What is manly?

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One man put his hands on his hips, but the backs of his hands were
touching his sides. Another man told him that men do not put their
hands on their hips that way.

Why?

Men have defined their masculinity by making fun of each other for
doing things that women do. For many years men and women made fun of
each other for crossing imaginary gender lines. While these lines have
been fairly clear to most people, they are meaningless and no longer
applied equally.

Women can put their hands on their hips any way that they like, yet it
is still somehow wrong for men to put the backs of their hands to their
hips. Women have broken the stereotypes that were put upon them by men
and by other women.

Interestingly enough, our society does not recognize new standards
equally. While women have broken their molds, they along with men have
continued to expect men to fit into an unrealistic and imaginary mold.

The issue here is that we hold each other to standards that we are used
to without considering the standards that we are being held to. The
better solution is for people to be themselves without making any
effort to dictate how other people should act. There is one caveat to
that, every person must make sure that they do not hurt other people
with their actions or words.

If all people expressed themselves individually and without judgment
there would be no reason for unnatural and unrealistic gender
standards. Generally speaking there are no hand gestures or poses that
are truly masculine or feminine. Self-expression should not be limited
by the judgment or fear of judgment by others.

[shuguy04]

Well said!
My personal interest is footwear. WHO decides what colour/style is feminine?

Men (in new zealand) are wearing white thin jandals, Why can't men wear platform jandals?

I will concede with pink, But who decides pink is female? I like pink!

I disagree with stillettos on men. Big bulky men in delicate stillettos I feel doesn't look right. I think it looks like a car on motorcycle wheels.

I think men would look better in wedge heels. Also I love wedge heels, so I might be biased.

When I can work out how, I'll post phtos of my shoe collection, What I've managed to wear in public,  & what I wish I could wear in public! 
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