[BLISS WARRIOR] ASK MISS BLISS - THE ART OF FLIRTATION
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BLISS WARRIOR
Oct 22, 2007, 10:27:24 PM10/22/07
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Dear Miss Bliss,
I'm not the most sociable person, but I'm working on getting out more. Now that I'm trying to find a girl that might be interested in me (or me and my boyfriend), I'm running into my biggest road block: flirting. My biggest problem is I tend to send the wrong signals. I don't even realize when people are flirting with me, so I'm never sure how or when to flirt back. I'm sure when some of these things are explained to me, I'll slap my forehead and think, "Oh... They were flirting?!"
So my question is, what are proper steps of flirting? What are the do's and the dont's? What's too much, not enough, or just plain wrong? This is for flirting with other girls, as I'm happy with my boyfriend.
XOXOXOXOX,
Afraid to Flirt
Dearest Fearful Flirter...
In a writing class of mine, a lovely thin Irish girl was reading a true story about being lesbian in Los Angeles. "You can always tell when a girl is straight," she read,"because straight girls cannot maintain eye contact." After she finished her funny, moving piece, I came up to her and looked her straight in the eye and said I adored her work. As we were leaving the class, she gave me a folded up piece of paper with her phone number tucked neatly inside.
FLIRTING STARTS WITH THE EYES
As girls and young women, we often look away when we catch someone looking at us. To be an effective girl-flirt, however, it is time to start opening your eyes and making contact. The next time you and your boyfriend are out at a restaurant, take a moment to study the people around you. Find a girl who you think is cute. Don't worry if she is straight or married or gay or if she'll like you; just take a moment to appreciate a girl whose loveliness caught your eye. When she senses you are looking at her, she will look up. Do not look away. Hold her gaze and send her warmth. Watch her turn her eyes away quickly, but keep looking. Wait until you catch her looking at you again to see if you are still looking at her. If she keeps looking at you, she is flirting with you.
Another great place to practice flirting with you eyes is at a dance club. While you are dancing with your friends or your man, try to catch and hold the gaze of other dancing girls. Pretty soon, one will be coming over to dance with you.
A GOOD FLIRT GIVES TRUE COMPLEMENTS
Whenever I am out and about, I flirt with girls. Sometimes I am attracted to them, sometimes I am not. Attraction does not matter to me, because I flirt with women to make them feel appreciated and special in that moment. The key to being a good flirt (while avoiding being a transparent flatterer) is being truthful and detailed when giving complements.
For example, let's just say you are waiting in line at the local grocery store and there is a stunning, athletic brunette waiting in front of you. It would freak her out if you said out of nowhere, "You are hot!" Plus, you would be exactly like every other creepy guys who said something like that to her that week. Take a moment and study her. What made her stand out to you? Does she have shiny, thick hair? Is she wearing the cutest top you've ever seen?
When she turns to grab a magazine and sees you, give her a truthful, detailed complement like, "You must be told all the time how gorgeous your hair is. Where do you get it done? I would never stop looking at myself if I had hair as pretty as yours." Can you see the brunette blushing, mumbling a surprised thank you? Soon, she is telling you all about her fabulous hair stylist. By the time she has to pay, you have already made a foxy new friend. Plus, you feel great because you made another woman feel good.
FLIRT AND GIVE LOVE TO ALL WOMEN
Nothing feels as good as a meaningful complement from a fellow girl, and a complement with eye contact feels even better. Practice these two techniques on all women you come into contact with and you will become a practiced flirt. Eventually, you will be able to flirt effortlessly with girls you really like.
But more importantly, you will make a lot of women feel appreciated, adored, and admired. This, in my opinion, is what bigirls are on this planet to do.
XOXOXOXOXOXO
BLISS
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CLEVELAND
DETROIT,
SAN FRANCISCO AND
SAN DIEGO.
IF YOU ARE IN ONE OF THOSE CITIES, AND WOULD LIKE TO MEET OTHER GIRLS, EMAIL ME!
HOSTING A BLISS BRUNCH? LET ME KNOW.
