Listing of single-serving friendships and other special people in my life
Robert Maas, see http://tinyurl.com/uh3t
- David K. Harrison (came to my off-campus room to investigate and
offer help when I hadn't been attending classes due to severe
depression caused by despondency caused by extreme loneliness
caused by total social deprivation while in graduate school at U.O.)
- Dave Goldfarb's mother (let me sleep in my car in front of their house)
- Duane Austin (let me sleep in my car in his back yard)
- Steve J. Kudlak (friend in need, counselling, when I was hurting over BetsyL)
- Estelle Bertolucci (shoulder to cry on, literally, when I was hurting over LitalR)
- Julia Jackovich (friend in need, companionship, when I was hurting over LitalR)
- "cafrin" a.k.a. "dead2u" (defended me in newsgroup)
- Ann Lee Francis ("Annie") Boone (defended me in Yahoo! Group)
- Julie Gardner (stuck by me, and tried to help me, after I fell
over ledge into blackberry bushes and was stuck semi-upsidedown for
nearly an hour, while several joggers/hikers just went by ignoring us)
Friends in need (not personal):
- Marcel Vinokur (gave me $200 when I was broke)
- Hans P. Moravec (loaned me his old bicycle after my car broke down)
(See also Judy Ratto's 1994 special point.)
Mentors taking me "under their wings" to enlighten me:
- Abraham P. Hillman (got me started on SCU undergraduate research project)
- Ed McGuire (challenged me to be a "hacker")
- Hans P. Moravec (explained Lisp's read-eval-print loop)
- Hans P. Moravec (loaned me "The Selfish Gene", no further explanation needed)
- R. W. "Bill" Gosper (taught me how to use chopsticks)
- R. W. "Bill" Gosper (enlightened me about a la carte Chinese food)
- Steve J. Kudlak (introduced me to the concept of "J. Random Day")
- Dorothy Read (loaned me "Symbiosis in Cell Evolution", no further explanation needed)
- Janet "JackieChanFan" (tricked me into saying 'hi' to strangers for first time)
- Julia Jackovich (coined the term "single-serving friendship" and explained it)
- Julie Gardner (did cognitive behavioural therapy to reduce my verbal diarrhea)
Romantic people I've met or otherwise communicated with:
- Cynthia Engle/Whitman, my cousin (painted oil of ship lost in lonely sea)
- Lisa Aschmann (wrote romantic song lyrics: "You could light the
lights tonight all over town, with the flame that burns inside me. ...
When you hold me in your arms I swear my cares just melt like
candles. ...", and gave me a professional-quality cassette of it)
- Lital Rudoy (many examples of sexual fantasy such as licking rain off her skin)
- Heather Thompson ("age is just a number" when it comes to her
passion for me that resulted in her building/maintaining a shrine
for me on her computer)
- Dana Sinclair (painted picture expressing what she wanted in
life: two palm trees male and female at end of road with car
arrived there, no other cars or trees in sight, symbolizing
finding a man to join her in escaping from the noise of
construction work adjacent to where she lived that was driving her
"batty" and reside together in peace somewhere, and gave it to me as a gift)
People who truly appreciated my help, longterm (at least a year):
- SaraBethT of Vancouver BC (after I helped her deal with a trauma
she had suffered when she was pre-teen)
People who truly appreciated my help, but only briefly:
- Emma Harrison (after I took her in when she was stranded in MV with
no place to stay, after she'd taken the bus 3000 miles to move
in with her e-boyfriend but he had found a new girlfriend instead
while she was en route)
- Lital Rudoy (for my romantic variation of the Cinderella story as a
metaphor for our e-relationship)
- ?forgot?name? in Lufkin Texas (for my posted definition of "friend")
- Annie Boone (after I showed her, by my example, that not all guys are
abusive, causing her to cancel her plans to commit suicide by
hanging herself from a tree in the hills above Santa Cruz on her
28th birthday)
- Julie Gardner (after I showed her that she could trust me, so that
when her mother threw her out for breaking the house rules one time
too many she came to stay with me for two weeks)
- Bonny Lang (after I explained how I had offered to compromise
with Heather Thompson in 1999 by "half meeting" her, by arranging
"hi en passent" in supermarket aisle, so that I could see what she
looked like without sticking her in a stressful situation of being
expected to carry on her side of an ongoing live converstation when
she was embarassingly "tongue tied" due to shyness; Bonny agreed
that I had been entirely reasonable in offering that compromise,
and Heather had been unreasonable in dissing me off and terminating
communication and not even telling me about the shrine she
shortly-later made for me on her computer even for 2.5 months after
her former boyfriend John Piper discovered it and told me about it)
Telephone friend (short term):
- Carrie Sandeen (for one week, including "pillow talk" for hours at bedtime)
People who understood how I really felt, because they had similar experience:
- Betsy Lasarow (unable to get help during super-high fever,
