We played D&D together. He tended to run the game. What was he like? He tended to play like a 'rules lawyer'. He knew and played all the rules and had everything committed to memory. Why do I mention this? He was a quiet and quite introverted life. He spent a long time thinking about things, thinking about things. What do I know about him? He was unhappy. He is gay and obese and not extremely good looking. I remember one time he had returned from a multi-hundred mile trip to find a date, only to be stood up. He also halfheartedly propositioned a few people from our game, including my teenage son. My son easily deflected the advance and that was it. We all knew that Geoff was lonely and Geoff never did anything more than talk. He never did anything more than talk! He never talked about S&M or bondage. Given what I knew about Geoff, I would not be surprised if he was into that scene, but S&M is not against the law.