Need a word of advice

[Milli]

I was enggaged to this man for a yr back. I was on a business tour and
when I came back he broke our enggagement. I was quite shattered as
all arrangements of my wedding was made. We made honeymoon plans, were
buying a new house etc.
Anyways, he is going around another girl now. But I am finding it
difficult to commit again. I have male friends who are intrested in me
but I fear commitment now. There is this new guy who is very much
intrested in me but may be just not in love with him as I was before.
When I am alone there are thousands of unanswered questions that haunt
me. Sometimes I just like the silence around me. Also, my ex-fiancee
is still calls me once in a while. or e-Mails me. I miss him at the
same time I dont want to hear from him. I dont know what to do.

[Ms. Miller]

Hi, Milli. The question is: What do you want to do? Do you want to
stay stuck in the past or move forward? Once you answer that, the
rest will be easier.

The man you were engaged to has moved on. And while he might call or
email you from time to time, he's not with you. He contacts to you
feed his ego, to see if you still love him. My advice would be to not
take his calls, delete his emails without reading them. Tell him not
to contact you. Change your phone number or email address if he
doesn't respect your request. That might sound extreme, but it's a
way to protect yourself. How do you feel after he calls or you read
an email from him? I doubt you feel better. Likely, you feel worse
in the long run. Communicating with him is keeping you tied to the
past, and keeps your future looking bleak.

You can't have a successful new relationship until you are truly done
with the old one. And there are no answers to the questions that you
have. There are only opportunities and lessons. Take the
opportunities to grow stronger, learn the lessons and become wiser.
From there, your heart will heal and you will be able to find someone
you love and trust. Commitment will be easy then. I hope you will
give yourself the chance to heal and get over him so you can find the
good that's out there waiting for you. I wish you all the best.

Cheers,
Sandra