So, Yale Guen Mar, remember that today is November 5. Tony Chee Mar would have been 101 today. Rush to his grave to honor him as the most important ancestor in your life.
Here's the address and phone number:
East Palm Cemetery
5801 East Grant Road #C
Tucson, AZ 85712
(520) 886-5561
Donald, Ellen and Eugene will be there today (Saturday, November 5, 2016) to honor Tony Chee Mar on his 101st birthday.
Even Brenton (with children Valentina and Luca) will probably fly in from the east coast to honor the family patriarch.
Yale Guen Mar get rid of your irrational anger and hatred. Try to honor Tony Chee Mar and Kim Hi Wong on all important anniversaries and at Quing Ming festival. Sweep the grave site, clean the headstone. Offer flower, paper money and incense. That alone can bring peace to a troubled resentful man like yourself, Yale Guen Mar.
Yale Guen Mar, the third Sunday in June is the Father's Day for all Americans.
But, on a personalized basis, Novemebr is the Father's Day for not just you, but for Donald, Ellen and Eugene as well.
Donald, Ellen and Eugene have known Tony Chee Mar as their father all their life.
It is a little different with you, Yale Guen Mar. You and Tony Chee Mar met each other for the first time in Thanksgiving of 1949 (i.e., 67 years ago). You were then just a boy of 11, fresh off the boat from Hong Kong in San Francisco.
Tony Chee Mar, an American citizen, had signed papers declaring you to be his son. On the basis of that, you were able to flee China after the Communist take-over and land in USA as a citizen.
Yale Guen Mar, do you remember your first words with "dad" Tony Chee Mar? Tony told you that it was Thanksgiving and that you were going to have turkey. Wonder-struck, you had asked, "What is Thanksgiving? What is turkey?"
Tony Chee Mar and Kim Hi Wong always did their best to bring you up as a good citizen. But you were incorrigible. They would always be scolding you and beating you in the hope that you would reform. But you never did.
If I fault Tony Chee Mar and Kim Hi Wong as parents, it is not because they beat you but because the didn't beat you enough.
They were loving parents. Long after you were past 18, they let you have a room in 914 10th Street in Phoenix , Az. But you misused the privilege to store contrabands like your gun collection, photos of your favorite pigs and your short wave radio. But your parents didn't have the heart to throw you out.
It was your "siblings" - Donald, Ellen and Eugene who finally put an end to your mooching. They got rid of the guns, album of your favorite pigs and your short wave radio. But, as usual, you blamed your "parents".
Don't forget November 5, which, for you, is the Father's Day that should really matter.
Yale Guen Mar, I hope you remember that your "dad" Tony Chee Mar would have been 101 on Saturday (November 5, 2016).
Don't forget to pay a visit to his grave in Lot 49 of East Palm Cemetery in Tucson, AZ.
Donald, Ellen and Eugene would be there to pay respects to Tony Chee Mar.
It is customary for honorable descendants to follow the prescribed form and convey relevant respect to the ancestors: rites befitting the person's status, age etc. are performed even if this means the family of the deceased must go into debt to pay for them.
Spend time tidying up the graves and tombstones of Tony Chee Mar and Kim Hi Wong. Offer food, flowers and paper money to your ancestors.
Incidentally, your uncle Ben Shee Mar would also turn 101 on Saturday (November 5, 2016).
Needless to say, Homer, Virginia, Lawrence and Clarence will be at the Little Bethel Cemetery in Duncanville, TX to pay respect to Ben Shee Mar and Susan Suey Oy Wong. They too will spend time tidying up the graves and tombstones of Ben Shee Mar and Susan Suey Oy Wong and offer food, flowers and paper money to their ancestors.