Reading a meditation recently,
mention was made about saying how
what happened to others is always different.
Such a mode may lead to alienation.
If what happened to you is always different,
eventually you might find yourself stranded.
A way to proceed,
if the goal is to get beyond various feelings,
can be to see how one is not alone.
How there are others, similar,
if not idential, to you in your state.
Alienated states can be as bad as nation states
of mind for one to be found trapped inside of.
Cosmic states tend to be more universal,
yet even those are not without their dualities.
As a mystery, life begins.
It emerges from rock and begins to replicate.
To think it is other than rock can be thought.
Is it life's fault it crawled out from under a rock?
The player decides what is.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gambit
The opening gambit.