[BLISS WARRIOR] ASK MISS BLISS - WHEN SHOULD A NEW BI-BI COUPLE BRING IN A BOY?
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BLISS WARRIOR
Dec 3, 2007, 9:13:40 PM12/3/07
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Dear Miss Bliss,
My boyfriend and I are both bisexual and its our hope to have an open, loving and lasting relationship together. We are a new couple of just 5 months. After 2 months together, we had a couple of threesomes which left my boyfriend and I feeling distant and detached. He encouraged us to try monogamy for a bit to help us build a stronger bond. I was excited to be just with him but quickly his fantasies turned toward penis and mine drifted toward seeing him with other men. Monogamy seems really strange to both of us yet we are doing it because we are devoted to each other and think it might be the right thing for the moment. Our fantasies and desires have us always considering threesome and couple options which makes this whole monogamy spell seem like a farce. How should a new couple into being in open relationships build a strong bond? We talk about everything yet somehow it seems like we are still too insecure to make new playmates outside of our relationship. Could we be jumping the gun too early about bringing others into our bed?
Sincerely,
New Couple
Dear New Couple,
Nothing makes me happier than hearing about a biBoy and a biGirl who found each other and are making a relationship work. It is wonderful that you both enjoy fantasizing about bringing a man into your sexual play, and very brave of you to have already experienced a few threesomes. To build an open and respectful relationship, communication is key. Your letter demonstrates that you both talk every detail to death and hold each other's feelings in the highest regard.
DO HEALTHY OPEN RELATIONSHIPS NEED A PERIOD OF MONOGAMY?
When your man is pitching monogamy to ensure a stronger bond in the relationship, you know you have a man who is putting you and the love you share, first. You obviously care about the relationship deeply, too, because you took time to think about the situation and write this letter. The question is, do bisexuals need to be monogamous early in a relationship in order to have a healthy open relationship later?
BiGIRLS HAVE TO BE CAUTIOUS IN NEW RELATIONSHIPS
A bisexual woman has to be cautious because there will be men who pretend to want to be boyfriends, when they really just want group sex. Many of my bi girlfriends do not list themselves as bi on nerve.com or myspace.com because it attracts the wrong type of guy. (So sad and unfortunate, isn't it?) Another friend of mine tried dating men as an open biGirl, but found the guys were only interested in going to swing parties and pushing her into hooking up with strangers.
Most biGirls I have met believe monogamy is essential until both partners fully trust one another; this could be a few months, it may be years. Maybe a couple will try group play, then take some time to be monogamous again. There is no one way to make a relationship work and only you and your partner know what is right for you.
Your man, dear girl, is doing it right.
MONOGAMOUS PERIODS IN OPEN RELATIONSHIPS STRENGTHEN THEM
This monogamous period the two of you are experiencing is not a farce. In a healthy, honest, open relationship both partners have automatic veto power. If you both felt "distant" after the threesomes, your man is right: you are not ready.
FANTASIZING ABOUT THREESOMES INCREASES YOUR BOND
Sharing sexual fantasies with your partner is a great way to increase the passion and excitement during sex. Many biGirls say it really turns them on to imagine their men with other boys.
Fantasizing about threesomes can also give you both a chance to decide in detail what you eventually want. Would it really turn your boy on to know how hot it gets you thinking about going down on him with another man? Does this idea work for him?
So, New Couple, again I congratulate you.
You are doing it all right and I am glad you are devoting focused time on the relationship. You will know when you are ready to make those fantasies a reality again, but in the meantime, you are strengthening that magical bond you share.
XOXOXOXOXOXOXO
BLISS WARRIOR
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Posted By BLISS WARRIOR to BLISS WARRIOR at 12/03/2007 06:13:00 PM
My boyfriend and I are both bisexual and its our hope to have an open, loving and lasting relationship together. We are a new couple of just 5 months. After 2 months together, we had a couple of threesomes which left my boyfriend and I feeling distant and detached. He encouraged us to try monogamy for a bit to help us build a stronger bond. I was excited to be just with him but quickly his fantasies turned toward penis and mine drifted toward seeing him with other men. Monogamy seems really strange to both of us yet we are doing it because we are devoted to each other and think it might be the right thing for the moment. Our fantasies and desires have us always considering threesome and couple options which makes this whole monogamy spell seem like a farce. How should a new couple into being in open relationships build a strong bond? We talk about everything yet somehow it seems like we are still too insecure to make new playmates outside of our relationship. Could we be jumping the gun too early about bringing others into our bed?
Sincerely,
New Couple
Dear New Couple,
Nothing makes me happier than hearing about a biBoy and a biGirl who found each other and are making a relationship work. It is wonderful that you both enjoy fantasizing about bringing a man into your sexual play, and very brave of you to have already experienced a few threesomes. To build an open and respectful relationship, communication is key. Your letter demonstrates that you both talk every detail to death and hold each other's feelings in the highest regard.
DO HEALTHY OPEN RELATIONSHIPS NEED A PERIOD OF MONOGAMY?
When your man is pitching monogamy to ensure a stronger bond in the relationship, you know you have a man who is putting you and the love you share, first. You obviously care about the relationship deeply, too, because you took time to think about the situation and write this letter. The question is, do bisexuals need to be monogamous early in a relationship in order to have a healthy open relationship later?
BiGIRLS HAVE TO BE CAUTIOUS IN NEW RELATIONSHIPS
A bisexual woman has to be cautious because there will be men who pretend to want to be boyfriends, when they really just want group sex. Many of my bi girlfriends do not list themselves as bi on nerve.com or myspace.com because it attracts the wrong type of guy. (So sad and unfortunate, isn't it?) Another friend of mine tried dating men as an open biGirl, but found the guys were only interested in going to swing parties and pushing her into hooking up with strangers.
Most biGirls I have met believe monogamy is essential until both partners fully trust one another; this could be a few months, it may be years. Maybe a couple will try group play, then take some time to be monogamous again. There is no one way to make a relationship work and only you and your partner know what is right for you.
Your man, dear girl, is doing it right.
MONOGAMOUS PERIODS IN OPEN RELATIONSHIPS STRENGTHEN THEM
This monogamous period the two of you are experiencing is not a farce. In a healthy, honest, open relationship both partners have automatic veto power. If you both felt "distant" after the threesomes, your man is right: you are not ready.
FANTASIZING ABOUT THREESOMES INCREASES YOUR BOND
Sharing sexual fantasies with your partner is a great way to increase the passion and excitement during sex. Many biGirls say it really turns them on to imagine their men with other boys.
Fantasizing about threesomes can also give you both a chance to decide in detail what you eventually want. Would it really turn your boy on to know how hot it gets you thinking about going down on him with another man? Does this idea work for him?
So, New Couple, again I congratulate you.
You are doing it all right and I am glad you are devoting focused time on the relationship. You will know when you are ready to make those fantasies a reality again, but in the meantime, you are strengthening that magical bond you share.
XOXOXOXOXOXOXO
BLISS WARRIOR
COME TO BRUNCH!
THIS SATURDAY - JOIN ME FOR BRUNCH IN LA. EMAIL ME TO RSVP.
THIS SUNDAY - JOIN ME FOR BRUNCH IN SAN DIEGO. EMAIL ME TO RSVP.
HAVE A QUESTION FOR MISS BLISS?
EMAIL IT TO ME!
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Posted By BLISS WARRIOR to BLISS WARRIOR at 12/03/2007 06:13:00 PM
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