I'll take a shot at some of this: First off, you usually want to be done manipulating hives well before Dec. 1. You want the bees to have their housekeeping set up for the winter by now. We caught a break this year with the mild weather, but in the future try to have things squared up by Nov.1.
Frames with wax moths? Freeze them. Either in a freezer or else store them in an unheated garage, shed, etc., for the winter. They die fast. If the frames aren't totally destroyed, you can put them on a good hive next spring and the bees will clean them up.
Wax moths in an active hive? That's bad news. Usually, in a healthy hive, the bees will police the moths out. If they're established, then your hive is probably not as healthy as you think, or you have too much room for your bee population to police. Getting rid of some of the dead boxes and infested frames will probably help, but the moth larvae in the heated hive will probably continue to cause trouble if the bees can't keep up with them.
How much honey? The number 80-100lbs is tossed around a lot, which is basically 1 deep or 2 mediums full of honey. I overwinter pretty regularly with 2 deeps, 1 of which is full of honey, plus a shim with a fondant cake as emergency feed. Some folks will go with 1 deep+1 medium full of honey for winter. Like you said, it depends on how many bees you have going in. I wouldn't scrape frames of honey back into the hive just because of the mess.
If you had a condensation problem, try to get some sort of upper opening to get some air flow. Even a popsicle stick under a cover can help. Just something to let the moist air rise and exit the hive.
Other than that, at this point in the season, just make sure they have a good quantity of honey on and let them go. Good luck.