I need your help...

[Voltron aka Jerica]

Hi...I have never done this before so I don't know what it is like. I
must admit that I need your guy's help. I am going out wiht this guy
and I have been hearing things about him going out with another
girl...but the thing is I'm afraid to confront him about it because I
am scared that he will get really mad or something. So now I feel like
a failure because I feel like I didn't do something right and I know he
didn't want sex because he would have told me. I guess I'm not right to
have a boyfriend right..........I just don't know what to do and I that
is why I am asking for your help.. Can you help me? What should I do,
dump him or keep him?

[Just Me]

It is very hard to give an opinion or advice when there is so much
information missing. eg how old are both of you, how long have you
known each other and how long have you been going out with each other.
But I think it is always best to be upfront and honest ......... just
ask him and if he asks why you asked him then tell him what you have
heard. If you are afraid to ask him I get the impression there is more
to all this than what you have said. I can not imagine a relation
working where one person is afraid to ask the other anything.

[Voltron aka Jerica]

I am 17 and he is 18, we have known eachother since we were in middle
school and we have been going out since January of 2006. He is leaving
in November for the Marines and I feel like I should do something. It
seems like I always see him hangout with his ex girlfriend but I am not
really that sure if there is something going on or not. I mean I am not
really that afraid to ask him about it but at the same time my last
relationship lasted only a month and a half because he was cheating on
me. I feel like I am doing something wrong.

[Owner]

Hi, I am the owner of this group and, I can understand what you are
feeling. I'd like to tell you a story. When I was younger, I fell
head over heels over this amazing guy. We ended up dating for almost a
year, and I was also hearing that he was interested in his ex, of
course I was hurt. One thing led to another I had not heard from him in
awhile. One day his ex showed up on my doorstep and told me that he was
breaking up with me because he wanted to see her. I never had sex with
him and she had before.
It was hard but once I moved on I realized that I dont have to do
anything but be me for the guy that's meant for me to love me. The
moral of the story is that you must ask him yourself what's going on,
and if it is, not feel like it is in any way your fault. If he is
interested in another girl, do not stir up trouble but let him pursue
it because he will be leaving soon and long distance relationships are
too hard to maintain. Wouldn't you rather have him as a friend than
as an enemy? I believe that there is one person out there for everyone
and this is your time to figure out who that guy is, it could take
years, but experiment and enjoy all the way, because when you meet the
right guy, you won't be able to do that anymore. The 'one' is
waiting out there somewhere, so don't worry.

[Just Me]

You may or may not be doing something wrong but at your age its hard
to know what to do or not to do. For that matter its not easy at any
age but with age you learn to have guide lines and rules for yourself
to follow to help you avoid most of the pitfalls but nothing is going
to protect anyone 100% from being upset or hurt its just part of life
and relationships. And at your age the best you can hope for in my
opinion is that you can learn more about you and who and what you are
and what you can and should learn to accept or not. I personally do
not feel its normal to expect anyone in your age group to be totally
"faithful" for a lack of a better word. You are in a age of learning
and experimenting. That means males and females are going to test
things and ultimately do things that are not right for them to do but
hopefully learn from those mistakes or errors so you can try to avoid
them in the future when you are an adult. My gut says enjoy this
relationship while it lasts and try to learn what you can from it (lol
and I do not mean experiment with sex). But don't count on it lasting
or needing it to last. I think at your ages its more important to
learn how the other sex does things, thinks of things, and reacts to
things. Learn to be open and honest with those who you are involved
with and yes hope for the best but also try to learn to deal with
disappointments as they come along.
Could I have permission to post parts of your questions to the boys
groups naturally without your identity to see if they have other
opinions to offer that might help?
It would be really helpful if some of the other members here would give
some opinions as well.

[Voltron aka Jerica]

Yeah go for it see what others think and I don't care if you have my
name on it or not becasue I don't care what others say or
whatever...I'll keep what you said in my thoughts..

[Just Me]

With the permission of the author of the following post I am posting
his reply to you that he posted in the Boys group in response to my
posting your post there. And he requested if he could be kept up to
date with this. So girls if anyone had any objections to the replies
being posted to this specific subject please add to your post ........
permission granted to cross post to boys group ....... or .........
permission not granted to cross post to the boys group.

Date: Sat, Nov 4 2006 2:55 pm
From: "JGBritz"

Hi there - you are not alone in this mess. The
best advice that I can
give from my experience is to ask him outright.
It is better to hear
the truth and set your mind at ease or feel your
heart break all at
once than having done over a very long period of
time. Ask your friends
to find out for you. But most important -
remember that you are
nobody's doormat and no man has the right to hurt
you.

[Voltron aka Jerica]

Thanks for that....I'm grateful that you did that for me because he's
right noone deserves to hurt me.

[Just Me]

Here is another one that I am sure we all have had to deal with at
least once or will have to

http://www.lifescript.com/channels/well_being/Meditations_Motivations/how_to_heal_a_broken_heart.asp

[Just Me]

I found this article you might be interested in checking out and maybe
would be helpful for anyone to read as well.
You can find it at
http://www.lifescript.com/channels/well_being/Meditations_Motivations/how_to_tell_if_someone_is_interested_in_you.asp

I have not noticed any problems using this site. I have noticed that
if you take any quiz's and do not sign up for anything that they do not
email you the answers so if you want do any of the quiz's then be
prepared to copy and paste them to your word program you use if you
wish to save the results.

[Voltron aka Jerica]

Thanks for the websites I will totally read the sites more throughly