Best Hookup Sites: The Top Legit Sex Dating Websites Compared
July 19, 2019/ Tony
Over the last 3 years, I’ve tested 17 popular hookup sites and apps. There’s been some good ones, some bad ones, and some downright awful ones.
In short, I’ve got a lot of experience browsing hookup sites and searching for casual sex online.
So in this post, I’m bringing it all together and rounding up the sites that actually got me results, along with some steamy details of each.
1
Craigslist Activities (Formerly Craigslist Personals)
Best Free Hookup Site & Local Personals
Highlights & Features
Simple layout
Zip code search
Can change cities for localizes results
Briefing about the age, location, and what the poster is looking for
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You’ve probably heard of Craigslist Personals before, it was the best hookup site from 2001 to 2018. However, in 2018 they shut the personals section down because of the FOSTA-SESTA law passed by congress.
At first, I panicked, I had used personals for about 5 years to find casual sex whenever I needed it. And when I didn’t, I still checked out personals regularly just because it was pretty darn fun to see the missed encounters, naked pics, and all the passion that came with it.
A takedown felt like the end of the world for the hookup scene.
But after a few months, everyone moved to posting in the ‘Activities’ section of craigslist for sex (top left corner on the CL homepage). And now in late 2019 it’s just as active as personals was before the shutdown.
The main downside of Craigslist Activities is that the posts are a bit more discreet and you can’t post nudes, so you need to use a bit of analysis and guesstimate who is down for free sex (almost everyone is though). Just don’t say anything about trading money for it and your time is guaranteed to be smooth.
Each post normally has the contact info for the person you have an interest. You would need to read their proposals to see if that person is someone you want to have a romantic encounter. Then, you would need to get to know them, trade photos, and ask questions. Craigslist is just an introduction.
My hope is that the new law will be overturned and Craigslist personals will be restored to its rightful place as the best adult hookup site ever. Until then, I put together a list of my favorite Craigslist personals alternatives that you can find by clicking HERE. Many of the sites on this list are also on that one, but with an emphasis on the classifieds.
Pros
Free
So damn easy to work
Straight to the point local m4w, m4m, w4w, or w4mw hookups
Cons
Most users do not have photos
Too much time and energy: need to email the prospect unless they put their phone number, kik, or snap in the post
No verification of any kind; any damn body can post on CL
You need to manually find the Activities and Personals sections by searching manually through the Craigslist.com homepage
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2
Adult Friend Finder
Best Site Dedicated to Hookups Only
Highlights & Features
#1 site for local hookups
80+ million users
Thousand of matches
Virtual gift-giving
Galleries for Private and Public photos
'Hot or Not' game to keep you entertained while searching for someone
Comprehensive search with keywords targeting
Visa, Discover, MasterCard, JCB, and Sepa are all accepted if you decide to sign up for a membership
Visit Adult Friend Finder
The main reason AdultFriendFinder isn’t at the top of my list is that it isn’t a 100% free hookup site. They require guys to pay a monthly membership fee in an effort to make the girl to guy ratio more balanced.
Adult Friend Finder started back in 1996 and was one of the first hookup sites ever. When most veteran swingers are looking for some extra side-action, they will check their AFF messages and hope to see that notification icon.
The people on this site are serious about casual sex. To message new people, you need a gold membership, but to receive messages it’s completely free. This structure balances out the girl to guy ratio perfectly, and it’s easy to find responsive women.
The site has lots of other cool features, too, it feels like a community more than other sites. There’s a forum for asking sex questions and posting ads for local sex meetups. There’s two-way chat so you can really get to know someone before you meet them. There’s also profile pages, blogs, messaging, chatting, and voice chat. They just added sex courses too, that teach people about bondage, squirting, and hookup strategies.
At the end of the day, this is the best hookup site for connecting with someone regardless of where they are located on the globe. Finding a friend is easy.
Pros
25+ year-old website
Find people all over the world
Gold membership is worth the price
Can find everyone from gays, lesbian, swinger parties, exhibitionists, fantasy role-playing, just kickin' it buddies and, of course, friends!
Registration is lightning fast - only need to provide a password, username, email, sex, age, and the type of companion you are looking for
Cons
'Gold' membership charges a monthly subscription
2016 data breach left a bad taste in user's mouths about using the site
Can't send messages for free UNLESS the person sends you one first OR you are a gold member
No Android or iOS app, sorry
Has a high number of fake dating profiles and inactive members who don't get online anymore
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3
Ashley Madison
Best Hookup Site for Married People & Easy Casual Sex
Highlights & Features
Can hide your identity with a digital mask on your Avatar or face picture
Men have to pay to send messages
Can use it on Apple (iOS) or Google Play (Android)
Almost 60 million members since 2001 and growing quickly
Too many men on there, so good luck fighting through the stampede of horny bulls
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Sometimes people get trapped in marriages and want a way out. Ashley Madison is a site that helps people, especially married women, find no strings attached hookups.
You need money to be on this website.