resultant severe damage to body/brain functions/parts)
- ?fake?persona? Bronwyn Kelly (working late to avoid going home to be alone)
- Judy Safer (how it really feels to be shy)
- Emma Harrison (not having any MOTOS companionship)
Real-life friend for longer than single serving:
<nil>
Telephone friend for longer than a week:
<nil>
Met (in RL) nice single woman close to my age:
<nil>
Met (in RL) nice single woman of *any* age who found me seriously attractive:
<nil>
Met (in RL) single woman of *any* age who found me seriously attractive:
- Julie Gardner (stood with me in front of mirror and pointed out
several features of my face that she found attractive, but she was
half drunk at the time, she would never do that for me when
sober, and she got fully drunk and began hitting me with her
beer bottle, and when I took away the bottle and wouldn't give it
back she left me and never came back)
Double-matched on HotOrNot and willing to tell me her general location:
- Gal in Philippines (too far to be practical for meeting)
- Gal in Canada (too far to be practical for meeting)
- Gal in Ghana, Africa (too far to be practical for meeting)
Double-matched on HotOrNot who really wants to meet me and lives in USA:
<nil>
People who scored the most "special points":
- Julie Gardner (42 points in 25 days, 4 points in just the first day)
- Annie Boone (12 points in 12 days scattered across 2000.Aug-Nov)
- Dana Sinclair (5 points in 2 days)
- Judy Ratto (4 points total = 3 circa 1985 + 1 in 1994)
People who liked the same music I liked, or were willing to listen with me anyway:
- Zachary Patrick Maas (but he was too young to really appreciate the lyrics)
- Miranda Renee Maas (but she was too young to really appreciate the lyrics)
My lifelong dream: To meet a nice woman close to my age while we
were in our early/mid 20's, then get married after I got my Ph.D.
in math and consequently a good job in computer/math research at
age 26, then start a family, having three intelligent and inventive
children, and take care of them until they reached adulthood, and
the my sweet wife and I would grow old together, not caring about
our wrinkles because growing old was gradual and we always saw each
other the way we were at our best. My LSFF (Lifelong Special Female
Friend) would be intelligent (science) and affectionate (cuddling),
never smoke any tobacco whatsoever, and drink little or no alcohol.
My lifelong truth: Life sucks, then it gets worse, and worse, then
you die. When you are very young, everyone lies and says life gets
better when you are a teenager, but when it gets worse they say
teenage years are a difficult time but things get a lot better when
you are an adult, but when it just keeps getting worse and worse
all though your adult life they always say I shoudn't rush things,
I need to wait a little bit longer, and when I'm on my deathbed
they aren't around for me to strangle in retaliation for a lifetime
of lies and false promises.
Today's new quote (adapted from the second cut of a Mickey Newberry
CD that an anonomous penpal sent me from JohnstownPA a few months
ago but which I never felt like sitting alone listening to it until
this morning during my B.M.): "My shattered dreams, are like broken
glass, cutting through my deepest feelings, leaving me emotionally
dead."
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Titanium
wrote:
> - Dave Goldfarb's mother (let me sleep in my car in front of their house)
Is this the same guy I also know? He now should be in his late 40s -
early 50s. I believe he attended one of those UC schools in Cali.
There are probably others with the same exact names but I'm happening
to ask because the guy I knew is your type ,and also one would expect
to find on this forum.
aj suburban dude
On Dec 11, 12:00 pm, rem6...@yahoo.com (Robert Maas, see http://tinyurl.com/uh3t)
wrote:
Nil
> On Dec 11, 1:00 pm, rem6...@yahoo.com (Robert Maas, seehttp://tinyurl.com/uh3t)
> wrote:
>
> > Single-serving personal friendships:
> > - David K. Harrison (came to my off-campus room to investigate and
> > offer help when I hadn't been attending classes due to severe
> > depression caused by despondency caused by extreme loneliness
> > caused by total social deprivation while in graduate school at U.O.)
> > - Dave Goldfarb's mother (let me sleep in my car in front of their house)
> > - Duane Austin (let me sleep in my car in his back yard)
> > - Steve J. Kudlak (friend in need, counselling, when I was hurting over BetsyL)
> > - Estelle Bertolucci (shoulder to cry on, literally, when I was hurting over LitalR)
> > - Julia Jackovich (friend in need, companionship, when I was hurting over LitalR)
> > - "cafrin" a.k.a. "dead2u" (defended me in newsgroup)
> > - Ann Lee Francis ("Annie") Boone (defended me in Yahoo! Group)
> > - Julie Gardner (stuck by me, and tried to help me, after I fell
> > over ledge into blackberry bushes and was stuck semi-upsidedown for
> > nearly an hour, while several joggers/hikers just went by ignoring us)
>
Where I am now? I cannot find my name on your lists. Why in a short
period of time you forgot me?????