sand on each side of the scales, achieving a balance of weight.
We do the same thing in recovery. We sit down with the foundation
of our clean time and the Twelve Steps, then attempt to add
scales balance. Our first try may throw our personal scales out of
kilter. We may find that, because of our over-involvement in service,
of the scales go out of balance.
We can ask for help from members who have stabilized their scales.
These people are easy to recognize. They appear serene, composed,
and self-assured. They'll smile in recognition at our dilemma and share
either side of the scales, and were rewarded with balance in recovery.
Just for today: I seek balance in my life. Today, I will ask others to
share their experience in finding that balance. pg. 137
Just For Today Daily Meditation is the property of Narcotics Anonymous ©
1991 by World Service Office Inc.
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A Lifetime Process
We were having trouble with personal relationships, we couldn't control our
emotional natures, we were a prey to misery and depression, we couldn't
make a living, we had a feeling of uselessness, we were full of fear, we
were unhappy, we couldn't seem to be of real help to other people. . . .
ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 52
These words remind me that I have more problems than alcohol, that alcohol
is only a symptom of a more pervasive disease. When I stopped drinking I
began a lifetime process of recovery from unruly emotions, painful
relationships, and unmanageable situations. This process is too much for
most of us without help from a Higher Power and our friends in the
Fellowship. When I began working the Steps of the A.A. program, many of
these tangled threads unraveled but, little by little, the most broken
places of my life straightened out. One day at a time, almost
imperceptibly, I healed. Like a thermostat being turned down, my fears
diminished. I began to experience moments of contentment. My emotions
became less volatile. I am now once again a part of the human family.
Copyright 1990 ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS WORLD SERVICES, INC
Daily Reflection In Loving Memory Of Scott Reeves
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Twenty-Four Hours A Day by Hazelden/ May 11th
A.A. Thought for the Day
We can depend on those members of any group who have gone
all out for the program. They come to meetings. They work
with other alcoholics. We don't have to worry about their
slipping. They're loyal members of the group. I'm trying to
be a loyal member of the group. When I'm tempted to take a
drink, I tell myself that if I did I'd be letting down the other
members who are the best friends I have. Am I going to let
them down, if I can help it?
Meditation for the Day
Wherever there is true fellowship and love between people,
God's spirit is always there as the Divine Third. In all human
relationships, the Divine Spirit is what brings them together.
When a life is changed through the channel of another person,
it is God, the Divine Third, who always makes the change, using
the person as a means. The moving power behind all spiritual
things, all personal relationships between people is God, the
Divine Third, who is always there. No personal relationships can
be entirely right without the presence of God's spirit.
Prayer for the Day
I pray that I may be used as a channel by God's spirit. I pray
that I may feel that the Divine Third is always there to help me.
"Twenty-Four Hours A Day" is a © Copyrighted book of
Hazelden Foundation. No portion of this publication may
be reproduced in any manner without the written
permission of Hazelden.
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Today's Thought
MAY 11
You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go.
Melody Beattie ©
Perfection
Many of us picked on ourselves unmercifully before recovery. We may also
have a tendency too pick on ourselves after we begin recovery.
If I was really recovering, I wouldn't be doing that again . . .. I should
be further along than I am. These are statements that we indulge in when
we're feeling shame. We don't need to treat ourselves that way. There is no
benefit.
Remember, shame blocks us. But self-love and acceptance enable us to grow
and change. If we truly have done something we feel guilty about, we can
correct it with an amend and an attitude of self-acceptance and love.
Even if we slip back to our old, codependent ways of thinking, feeling, and
behaving, we do not need to be ashamed. We all regress from time to time.
That's how we learn and grow. Relapse, or recycling, is an important and
necessary part of recovery. And the way out of recycling is not by shaming
ourselves. That leads us deeper into codependency.
Much pain comes from trying to be perfect. Perfection is impossible unless
we think of it in a new way: Perfection is being who and where we are today;
it's accepting and loving ourselves just as we are. We are each right where
we need to be in our recovery.
