You do this almost like you would on Linux, just prefix your command with what will spawn it nicely =). Sounds like you want something like this:
child_process.spawn('cmd.exe', ['/low', '/s', '/c', 'java -jar my.jar'], ...).
If you're already seeing "cmd.exe" in task manager and that's not what you're launching, it sounds like you're using child_process.exec (which launches a shell to interpret your command) instead of .spawn or .execFile (which just launch your command, but require/allow you to specify individual arguments in an array, instead of playing with appropriate quoting and escaping which might get ugly in this case depending on what you're launching =).
Hope this helps!
Jimb Esser