and may well require different conscious unconscious
confirmations.