The women on this site are mostly in their mid-30s to early 40s, which is the horniest time in a woman’s life. She wants to feel young again and have fun before she hits that elderly age. Even then she might still try to catch her a young stud on the side. Top that with a sexless marriage and you can find some of the most intense and easy hookups.
When I’ve used this site I was able to get a date with about half the women I messaged, and about half of those conversations turned into sex. The women would also give me gifts from time to time, which I happily obliged. But I wouldn’t consider myself a sugar baby. Compared to other sites, that ratio is not even close.
The obvious downside of this site is that you are helping people cheat on their significant others. Not cool. But hey, life is short and to each their own. It’s up to you to decide if it is right or wrong, and if you’re willing to give it a try. Just make sure their husbands aren’t MMA fighters before you jump in the sack.
Pros
Free signup
Population is worldwide
Helping women safely cheat without getting caught
Stronger than ever data encryption protection
Many of the older men are unattractive, so if you are looking you will soar like an eagle
Loyal user base; there is always someone willing to meet on Ashley Madison
Cons
Infamous hack ended relationships with divorces, suicides, and settlements (but that didn't stop men from getting on there)
Low number of women on there, so again, you have to fight for the prize with other dudes
Not many video reviews on YouTube about Ashley Madison because who wants to admit to cheating, right?
Sinful energy in the air; encourages infidelity
Reports of fake bots and fake profiles
Too many negative reviews
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4
Tinder
Best and Easiest Hookup App to Use
Highlights & Features
Auto-renewal
Paid subscription
500-word max character description
iTunes and Google Play app
50 million users from more than 190 countries
Requires Facebook to sign up to verify your identity to prevent catfishing attempts
Can change location if you are traveling to any city using a Passport feature
Infamous matchmaking system with Swipe left of Swipe right features
Quick summary of the user by location, age, and sex
Visit Tinder
If you know about Tinder then you know about that Swipe left and Swipe right feature when you match with someone. I have matched with so many people in my area I thought an overload of pussy was coming my way, and it did for the most part.
Tinder is popular among a lot of young folks, so expect teen booty calls and snap sex shows.
Pros
Affordable; only $10 a month if you are under 30 and $20 a month if you are over 30
App is very easy to use
Lightning-fast matches
Cons
Hands will hurt from doing all those swipes
Fake profiles: No photo verification; anyone can put any picture up there
More men than women
Low-quality people
Bad user interface
Need to go through like 100 profiles just to get one
Not enough matches - for some people
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5
R4R Subreddits
Best Free Hookup Site for Swingers, Hotwifes, and Cuckolding
Highlights & Features
Moderators
Rules to follow
Join and Create Post
A familiar format that Redditors like
66,000 people are part of the Swingersr4r, but only about 200 online/ 52,000 are part of HotWifeRequests, but only about 100 online
Need to get verified before joining these groups
Sorted by Hot, New, Controversial, Top, Rising
Card, Classic Reddit, Compact makes messages easy to read
Share, Save, Hide, or Report posts
Posts, Rules, Guides, and FAQ sections
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There are many ‘R4R’, (Redditor for Redditor) Subreddit communities that are ok places for finding a hookup, swinger partners, cuckold, cuck, hot bull, or hot wife.
The problem I have with Reddit is that when you post a comment everyone can see it unless you message the person directly. Moreover, you don’t know what the other party look like so they could catfish you anytime. I had to put in more work to find someone on Reddit.
Pros
Completely free to use
Easy to work
Can learn a lot about the person based on their posts before you actually send them a message
People from these groups post hardcore pics of themselves all the time
Cons
People don't like to show their face but only their body
Limited information about this group
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6
Fetlife
Best Fetish Meetup Website
Highlights & Features
A place for kink
Android app
Can search for events, members, and certain kinds kinks
12 sexual orientations
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I have a personal fetish called jizz on jeans where I love to see women bending over in skintight jeans with cum on them. I don’t know where this deep psychological fetish came from, but anyway.
I was able to find my dream model and she understood what I wanted and didn’t judge me. At Fetlife, you will find someone who shares your fetish.
Pros
Words containing negatives like rape, blood, and incest are blocked to prevent people from posting that shit
Private information is protected with the best SSL encrypted tech
All-inclusive community
Easy use
Cons
Breeding ground for predators and crazies; some fetishes are meant to stay private
Nigerian scammers are on there pretending to be fetsers
Manipulative people
Lots of gays
Low response rate
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7
Grindr
Best Gay Hookup Site/App
Highlights & Features
A comfortable safe space for LGBTQ hookups
See who 'Viewed You'
Proud of providing equality for all people
Help Center
Encourages STD testing and promotes a positive sexual health environment
Go to Grindr
Grindr is a great website for gay men looking for sex and hookups across the globe. Not to mention it does positive things in sexual health for the LGBT community.
Grindr LLC is registered in West Hollywood, an infamous gay area, so one can draw the conclusion that it’s owned and operated by the same demographic using the website. However, ownership jumps from one company to another, often like a game of hot potato because there are entities that keep buying and then selling this very popular website for higher prices each time.
