What is the role of a Ninong?
weil...@gmail.com
Have been asked to be a ninong at a friend's wedding and have no clue
of what this entails - being a foreigner. Can anyone clarify?
>From trawling the net, it seems to a a symbolic, cousellor role to the
couple, but info is a bit patchy. Is there more to it?
I would appreciate if someone can provide me with answers to the
following questions:
What are the social responsibilities of the Ninong to the couple?
What does the Ninong have to do at the wedding ceremony?
What are the costs of being a Ninong - e.g. is the Ninong expected to
underwrite/sponsor the cost of the wedding?
Thanks,
Cheeze
Well, the ninong is expected to give a very nice wedding present. One
ninong in my wedding gave us some expensive silverware. One ninang
gave us P20k. Another gave a microwave oven. But of course, it all
depends on the particular couple's social status, and of course if a
ninong who is not very rich, it is safe to say that the couple didn't
get him for his money, but perhaps they mean something to him.
I think there is also one perk to being a ninong. I read somewhere
that a ninong in a baptism is different from a ninong in a wedding in
this way: A ninong in a baptism is expected to give gifts to the child
during christmas. A ninong in a kasal expects to be given a gift
during christmas. These are just social norms however.
This is my belief, on whatever category you would fall into: give what
you feel free to give, and not what you think you are obligated to.
KobeWanKenobi
very nice wedding present. Some select them for the potential gifts
they give.
However, ideally, a ninong, or godfather in English, serves as the
principal sponsors during a wedding. They are in supposed to be
selected by a couple as honorable and excellent examples of married
individuals. Because they are excellent examples, they have the role of
being an extended family of the bride and groom by acting as advisers
for the many intricacies and complications of married life.
weil...@gmail.com
Does the term "Principal Sponsor" mean that the Ninong pays for the
cost of the wedding?
Does the Ninong have to do anything during the wedding?
Thanks
Just JT
Are you related to these people even by marriage? If not, then they see you
as a CASH COW.
--
DalubYouCarefulToTheirAsking
Just JT
>
> Does the term "Principal Sponsor" mean that the Ninong pays for the
> cost of the wedding?
You shouldn't unless the married couple tricked you into doing it. Usually
the ninong just gives a generous present and nothing more.
>
> Does the Ninong have to do anything during the wedding?
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
You're supposed to walk down the aisle and look pretty and all. Then you
sign some legal documents as witness.
Then at the wedding reception that's when you start emptying your pockets of
cash....
--
DalubIHardlyCarryAnyCash
Cheeze
Well just in case the spouses fight later on, you may be called on as a
witness to prove that the wedding took place. :-)
No you don't have to pay for the wedding.
weil...@gmail.com
none of these comments sounds good. Don't know if this opinion is
one-sided or biased... Is it really so bad? Should I think twice before
accepting?
btw - I am not related to the couple but an ex-employer.
Cheeze
I was kidding about being a witness ok! :-)
But your role as a ninong is merely to give a nice present. And during
christmas, its the couple's turn to give you a present. Remember that!
Don't think twice about accepting. Just don't feel obliged to give a
gift that is more than your conscience would allow.
Cheeze
Oh and don't listen to JT. He's just trying to scare you. THe choice
of ninongs normally goes into the degree of respect the couple has for
you, and you are a prime candidate being a former employer. In my
wedding, I had some of my law professors as my ninong.
KobeWanKenobi
do volunteer to pay the cost of the wedding or the reception or even
the honeymoon vacation, you are under no obligation to do the same. A
"regular" wedding gift (depends on what you consider as regular) will
already suffice. There are even instances where Ninong/Ninang are
selected because of a couple's respect even though that person is
incapable of even buying a small gift.
Just JT
I was made a ninong by an ex-scfer when he wed his bride. A wedding cash
gift of PhP10,000 is reasonable, I believe.
--
DalubItsTheThoughtWhichCounts
Just JT
>
> THe choice
> of ninongs normally goes into the degree of respect the couple has for
> you, and you are a prime candidate being a former employer.
When I wed, one of the ninongs was my big boss where I worked back then. And
he was really family, too, related to us by affinity.
In my case, I was asked to be a ninong because I personally introduced the
two love birds. Its kinda like if it weren't for me, they would not have
found each other.
--
DalubAndTheyCanAlsoBlameMeIfTheirMarriageTurnsBad,HuHuHu
weil...@gmail.com
Chris Blunt
<weil...@gmail.com> wrote:
Its nothing like as bad. Definitely accept the invitation, as to do
otherwise might cause offense.
