It's Okay to Be "Selfish"
Junaid Tahir
It's Okay to Be "Selfish"
Introduction Have you ever felt hurt by a small comment, even when the other person didn’t mean it seriously? Or do you find yourself...
Introduction
Have you ever felt hurt by a small comment, even when the other person didn’t mean it seriously? Or do you find yourself thinking for hours about what people said, trying to guess if they were blaming you? If yes, you are not alone. Many people live like this — always worried about what others think, always trying to keep everyone happy, but forgetting about their own peace of mind.
The good news is, you can change this. You can build a thicker skin and protect yourself from unnecessary stress. Let’s look at some simple ways, with examples.
Key Takeaways
- You cannot please everyone, so stop trying.
- Not every comment is about you.
- Take care of your happiness first — it is not selfish.
- Spend less time overthinking and more time doing things you enjoy.
- Learn to move on quickly instead of carrying people’s words in your heart.
Example: When a Casual Comment Hurts
Imagine you’re at a family gathering. Someone says:
“These days people don’t manage their homes properly.”
If you are very sensitive, you may immediately think:
- “They are pointing at me!”
- “Are they saying I am not good at managing my house?”
- “Why do they always criticize me?”
But the truth is, maybe that person was just making a general statement, not about you at all. Yet you carry the pain for days.
Mental toughness response:
- “This was a general comment, not my problem.”
- Smile, change the topic, or just let it go.
Stop Trying to Please Everyone
Another common situation:
You are tired after a long day. But a distant relative says, “Come visit us tomorrow, it’s been a while.”
Because you don’t want to upset them, you agree — even though you needed rest. Later, you feel frustrated.
