Becoming "superdad"
Mario Alex Joseph, Esq.
"My philosophy is basically to thine own self be true. Acting like a
"superdad" just to trick the judges and clerks is dishonest and will
only bite me in the end. I'm a very good father and I always do the
best I can. My best was never good enough for [Jane Doe] and my
putting on airs is basically a continuation of my life with her. I
can't live like that. The best thing I feel I could do right now is
back off this and focus more on my work".
My response was as follows:
"Nobody can be a perfect parent, and I am not suggesting that you MUST
be to retain residential custody. However, striving to be "superdad"
during this litigation is not dishonest. To the contrary, if you
cannot strive to be the best parent possible in the middle of
litigation, than you ought never try. This is when it counts the most,
and to feel like you are "pretending" is just ridiculous. Ensuring
that the kids get to school on time, clean and in clean clothes should
not be too great a demand. Ensuring that the kids go to school with
their homework done and with lunch arranged should be a given.
Maintaining a safe and clean home for most parents would be assumed."
To the readers of this group, you become your own worst enemies at
times. Before you blame the legal system and gender-bias for your
troubles, make sure that you are not undermining yourself. Hopefully,
somebody will be there to give you a "reality check".