“I'm so very very glad the culture here is such that people manage to treat each other civilly, without the imposition of an authoritarian "code of conduct".”
I’ll encourage you to take another close read of that blog post I linked (and linked again below) because had the exact same point of view, until I realized how much happened that I wasn’t seeing, and how many people have responded (often privately, for a variety of reasons) with specific stories about interactions that came from surprising sources.
It’s very easy to feel like everyone is civil and respectful when you’re the one on the receiving end of it. I was totally blind to the people in our community who weren’t, until we created a channel for them to talk about it.
I was ESPECIALLY concerned about policing behaviors. Our first line of action is to listen and support. We encourage members to talk to each other about conflicts, and support them in productive ways to resolve it if they choose to.
What I realized was how many people didn’t even realize what they were doing or saying to others was hurtful, and they actually WANTED to change or avoid making the mistake again.
It took me a while to really wrap my head around this, but I’m so glad I did and the positive impact it’s had is already measurable. That’s why I wrote about the lessons I had to learn to get to that point here:
https://dangerouslyawesome.com/2018/01/towards-a-more-diverse-and-inclusive-coworking-community/