Today, I will love and accept myself for who I am and where I am in my
recovery process. I am right where I need to be to get to where I'm going
tomorrow.
©1990, Hazelden Foundation. All rights reserved. No portion of this
publication may be reproduced in any manner without the written permission
of the publisher.
~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*You Are A Miracle*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~
The Tao of Painful Relationships
www.inlightimes.com/archives/2006/05/doreen-virtue.htm
At The Heart Of Peace
We Are The Same
Remember The Child Within
Finding Joy
Inspirational movie, about 3 minutes long
Inspirational Spiritual Flash Movies
Has Anyone Told You
Meditationroom
Native American 10 Commandments
The Secret
~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*Keep It Simple*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~
No More Guilt
by Janet Dian
Ego does what is necessary to maintain its power. It does this by subdividing itself. In other words, the consciousness of your sub-personality creates other sub-personalities. In order to bring ego into balance, the following sub-personalities must also be brought into balance. Guilt is one of the more blatant sub -personalities of ego. It performs two primary functions for ego: importance and responsibility. Both make you feel needed as described below.
Guilt gives you importance in a variety of ways. Say you have a friend who has a life full of challenges. You know she feels better after talking to you, even though you feel drained. Yet you feel you must continue these conversations. After all, who else does she have? You feel guilty when thoughts of abandoning her enter your mind. Even though she is a drain on your mental health, her need for you makes you feel important. Guilt controls your actions. Instead of letting guilt control you, stop and evaluate: Did you create her life?
Are you responsible for her? Do you feel like a dumping ground? Is she interested in helping herself? Is it you she needs or would anyone willing to listen do? Does she want to put her life in order or on some level does she enjoy the confusion and turmoil?
Answer these questions by sending them up to your Oversoul (Oversoul - Neutral energy that comes out of God. Your Oversoul is to you what your Earth parents are to your body.) Ask for direction. You may find that instead of helping, you are interfering. Her challenges may be her motivation for change. Lessening her burdens may take away her opportunity for growth. Releasing her may mean releasing your opportunity to feel important and needed. Guilt tries to make you hang on. But you have to take control. Allowing her to have her own life in turn allows you to have yours.
Think about this. You have two children and a spouse that constantly make demands upon your time and energy. The occasional times that you tell them "no" you feel guilty. Is it necessary to feel guilty because you are unable to give beyond your capabilities?
Being responsible for everyone in the household acknowledges your importance. It makes you feel needed. In this case, guilt holds ego close to you. Letting go of some ego means letting others be responsible for themselves. Creating balance within allows others to do the same. Everyone around you is a reflection of self. Whenever you want change in the outer world, the inner world must change first. Instead of asking others to change, change self first.
Responsibility
Guilt makes you feel responsible even when you are not. It does this by telling you that you "should" have done this or that. The real you knows that if you could have done "that" you would have. You may say, "I shouldn't have yelled at him, but I did. Now I feel guilty." While it may be true that you are in the process of bringing anger into balance, it is not in balance yet. Do the best that you can with your current capabilities. Then evaluate the situation so you can do better the next time. That is all. Release these thoughts and feelings to your Oversoul, along with your need for guilt.
Guilt makes you feel responsible for people/situations for which you are not responsible. Look at the way charities use guilt when they solicit money. They show pictures of starving and/or diseased children and animals brutally treated. Without even bothering to investigate the legitimacy of these organizations, many people simply send money. Guilt says send money, so you do. Before sending money, it is important to first ask your Oversoul if this is a place that needs your money.
Guilt allows you to feel pressured by others to be someone that you are not; to give more of yourself than you are capable of giving. When you choose your own path, you may feel guilty for denying what other people want you to do.
For example, career choices create guilt for some people. Mom and Dad think you would make a great engineer. Without ever asking you, this is a career they assume you will follow. They may not ever take the time to know what is in your heart. Telling them otherwise can be very difficult. The guilt you feel for not pleasing your parents can be very heavy.
