It's his Birthday today and I feel so weak..........

[Ek mcgee-o]

I want to give into my compulsion and try to contact him again , it has been 6 months since I heard his voice and even tho we both know it is over between us, I kinda want to hear him beg me agian for contact with me again, this is so wrong.

I pray not to have anymore painful memories of what all he has done to hurt me

I want to forgive him and forget him, his narsasistic ways. He is so cruel. ahe would only hurt my feelings again.

Please , someone offer me some advice/support

Thanks

Kat from Galveston

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[Don Allen]

Kat,

 

Here are some of the words that you used in your email:

 

Compulsion

Both know its over

Hear him beg

This is so wrong

Painful memories

Hurt me
he is so cruel

His narcissistic ways

 

It is your addiction that is trying to get you to contact your ex.  It is not the person that is trying to recover and get healthier and happier.  Repeating the same thing over and over thae same way and expecting differenrt results is the definition of insanity.  Love addiction, like any addiction, is rooted in insane behavior.  I know, I have been there and just recently.  It is your choice to continue to act out in you bottom line addictive behaviors (contacting the ex would be one of them, I judge...).  It is also your choice to change and recover.  I hope yu choose recovery.  Take care and good luck...

 

Don
Ek mcgee-o <ekmc...@yahoo.com> wrote:

[lagr...@comcast.net]

Kat don't do it - I want to do it every day - sometimes every moment of every day but then I remember what it REALLY was and I see that I don't want HIM at all - I want what I wanted us to be.  And that was never any part of who we actually were - he was a sadistic, narcissistic, broken, troubled man and I was broken when I was with him.

Value your self - value how far you have come.  Know that you do not need anyone to validate you.

Stay strong and be gentle with yourself - call a friends, work the steps, give it to God and He will take it from you.

good luck!!

Laura G.

[Gail R.]

Hi Kat,

 

Thanks for sharing. 

 

It helps me to think it through when I want to contact my qualifier, to think about what it was really like and where I will end up emotionally.

 

Sometimes it works to think it through, and sometimes I break down and contact him, but I'm usually able to go longer between contacts.  Progress not perfection.

 

Sometimes trying really really hard not to contact him is almost a set-up for contacting him!  I try to realize that and not be too hard on myself. 

 

Good luck, I hope this helps,

Hugs, Gail

Ek mcgee-o <ekmc...@yahoo.com> wrote:

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