I was a Ninong at a friend's wedding a couple of years ago. I gave a
gift (worth about P10,000), and was not expected to contribute
anything else towards the wedding costs. At the wedding itself you
will sit at a separate table with the other sponsors and probably be
expected to make a short speech. That's all there was to it for me.
Chris
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margo...@gmail.com
Actually ninong and ninang are kindda 2nd parents to the new couple.
They are one of the first people (aside from the parents) whom they
seek advise.
Regards,
MargoTaz
Orin Oríg
<margo...@gmail.com> wrote in message
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> Hi,
>
> Actually ninong and ninang are kindda 2nd parents to the new couple.
> They are one of the first people (aside from the parents) whom they
> seek advise.
>
> Regards,
>
> MargoTaz
>
>
It is also the same with the baptismal ninong and ninang.
These people are also responsible for the spiritual bringing of the child as
they promised in the baptismal vow.
This is a common misconception among Filipinos that ninong and ninang are
supposed to be the child sugar daddies and mommies.
Orinello
Congenital Kano
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From your fingers to my relos eyes...
It comes up a lot Pig
AmboyTexas
The important role of a Ninong (Godfather):
1. Wedding:
a. You were selected because either the parents or the bride & groom
considered as a person of high esteem, moral charactedr, and social
status;
b. Your wife also becomes the Ninang (Godmother);
c. You hold a special status and an active participant during the
church wedding ceremony and wedding reception;
d. It is customary to give the bride and groom a special gift of your
choice; and finally
e. The relationship will last a lifetime or until the relationship
with the wedded couple end for some reason,
f. The newly wed are your "Ina-Anak" (God-Child) the title they
earned and you use to address him or her; and
g. You become "Kumpare" and "Kumare" to the parents and address it's
other as such. The title you earned for life; and
2. Baptismal:
a. Same as (a), except you are chosen by the parent and (b) above;
b. Same as (c), except it's a church baptismal ceremony. After
Baptismal, the parent normally have a small reception (salo-salo)
normally at the parents home ;
c. Same as (d), except the gift is for the baby;
d. Same as (e), and a Ninong is considered the second parents.
Depending on how close your relation to this child as he/she grows up,
he/she will come to you for advise;
f. The child is your "Ina-Anak" (God-Child) the title he/she earned
and you use to address him or her; and
g. Same as (f), to the parents; and
In all cases, the parents bear the cost of the wedding & baptismal
ceremony and the reception. Unless, you opted to help financially,
depending on your relationship to the parents/child. A gift is
expected & customary from the Ninong or Ninang. Your choice of gift
can range from simple, practical, to extravant. Again, depending on
your relationship with the parents or the bride & groom. A very close
relative or friend chosen as Ninong or Ninang will give more than
required. Don't be scared man, your presence at the wedding or
baptismal is an honor bestowed on you. Use your best judgement.
Please post this type of questions for insights on Philippine culture
under "Soc.Culture.Filipino- Expat Pinoy & Kano" group.
Peace.
aka: Eloy from........
AmboyTexas
CORRECTION.... Damn spell check/grammar check, can't find it!
The important role of a Ninong (The Godfather):
1. Wedding:
a. You were selected because either the parents, the bride, or groom
revere you as a person of high esteem, moral character, and social
status;
b. Your wife also becomes the Ninang (Godmother);
c. You hold a special status and an active participant during the
church wedding ceremony and wedding reception;
d. It is customary to give the bride and groom a special gift of your
choice;
e. The relationship will last a lifetime or until the relationship
with the wedded couple and their parents ended for some reason;
f. The newly weds are your "Ina-Anak" (God-Child), the title they
earned and you use to address him or her. They call you Ninong/Ninang
out of reverence;
g. You become "Kumpare" and "Kumare" to both the parents of the bride
& groom.
You address it's other as such. The title you earned for life unless,
see (e); and
h. You are considered part of the extended family. In the
Pre-Spanish, this is a system of tribal alliances and the custom
continued with the Christian Spanish influence.
2. Baptismal:
a. Same as (1a), except you are chosen by the parent;
b. Same as (1b);
c. Same as (1c), except it's baptismal. After Baptismal, the parent
normally have a small reception (salo-salo) normally at the parents
house;
d. Same as (1d), except the gift is for a baby;
e. Same as (1e), a Ninong/Ninang is considered the second parents to
the child.
Depending on how close your relation to this child has become, he/she
will come to you for advise;
f. The child is your "Ina-Anak" (God-Child) the title he/she earned
and you use to address him or her;
g. Same as (1g), to the child parents; and
h. Same as (1h).