Consecutive aliyot for family members

[Matthew Lipman]

Hi all,
 
I was asked by some of our members to post the following two-part question about family-members and aliyot.
 
What do you do about giving consecutive aliyot to spouses?
What do you do about giving consecutive aliyot to daughter/father, mother/son, mother/daughter etc combinations?
 

(i.e. familial relationships that the classical halachic literature would not have dealt with.)

Are there any articles that address specifically the example given above?
 
Thanks and Shabbat shalom,
 
Matthew

[Sarah Weinberg]

Hi Matthew,

At Kol Sasson we do not give consecutive aliyot to spouses and we do not give consecutive aliyot to any parent/child combinations.  

This is based on guidance from our rabbinic advisor over the years, but I don't have the specific sources.  I don't have it in front of me, but I believe somewhere the Koren-Sacks siddur talks about the reason brothers don't have aliyot one after another has to do with minimizing nepotism.  These decisions about spouses are in the spirit of that same reasoning.

Kol Tov,

Sarah Weinberg

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[Alexandra Benjamin]

I have always assumed this is more in the realm of minhag than halacha. At shira hadasha we do give consecutive aliyot to spouses.  Most commonly in the context of Shabbatot Chatanim/Kallot which often occur after the wedding. 

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[Jonathan Stein]

This halacha is in fact based on superstition - a belief that giving back to back communal honors to members of a family will put them at risk of harm from the evil eye. 

The Shulchan Aruch writes (Orach Chayim 141:6) states, “We may call two brothers one after the other or a son after his father. However [based on the Maharil], we do not do so because of ayin hara.”

When this issue was first raised at Darkhei Noam in NY we felt that since we were not terribly concerned about the evil eye, and that was no formal prohibition on spousal or opposite gender back to back aliyot, we should allow them, especially for semachot.

I'm glad to see this is what Shira Hadasha does as well.

[Simon Weintraub]

At Darchai Noam (Modiin) the custom is not to call two brothers in a row, father and son etc… but this does not extend to spouses, two sisters etc… at least when I was a gabbi since we  thought that it would be burdensome and that there was no strong halachic reason to extend this custom.

 

Simon

 

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