If you live close to your family, they may automatically assume that you will be available at any time to help family members, regardless of your plans. Being true to yourself means denying the needs of others. Breaking out of this pattern creates tremendous guilt. When others control you through guilt, who you are often gets lost in the process.
As much as you may want to do something else, it sometimes becomes easier to let others control you rather than stand up for self. When pleasing others means denying the needs of self, weigh what you can and cannot live with. You may decide that it is easier to deny your own needs rather than live with the guilt of displeasing others. The additional weight of guilt that others place on you (and you allow) would be too much. Although this may cause resentment, you may choose to carry resentment rather than guilt. Guilt grabs the opportunity to take control of the situation.
When you choose to deny your own needs, thus damaging self, do so in awareness. Becoming aware of what you do and the consequences of your decisions are the first steps to self-healing. Only by becoming aware can you move on to self-healing.
Be True To Self
Continue to strengthen self-esteem, explaining your changes to the people around you via the involved Oversouls. Remember, you cannot change them. You can only change self. Nor is it your responsibility to change them. However, it is your responsibility to respect their choices. Release them to their Oversouls, letting them go on their way. Have compassion for them. Realize that they try to control with guilt because they are afraid.
Sometimes when you are true to self, guilt gets fed anyway. Not being able to save a drowning person might allow guilt to live on forever. Yet, perhaps this was the time and way that person chose to go. If you had been able to save him/her, you might have been interfering in his/her life pattern. These are difficult calls to make. Each one is uniquely personal. That is why it is so important to open your inner channels of communication. Let your Oversoul instruct your reality. Release the need for illusion to guide you.
Guilt helps you hold on to other people. In the same way that other people try to control you with guilt, you do the same. Listen to your words. Watch your actions. Look for the many subtle ways that you try to control with guilt: "Do this for me or I'll be hurt." "If you go, I'll worry." "You haven't written in ages; are you okay?"
Other Forms Of Ego
Ego comes in a variety of forms. Continue to develop self-awareness so that you can identify and label them. Once labeled, "you" can take control. Merely send all the excess orange energy up to your Oversoul.
There are other forms of ego which include:
POWER. You are not here to have power over anything. You are here to work with and to appreciate the natural abilities of All That Is.
SELF-AGGRANDIZEMENT. You are not more important than anyone else. You cannot be the boss if you do not have any workers. Workers merely establish who is the boss and who is not.
SUPERIORITY. You are not better than anyone else. You may have skills that someone else does not have, but they may have skills that you do not have. Being different from others does not make you better; it simply makes you different.
EMBARRASSMENT. Embarrassment allows the outer world to totally define you for the moment. Praise may embarrass you as quickly as criticism. Accept the compliments. Evaluate the criticism. Do the best that you can with the tools, experiences, and knowledge that you have. Accept self as is in any given moment.
DEFENSIVENESS. Ego blocks out the words of other people. Learn to listen. Others may be aware of parts of self that you cannot yet see. Evaluate all words spoken to you to determine their validity. Allow others to teach you.
STUBBORNNESS. Stubbornness is a wall of ego that will not let the real you through. It is a defense mechanism that prevents you from admitting, "I'm wrong; you're right." Acknowledging that someone else is right acknowledges that you need to grow. That can sometimes be a very painful admission.
CONTROL AND MANIPULATION. Gain control of your life only long enough to give that control to your Oversoul and God. With increased self-awareness, become a conscious co-creator of your life.
MEDDLING. Release the need to play God. You did not create the challenges of others. Thus, it is not your place to solve them. On some level of awareness others want the satisfaction of solving their own challenges. Ask permission through the involved Oversouls before offering help to anyone. Find out if they truly need and want help.
The ego has been the downfall of many. It is strong, powerful, and sneaky. Just when you think it is in balance, it gains control of you once again. Respect its power and all that it has taught you. But now it is time for you to take back the power that is rightfully yours. Your personal recipe is in the process of conscious change.
Janet Dian Swerdlow is an internationally known author, seminar leader, lecturer, and mystic. The above was excerpted from her book series, "In Search of Yourself ? Finding The Balance", ?1993. Janet helps others focus and build on inner communication skills, strengthening the connection between Self, Oversoul and God. She can be reached at: Expansions Publishing, POB 1473, Lake Grove NY 11755-1473 USA.
