How to avoid/ignore someone you have to work with?
annoyed coworker
This stupid bitch I work with has the biggest mouth ever. You want the boss
to know something, you tell this bitch and she narcs to the boss. Works well
if you want the boss to know things without saying it, but it is bad too.
This stupid bitch doesn't mind her own business. I was speaking with a
friend co-worker, nothing harrasing/hurtful/hr issues, and the stupid bitch
over hears and tells the boss, landing me in the office and nearly fired.
I have to work in close quarters (office, no customers) with this stupid
bitch, and am seeking advice on how to avoid the bitch at all costs while
maintaining professionalism, job completetion, etc; I want to black list
this bitch however not give any reason for the bitch to narc to the boss 'he
isn't doing shit, he isn't helping, not doing this or that, etc'.
Any advice on writing this stupid bitch off without hurting myself? The plan
is to keep my mouth shut anytime shes working, and make it fairly obvious
that she's a known and hated narc, by saying to friends "I can't really
discuss it right here/now, lets talk outside of the office" if it's not work
related or something the bitch may narc about.
thanatoid
news:7iUCl.22807$TD1....@newsfe18.iad:
From my (limited) experience working for and with assholes, if
the boss is male and the woman is a good liar let alone half
decent looking, you should start looking for a new job.
I once did a few things to get a real asshole in trouble and he
was such a good liar that in the end *I* got blamed for the
things /he did/. Talk about backfiring (no pun intended).
Maybe I am just really bad at office warfare. Or everything.
DemoDisk
"annoyed coworker" <nos...@please.thx> wrote in message
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The "plan"?? That's just good thinking; your home and your place of
work are not the same thing. You should accept that you may not feel
relaxed where you work.
In most places I've worked, people just want to do their jobs well.
This one may be after a promotion of some kind so she sees everyone else
there as her competition. As women can fixate insanely on their goals
(my phrase for unswerving, unrelenting), she will forge ahead until she
gets it. The boss may give her what she wants because he's afraid of her
driving energy.
You haven't said whether she's bothering anyone else there. If so, you
might get together with them and figure something out. Like telling your
boss that the "stupid bitch" is creating a hostile workplace, or making
it difficult to do their jobs.
If you're not **doing** your job, you have a different problem.
Good luck,
JPM
wisdomkiller & pain
> hello,
>
> This stupid bitch I work with has the biggest mouth ever. You want the
> boss to know something, you tell this bitch and she narcs to the boss.
> Works well if you want the boss to know things without saying it, but it
> is bad too.
>
> This stupid bitch doesn't mind her own business. I was speaking with a
> friend co-worker, nothing harrasing/hurtful/hr issues, and the stupid
> bitch over hears and tells the boss, landing me in the office and nearly
> fired.
>
Unite with the other office workers except the bitch, and fire the boss for
stupidity and gullibility.
VanguardLH
http://www.amazon.com/Difficult-Disturbed-Understanding-Dysfunctional-Employees/dp/B0015KQXS2/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1239167195&sr=8-2
http://www.amazon.com/Manage-Problem-Employees-Step-Step/dp/0471730432/ref=sr_1_8?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1239167195&sr=8-8
http://www.amazon.com/Commandments-Working-Hostile-Environment-ebook/dp/B001QREWB4/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1239168807&sr=8-2
http://www.amazon.com/Survival-Guide-Managing-Employees-Hell/dp/081447408X/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1239168807&sr=8-3
Some of these types of books might be available at your local public
library. Not only might these help in your relationship with this other
coworker, it might make you realize the real source of the problem is
closer to home than you would like to admit.
By reading some books on how to be a manager, you might learn skills
currently absent in yourself to function with uncooperative,
interfering, or hostile coworkers by using neutrality and illuminating
the problem with your boss (tell him/her that they are impacting your
duties - if that is true). From your one-sided story and based on your
post, this other coworker may have valid issues with you. They are
obviously not averse to getting their boss involved so maybe you should,
too. Don't whine to the boss. Setup a meeting behind his/her closed
office door and coldly discuss the personality conflict that is
impacting the performance of your job duties - assuming the real source
of the problem doesn't actually lie with you. The boss is responsible
for the performance of his group. Taking out an employee that is
meeting their job requirements means a replacement that won't be up to
speed and will impact the scheduling of his group which makes the boss
look bad. One of the duties of a boss is to mediate problems between
coworkers. You hiding won't eliminate the problem. The boss will
naturally take the path of least resistance to meet his quota to his/her
higher ups. So decide if you are going to be that path of least
resistance in resolving a problem that reflects badly to the boss' boss.
Try exercising neutrality for 21 days. Emulating a behavioral change
for that long can sometimes become permanent or more easily exercised
thereafter. You may find that it becomes a natural response to conflict
and allow you to attenuate your emotional response. If neutrality
doesn't work then try inflated arrogance. Try going to a gym or take
martial arts which can alleviate pent up stress and emotionally calm
your response to conflict. If you are a socially inexperienced male,
and until you find a workable solution, perhaps you should take your
cell phone to work and make your calls in the bathroom. Maybe then
you'll realize this *CO*worker is in control and that you allowed it and
even encouraged it.
If you can't discuss with your boss the coworker personality conflict or
their interference with your job duties, you have more serious issues
regarding your job security at your employer and need to first focus on
resolving those problems - or start making disaster recovery plan. You
never did refute that anything this coworker had reported the boss was
untrue. So decide if you are going to remain the problem that needs to
be addressed in your group and resolved by your boss.
Centre Parting
Should give you a few months' peace - and these days, come in at the right
side of 500.
philo
"annoyed coworker" <nos...@please.thx> wrote in message
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If you plan to stay on your job for a long time...
then completely ignore her.
