Great question – we will permit an “in memorium” on the tablets – remember we are a memorial park so everything is “flat” – no headstones. The number of names is limited by the size of the tablet so usually no more than two will fit.
In addition, while we are owned and operated by a conservative synagogue we will bury the non-Jewish spouse with the Jew.
As an aside, I notice on your web site that you have made searches for graves available on Jewish Gen – How was that decision arrived at and why? We are looking into such issues now.
Thanks and be well.
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Ay Mt Sinai in Phoenix, AZ, we do not have the large family monument with names and footstones. Our monuments are only engraved with the names of those buried in the graves below it. We do not allow cenotaphs – names on the stone of those buried elsewhere. We have a granite Legacy Book, where names of Jewish loved ones buried elsewhere in the world can be memorialized with a beautiful bronze plaque. This can satisfy the memorialization of a Jewish person who has been cremated as well.
Sandy Rife
General Manager
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Subject: [jewish-funerals] Additional Names on Existing Matzevah
We're wondering how other cemeteries handle requests to add names to an existing headstone (for people not buried at our cemetery)?
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This is a really interesting question - and not one that we've faced in the 130 or so years of our cemetery (Durham Hebrew Cemetery). But we will surely talk about it! What we do have, in addition to the yahrzeit board in the synagogue (Beth El), is a
'memorial wall' in our cemetery - it was designed as a place to inscribe exactly the sorts of names you're talking about - deceased buried elsewhere and deceased who were cremated so there is no monument to visit. We have an annual cemetery visitation and
the 'wall' gives congregants an opportunity to visit something physical at our cemetery along with congregants who have relatives buried here and can visit an actual tombstone. The 'wall' was designed for up to 4 names per 'face' and a place to leave stones
for each individual inscribed on the 'face'.
Not exactly an answer to your question - but a viable alternative to adding names to a particular tombstone.
David Klapper
Chair, Chevra Kaddisha
Beth El synagogue, Durham, N.C.
Our practice in Eugene, Oregon is the same as Joel Etra
describes. Add any names wanted, including those buried or
cremated elsewhere to honor their memories, just no religious
symbols inconsistent with Judaism.
Libby Bottero