~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*One Day At A Time*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~
Believe
I believe in you
I believe in me
I believe in the rooms
I believe in HP
Before I was shown
my stumbling way here
all I'd known
was self pity and fear
I know how to laugh
I know how to live
I know when to be silent
I know how to give
Before I came to this magical place
I thought that the answer was out of my face
thought I could float, isolated in space;
thought I had vanished without a trace.
Thought honesty was only for fools
laughed when you told me,
you could give me the tools.
Cried when you held me
and said "it's OK,
it's not a life-time
it's Just for Today"
Now today is tomorrow
but it's still just a day
less of the sorrow
and less of the pain
You believed in me
and I believe in you
I believe in the hope
and the good things we do.
written by - RJ Phillips
punksq...@fsmail.net~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*First Things First*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~
Touch
There are so many ways to touch a person
soft ways, distant ways, hugging ways
the beauty of a touch is that an exchange
of energy is provoked/provided
a flash of recognition
a spark of electric fire
like a burning tree dispelling dark at midnight
a transformation elicited
a dance from one cosmos being to another
a knowing deep warm
a metamorphosis
in the psychic realm
I am I yet I am you
you are you yet you are me
the miracle is that bodies
that touch, however briefly
are changed
forever
Love
Stella
© 2000 Stella Savoie
stellar...@soulopen.comPrinted with Permission
~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*Easy Does It*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~
Inside Job
An ancient parable tells that the Lord God, who created the
earth, did not want to give happiness to women and men directly,
but rather hide it from them so that they could search for it. So
the Lord called a council of the good spirits and asked where
happiness could be hidden.
One spirit suggested that the bottom of the sea would be a good
place as people would not be able to reach it. But Lord did not
think it a suitable place as they could dive down and find it.
Another suggested that it be hidden in the deepest mine. But
again the Lord said they would soon discover it.
Finally the idea came that it be hidden in the depths of men's
and women's hearts, because they would look for happiness
everywhere except within themselves...
Have you been searching for peace and contentment? Happiness is,
after all, an inside job.
~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*Live And Let Live*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~
Principles of the Twelve Steps
1. Honesty/ Acceptance
2. Hope/ Open-mindedness
3. Faith/ Willingness
4. Courage
5. Integrity/Trust
6. Willingness
7. Humility
8. Unconditional Love
9. Forgiveness/ Self Discipline
10. Perseverance
11. Ever Presence of God/ Spirituality
12. Service
~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*Keep The Focus On You*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~
Who'da Thunk?
Thought the answers that I knew
The many questions in my mind
Now seems the lessons that I got
Were of a different kind
Tis' dangerous to think you know
Just what it is you seek
When all you think is self-willed thought
Its hard getting a truthful peek
What lies ahead we do not know
Nor have to fret or doubt
Just take each day as the gift it is
Embracing all with Love I'm left to shout
It really is amazing
As manipulation fades away
Left with guidance not our own
To start each 24, living life "Just for Today"
To think I knew what was to come
And how my life would be
Its plain to see with upward growth
In retrospect I cheated me!
Nothing left to do or say
The now is what to live
I see the change that has occured
No longer taking, just here to give
Who'da thunk? that in this life
Theories could manifest
All mistakes were not in vain
Living my highest good and best
Thankful now to see the light
That I had shut down to
Wiser yes, but teachable
Otherwise, I'd still play the fool
To all I've met, encountered in
My lessons as I grow
I thank you all for untold gifts
Helping me stay, not to run or go
AJ ~ 1/3/97
aj4...@comcast.net 5/9/04
~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*Let God and Let Go*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~
Twelve Steps of a Relapse
1. I decided I could handle any emotional problems if other
people would just quit trying to run my life.
2. I firmly believe that there is no greater power than myself and anyone
who says differently is insane.
3. Made a decision to remove my will and my life from God, who didn't
understand me anyhow.