Signing up requires a verification code from your email. After the verification completes, you can add a name to your profile and an optional photo. Once accepted, a list of gay guys will show three in a row and the ones with small green dots in the lower lefthand corners of their introduction photos are currently online.
The Grindr app can be downloaded on Google or Android by people who are 17+. 10+ million people downloaded the Android app, but I’m unsure how many downloaded the Apple version because I can’t see the numbers because I don’t have an iOS operated device. But Grindr is #60 of all social networking apps on iTunes.
Pros
Great for finding M4M hookups/sex
Easy to use and browse profiles
100% Free
Worldwide reach
Cons
App only; no desktop website version
Majority of guys are sex addicts (could be considered a pro for some)
Forced to give a phone number before proceeding with an account
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8
Alt.com
Best BDSM Hookup Site
Highlights & Features
Matchmaking algorithm
3.5+ million worldwide members
Groups, videos, photos, instant messenger, and chat rooms on the profiles
Answered questions about your personality and fetish will show on the screen
Visit Alt.com
When I first started my online empire building some time ago I came across how popular BDSM is in our society. I’m talking about celebrities were open with their BDSM fetishes like gayman Ricky Martin, who like golden showers – “loco” – or Angelina Jolie who has a thing for vials of blood.
the first place I went to try out my BDSM fetish was Alt.com. The women I met were complete freaks into all types of things. They also didn’t bullshit around and got to the point, very serious about what they believed.
Pros
Free membership
Comforting website format
Gold and Silver membership
Large BDSM kink community for roleplay
Cons
Some fake profiles
Too many bad reviews on TrustPilot
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9
OkCupid
Best Free Hookup Site/ Best Hookup Site for Teens and College Students
Highlights & Features
Profiles really go deep about the person
Google Android (4.4) and Apple iOS users are welcomed
Icon shows who visited your profile
22 genders and 14 sexual orientations
Matching algorithms based on math schematics from questionnaires
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For a completely free site you can use
okcupid.com. This site has different settings and filters you can use to search for people who are only looking for casual sex. You might occasionally bump into some people who are looking for relationships, but you can just skip them and sort through the next batch of people.
You have your teen dating site and most of the women I seen on there was a bit immature because of this. Like the girl I met who I will call Lofonda. She straight up lied to be about every damn thing. So, I left her ass at Five Guys and let them have a bite at her.
You will need to do some detective, investigative work on OkCupidbecause of the catfishing attempts. Unlike Ashley Madison, where you find many secure women.
Pros
Attracts young people; 20s and 30 somethings
Super popular; hottest dating website among people of this generation
Profile dating tips
Smooth user interface
User friendly; free and easy to use
Have to agree to their terms of service to not harass anyone; need to behave or get banned
Cons
Inactive profiles
Does not have group chatting
Quality of women are nonexistent; you will mostly find freaks
West African scammers and Western hackers seemed to have made their way on this site
Women might not write back because they have so many messages
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10
Seeking.com
Best Hookup Site For Women
Highlights & Features
Available for Android
Sugar Baby University teaching women how to properly entertain these men
13 million users and growing from over 149 countries
Men can send 10 messages for free
Men can buy items on a Sugarbaby's Amazon Wishlist to get her attention
Credit Card, PayPal, and mobile payments
Can see who Viewed, Favorite, and Favorites you
Many respected publications like Wall Street Journal, Business Insider, CNN, and Huffington Post featured this site
Search tool will show different girls according to body type, education, hobbies, language, activities. and more
Visit Seeking Arrangements
Seeking.com aka SeekingArrangement is a great site if you are a woman who is interested in love and finding a wealthy guy.
This site hooks up wealthy men that are at least millionaires, with above-average women. It also works with wealthy women finding young studs, but in my experience testing out the site, that is much less common.
If you like the idea of having a guy take care of you and fly you out to Greece for your first date, then this might be worth trying.
After all, if a guy is successful enough to be rich, he has probably done something interesting to get there. The site boasts itself as a place for ‘Hypergamy’ which is the ‘act of women marrying into a higher class’.
Pros
Backmail is prevented with background checks into the men on the site
So many people to choose from
Does not have automatic recurring billing to prevent unexpected charges
Cons
Desperate girls
Too many fake profiles
Don't expect sex all the damn time
Need to give up information about your income (for men)
If you are a Splenda Daddy looking for a quick fuck without reciprocating a financial gift, this website ain't for you
Our Rating of Seeking.com
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Plenty of Fish
Another Site for One Night Stands
Highlights & Features
Worldwide legitimate hookup site where thousands join daily
Known worldwide; go anywhere on planet earth and you will find a fish looking for sex
People are very blunt about what they want and don't care about hurting your feelings
Android and iOS app
Search features filter specifics about education, income, age, sex, hair color, eye color, and ethnicity
Relationship Chemistry Predictor with 73 questions about family, personality, and perspective about life will help you to match