Aurora
ctre...@earthlink.net
me who are using Aurora for their adoption process. Sorry for the long
email but I have a lot on my mind right now. As you may know on another
major search engine there is a similar forum for adoptive families.
This past week many disturbing questions were raised as it relates to
myself and others working with Aurora. I have done a significant amount
of research following those and attempted to post a reply but it was
blocked by the monitoring group. I will gladly share that email with
this group if there is an interest. I think you will be surprised to
see that my email was blocked but they allowed many others with
vulgarities included to be posted.
Again, I am working with Aurora, I expect to travel very soon and am
looking forward to coming home with a beautiful young girl. I am
confident Aurora will do that for me especially after all I have
learned in the past few days. If there are people out there who would
like to talk about this I would be glad to post additional information
including the post I described as being blocked. You will be surprised
that it was blocked. There are always two sides to every story,I
believe I found the "other side" but unfortunately it wasn't allowed to
be posted.
For all of you working with Aurora keep your spirits up and don't allow
unsubstantiated rumors to break your hopes and dreams for a succesful
adoption. I for one am not.
linglut
you are talking about. I am also using Aurora and plan to travel in
September. I was disturbed by the out right bashing of Aurora
International by this group. I feel they did not consider the impact it
would have on families like ours already in the process and happy. I
have been involved with Aurora since January and everything has been
going well. With hopes of traveling soon, my DH and I are very excited.
I am very disappointed that some people feel they have the right to
take that enjoyment from us. I would like to hear your response that
was blocked by the monitoring group. I too feel there are two sides to
every story and would like to hear yours.
I am also traveling for a daughter and hopefully our paths will cross.
It would be great to have another family to spend time with and give
each other support. God Bless and I look forward to hearing your
response.
Lisa
ctre...@earthlink.net
time. Do you know yet what region your going to? I believe I'll be in
Almaty. Let me know and keep in touch.
Here it is, uncensored. Doesn't sound threatening as they are implying
on their forum! Anyway, from their actions it appears that they allowed
certain information to be made public and not others which leads me to
the conclusion that they selfishly sacrificed the emotions of their
loyal readers for a business issue that should be dealt with privately
or in the courts. PS: not to belabor this but my post was sent in 14
hours before the thread was closed not after as they state. Well here
it goes, let me know if you find it threatening or just a reasonable
response given our situation since we are indirectly involved after
all.
My Response to the other websites forum follows
"I have been on this website for the last 7 months and never have I
witnessed this level of insensitive behavior specifically as it relates
to people like myself, my wife and I'm sure other families currently
working with Aurora International Adoption. You (and that includes your
other friend on this site, too) have used this forum as your personal
battleground in order to harm or destroy this man and his company and
in doing so impacted many other people. That is clear from your emails.
I responded to your offer to speak offline, who wouldn't be curious to
find out more if someone raised concerns regarding a business
arrangement that you were in. I listened to you for over 40 minutes
tell me your thoughts and what I could expect if I continue working
with Aurora. Yes, in your kind, desire to help others you proceeded to
rip the dreams and hopes for a succesful adoption right out of many
peoples' hearts. You adopted. You know what an emotional ride it is
and you still made the decision to tell people exactly how their trip
would turn out. I especially liked how you transitioned from telling
me how I will never see the girl we've had in our hearts for the last
8 months to telling me where the best restaurants were in Almaty. Talk
about shock and awe, that is how I would describe what are conversation
was like. I asked to hear it thinking that you were indeed talking from
firsthand experience, I was ready for the truth. I believe I even
thanked you for your honesty. If I knew your motives and experience
level were different ,I never would have spoke with you. After thinking
about our discussion I realized that you have absolutely no
qualifications to make comments regarding Aurora or what you may think,
yes think, is going to happen with us. You admittedly ended your
business ties with Aurora and utilized another agency or facilitator to
complete your adoption. How then can you claim to know what would have
happened if you stayed with Aurora? Where are these families that have
been cheated? I have only heard this from the two of you. Are you their
spokesman, can you share any of their "actual" experiences with us? My
ears are open for any truthful experiences that should be shared but I
have no interest in hearing speculation"
linglut
you gave a direct response. I am surprized that they would not post it.
They should of never let the other postings go through if they didn't
want it's group members to respond to them. I am very disappointed that
they still haven't deleted the original posts now after the thread is
closed . Basically by doing so they are telling a one sided story. This
is very wrong. It sounds fishy to me. What would they have to loose by
posting the other side to this situation. Nothing in my opinion. I
would be glad to post my opinion post adoption on their board of how I
returned with my referred daughter and are very happy. But I wouldn't
be surprized if they blocked that too. It sounds like they don't want
any positve postings on Aurora?????Makes you wonder what their
intentions are?? Keep in touch. Lisa
ctre...@earthlink.net
One more thought on this topic and then it's time for me to get back to
what's important and that is getting prepared to go see our new
daughter. Just noticed on the other forum that the vulgaraities that
they claim snuck past their screeners were removed. I checked and there
still posted for all the world to see. Please read my lastest and last
response to them as it to has been blocked as well. Everyone needs to
draw their own conclusion but what I have witnessed smells of a
business selfishly using their control of an "open unbiased forum" to
advance their own personal business agenda and in doing so subjecting
their loyal users to be put in the middle. They quoted me in their
response/apology to the membership. The "next level" I referred to
which they included as an example of the threats they were getting was
this, what I'm doing right now. It wasn't a threat (verbally or
physically) it was a promise that I would not ignore what happened on
their site. Funny that they picked just this one line to share with the
world but not my whole message. Here it is completely uncensored. I
think you will agree it was written in a professional courteous manner.
Looking forward to exchanging more relevant emails with you in the
future as it relates to us, our feelings and our upcoming trip to
Kazakhstan.
Sent to the Yahoo forum for Kazakhstan adoptive families:
"Families using AIA were told via telephone conversations by two
members of this group that the pictures of children they were shown
were ploys, the people they were dealing with were crooks and that we
would never see those children. This has deeply hurt our families
during this emotional time. So, our e-mail which was rejected on this
thread was a way of questioning the validity of the comments made by
these two families. By allowing the initial thread to go through and
not our response clarifying the situation, your website in essence
endorsed this kind of behavior. Both sides of the story should have
been shown before the thread was dropped. Remember, the families that
are currently working with AIA, are the true victims here of
inappropriate behavior that has been allowed on your website."