Eventually she'll self-destruct.
I've had my job for 34 years and one just needs a bit of patience when
dealing with total idiots...
Through all my years on the job I've watched dozens of idiots destroy
themselves and get fired or move on...
The only unfortunate thing is that it sometimes takes them a few years :(
Desk Rabbit
> hello,
>
> This stupid bitch I work with has the biggest mouth ever. You want the boss
> to know something, you tell this bitch and she narcs to the boss. Works well
> if you want the boss to know things without saying it, but it is bad too.
>
> This stupid bitch doesn't mind her own business. I was speaking with a
> friend co-worker, nothing harrasing/hurtful/hr issues, and the stupid bitch
> over hears and tells the boss, landing me in the office and nearly fired.
Idle harmless office chat (Where are you going on holiday, did you see
the game last night etc.) is hardly likely to lead to a verbal warning.
There must have been more to it than you are telling us.
> I have to work in close quarters (office, no customers) with this stupid
> bitch, and am seeking advice on how to avoid the bitch at all costs while
> maintaining professionalism, job completetion, etc; I want to black list
> this bitch however not give any reason for the bitch to narc to the boss 'he
> isn't doing shit, he isn't helping, not doing this or that, etc'.
Just do your job right, that's all any employer ever wants.
> Any advice on writing this stupid bitch off without hurting myself? The plan
> is to keep my mouth shut anytime shes working, and make it fairly obvious
> that she's a known and hated narc, by saying to friends "I can't really
> discuss it right here/now, lets talk outside of the office" if it's not work
> related or something the bitch may narc about.
Be the nicest possible person, be friendly, courteous, offer to make
drinks, help lift & carry items etc. At home put her picture on a
dartboard or a punchbag and work out your stress.
Tony
with the big mouth is a *fart* sniffer, whiffer eating beans before going to
work and farting all day long is the perfect way to get people as far away from
yourself as possible!
annoyed coworker wrote:
--
The Grandmaster of the CyberFROG
Come get your ticket to CyberFROG city
Nay, Art thou decideth playeth ye simpleton games. *Some* of us know proper
manners
Very few. I used to take calls from *rank* noobs,
Hamster isn't a newsreader it's a mistake!
El-Gonzo Jackson FROGS both me and Chuckcar
Master Juba was a black man imitating a white man imitating a black man
Using my technical prowess and computer abilities to answer questions beyond the
realm of understandability
Regards Tony... Making usenet better for everyone everyday
nut
learn to shut your fag bitch mouth, don't say disrespectful things about
your boss or co-workers, get on with your fucking job... and get the fuck
out of 24SH.
hope that helps
MoeB
"nut" <n...@noreply.thanks> wrote:
always nice to have management check in....
nut
I overheard an annoyed coworker bitching... makes me wonder why i don't just
dump the bitch on the streets and get me one of them newfangled robots to do
his job.
Chicken Little
nut wrote:
OH MY GOD!!!
Chicken Little
nut wrote:
OH MY GOD!!!
Bucky Breeder
this using news:7iUCl.22807$TD1....@newsfe18.iad:
I'd just pour upon 'er the ole' "Bucky-Charm"... Smile and wink...
put my package up in 'er face, everytime I walk by 'er desk...
And then when she falls hopelessly and obsessively in love
with me, I'd get 'er into an intimate environment, like the copy
room or a broom-closet, and tell 'er "Sorry, Babe... but I've
given up all teh secks for Lent."
If that don't make 'er commit suicide, she'll prolly quit 'cause
she jus' cain't hannlle the pain no mo'. There's either Bucky;
or there's not.
HTH.
--
I am Bucky Breeder, (*(^; , and *NO!*,
I am NOT the Octo-Mom's baby-daddy!
Get some purdy wimmins what are not yer seester or yer couzin
in yer truck without even using up any of your tranquilizer darts :
http://www.psy.ritsumei.ac.jp/~akitaoka/colorspiralillusion01.jpg
Repent! The end is near.... So, smoke 'em if you got 'em.
James
is to keep my mouth shut anytime shes working, and make it fairly obvious
that she's a known and hated narc, by saying to friends "I can't really
discuss it right here/now, lets talk outside of the office" if it's not work
related or something the bitch may narc about.
You asnswered your own question.
thats the way to go
richard
There are a few ways you can handle this.
You can gather a few others who have the same feelings about this
bitch and confront the boss directly. Either the bitch goes, or we do.
All of us on the same day.
If he's not the ultimate boss or the owner, make an appointment to see
his superior. Explain the situation fully and advise the superior that
you believe she is kissing your boss's ass. Let the superior how much
you enjoy working for the company but can't do so because the bitch is
always telling the boss about any little thing she has no business
with.
Set her up for a fall.
Make sure you do it with coworkers that want the same results.
Have conversations about something that never happened and make sure
the bitch here's it. When the boss finds out, everyone denies the
conversation. After a few times the boss might get a clue or two.
Butter her up.
When she's not at her desk, somebody leaves her something nice on her
desk with a note from "a secret admirer". This will drive her nuts
trying to figure out who it is.
Blanket party.
Noting really ruff, just enough to let her know that if she continues,
she gets another blanket party.
zvnteq7
Step 1... lay off methamphetamine
D@Z
"annoyed coworker" <nos...@please.thx> wrote in message
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> hello,
>
> This stupid bitch *snip*
I suggest you download some porn on her works PC when she's not about, tell
your boss your suspicions about her inappropriate use of company computers
and sit back and watch the fun.. alternatively get a life or find a new
easier job for you where you don't need to interact with other people...a
lighthouse keeper for example
regards