4. I made a searching and thorough inventory of everyone I know,
so they couldn't fool me and take advantage of my good nature.
5. I sought these people out and tried to get them to admit to me, by
God,the nature of their wrongs.
6. I became willing to help these
people get rid of their defects of character.
7. I was humble enough to ask these people to remove their
shortcomings.
8. I kept a list of all people who had harmed me and waited patiently
for a chance to get even with them.
9. I got even with all these people whenever possible except when to
do so would get me into trouble too.
10. I continued to take everyone's inventory and when they are wrong,
which is most of the time, I promptly make them admit it.
11. Sought through concentration of my will power to get God, who didn't
understand me anyhow, to see that all my ideas were best and He ought
to give me the power to carry it out.
12. Having maintained my emotional problems with these steps,
I can thoroughly recommend them to others who don't want to lose
their hard earned status, but wish to be left alone to practice their
neurosis in everything they do for the rest of their days.
~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*Come*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~
All our dreams can come true,
if we have the courage to pursue them.
Walt Disney
~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*Come To*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~
The biggest mistake we could ever make in our lives is
to think we work for anybody but ourselves.
Brian Tracy
~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*Come To Believe*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~
No one can make you feel inferior without your permission
Eleanor Roosevelt.
~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*Look For The Beauty*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~
The earth has been called "the classroom of this universe."
People are often brought together to learn from one another.
Two people may come together with personalities that compliment
each other so that one completes the other;
they share their energies and abilities.
They may function better together than separately.
Great learning and understanding
can take place in this type of relationship.
This type of relationship can be called karmic in the sense
that each person is better able to fulfill his
or her karma through that relationship.
Other people who are brought together to learn from one another
may resist or misunderstand the process;
they may see it as difficult or unpleasant.
In this way, the word "karma" sometimes becomes
associated with situations that seem bad.
Karma is not bad; karma is action, learning, progression;
often it is an opportunity for completion.
It is your attitude toward karma that can make it
seem either good or bad while you're going through it.
John-Roger
~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*Today Is A Gift*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~
If money can solve it then it's not a problem,
it's a situation,
If I use that's a problem.
~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*Keep Stepping*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~
The most powerful message about money,
is written on it, "In God we trust"
~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*Stay In The Light*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~
Money can be a mood or mind altering substance.
~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*One Promise, Many Gifts*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~
Money can't buy you love.
~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*Take A Moment To GIVE (NO COST)*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~
CLICK for FREE to Help people in Haiti
Click to GIVE @ the STOP HIV Site
Click to GIVE @ the Hunger Site
Click to GIVE @ the Breast Cancer Site
Click to GIVE @ the Rain Forest Site
Click to GIVE @ the Animal Rescue Site
Track Your Impact in GIVING
~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*One Promise, Many Gifts*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~
Adult Children of Alcoholics
Al-Anon/Alateen
Alcoholics Anonymous
Alcoholics Anonymous Deaf and Hard of Hearing
Artists Recovering through the Twelve Steps
Clutterer’s Anonymous
Cocaine Anonymous World Services
Co-Dependents Anonymous Home Page
Crystal Meth Anonymous
Criminal and Gangs Anonymous
Debtors Anonymous: A Twelve Step Fellowship for…
Depressed Anonymous
Dual Recovery Anonymous - a 12 Step program
Eating Disorders Anonymous
Emotions Anonymous
Families Anonymous
Gamblers Anonymous Official Home Page
Hepatitis C Anonymous
HIV Anonymous
The Marijuana Anonymous
Methadone Anonymous
Narcotics Anonymous Official Homepage
Earth Group N.A. online meetings
Nar-Anon is a family support group
Nicotine Anonymous (WWW Home Page) NA Home Page
Overeaters Anonymous
Parents Anonymous
Rape Survivors Anonymous
Recovering Couples Anonymous
Sexaholics Anonymous
Sex Addicts Anonymous
Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous
Shoplifters Anonymous
Spenders Anonymous
Survivors Of Incest Anonymous
Workaholics Anonymous
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