XOXOXOXOXOXO
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Posted By BLISS WARRIOR to BLISS WARRIOR at 10/22/2007 07:26:00 PM
I'm not the most sociable person, but I'm working on getting out more. Now that I'm trying to find a girl that might be interested in me (or me and my boyfriend), I'm running into my biggest road block: flirting. My biggest problem is I tend to send the wrong signals. I don't even realize when people are flirting with me, so I'm never sure how or when to flirt back. I'm sure when some of these things are explained to me, I'll slap my forehead and think, "Oh... They were flirting?!"
So my question is, what are proper steps of flirting? What are the do's and the dont's? What's too much, not enough, or just plain wrong? This is for flirting with other girls, as I'm happy with my boyfriend.
XOXOXOXOX,
Afraid to Flirt
Dearest Fearful Flirter...
In a writing class of mine, a lovely thin Irish girl was reading a true story about being lesbian in Los Angeles. "You can always tell when a girl is straight," she read,"because straight girls cannot maintain eye contact." After she finished her funny, moving piece, I came up to her and looked her straight in the eye and said I adored her work. As we were leaving the class, she gave me a folded up piece of paper with her phone number tucked neatly inside.
FLIRTING STARTS WITH THE EYES
As girls and young women, we often look away when we catch someone looking at us. To be an effective girl-flirt, however, it is time to start opening your eyes and making contact. The next time you and your boyfriend are out at a restaurant, take a moment to study the people around you. Find a girl who you think is cute. Don't worry if she is straight or married or gay or if she'll like you; just take a moment to appreciate a girl whose loveliness caught your eye. When she senses you are looking at her, she will look up. Do not look away. Hold her gaze and send her warmth. Watch her turn her eyes away quickly, but keep looking. Wait until you catch her looking at you again to see if you are still looking at her. If she keeps looking at you, she is flirting with you.
Another great place to practice flirting with you eyes is at a dance club. While you are dancing with your friends or your man, try to catch and hold the gaze of other dancing girls. Pretty soon, one will be coming over to dance with you.
A GOOD FLIRT GIVES TRUE COMPLEMENTS
Whenever I am out and about, I flirt with girls. Sometimes I am attracted to them, sometimes I am not. Attraction does not matter to me, because I flirt with women to make them feel appreciated and special in that moment. The key to being a good flirt (while avoiding being a transparent flatterer) is being truthful and detailed when giving complements.
For example, let's just say you are waiting in line at the local grocery store and there is a stunning, athletic brunette waiting in front of you. It would freak her out if you said out of nowhere, "You are hot!" Plus, you would be exactly like every other creepy guys who said something like that to her that week. Take a moment and study her. What made her stand out to you? Does she have shiny, thick hair? Is she wearing the cutest top you've ever seen?
When she turns to grab a magazine and sees you, give her a truthful, detailed complement like, "You must be told all the time how gorgeous your hair is. Where do you get it done? I would never stop looking at myself if I had hair as pretty as yours." Can you see the brunette blushing, mumbling a surprised thank you? Soon, she is telling you all about her fabulous hair stylist. By the time she has to pay, you have already made a foxy new friend. Plus, you feel great because you made another woman feel good.
FLIRT AND GIVE LOVE TO ALL WOMEN
Nothing feels as good as a meaningful complement from a fellow girl, and a complement with eye contact feels even better. Practice these two techniques on all women you come into contact with and you will become a practiced flirt. Eventually, you will be able to flirt effortlessly with girls you really like.
But more importantly, you will make a lot of women feel appreciated, adored, and admired. This, in my opinion, is what bigirls are on this planet to do.
XOXOXOXOXOXO
BLISS
IF YOU LIKED THIS BLOG, YOU MAY ENJOY READING:
FOXY GIRLS SAY THANK YOU
BLISS GIRLS ARE SEEKING OTHER BIGIRLS FOR FRIENDSHIP AND CONVERSATION IN:
CLEVELAND
DETROIT,
SAN FRANCISCO AND
SAN DIEGO.
IF YOU ARE IN ONE OF THOSE CITIES, AND WOULD LIKE TO MEET OTHER GIRLS, EMAIL ME!
HOSTING A BLISS BRUNCH? LET ME KNOW.
XOXOXOXOXOXO
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Posted By BLISS WARRIOR to BLISS WARRIOR at 10/22/2007 07:26:00 PM
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