Dear Mike,
> the usual apartness coincides with the negation of equality.
I would say that apartness (aka inequality) is the natural
relation on the real numbers and that it is unnatural to
introduce equality at all other than as negation of apartness.
Arguments in Archimedes and eg Heyting's book "Intuitionism.."
work with apartness rather than equality.
Topologically, this reflects the fact that R is Hausdorff
and not discrete.
I think most of the issues with LPO etc go away if you look
at things in this way - see my "Lambda Calculus for Real
Analysis"
www.paultaylor.eu/ASD/lamcra
However, the way in which you posed your question and
others have answered it suggests that you are working in
a topos (or maybe HoTT). I have nothing to add in that
situation.
Paul