On Friday, February 21, 2020 at 2:54:15 PM UTC+5:30,
jp37...@gmail.com wrote:
> Most of the adult service announcements that were originally posted on craigslist were spread to other sections of Craigslist (such as the dating or meeting sections) or directed to other free classified online sites such as backpageand oodle.
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> all the sex services on the adult section of Craigslist -
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> It would be very naive to assume that people, who are making the money they published on Craigslist, would simply suspend online advertising just because Craiglist reduced their service.
I am a average looking guy from a middle class family. I don't drink, smoke and is pure vegetarian. Recently got good job, and the Marriage discussions started in my life.
My parents selected one girl, decided to meet her. They shared her biodata and 3 photos with me. Honestly, she was looking different in each of those photos. And I liked all of those photos. So, we went to their home for an initial arranged marriage meeting.
I was very excited and nervous when we reached their apartment. Our families met each other, discussed about my education, job, relatives and what not. They served us with some refreshments which I don't remember(don't know why).
Finally girl's father asked her to come in front of all.
I was dying for her first look. And there she entered into hall, wearing red coloured beautiful sari, and with extremely beautiful face. I loved her the moment I had seen her. I was looking at her like a fool. She came and sat in front of us all. I was so froze. My parents asked few questions to her, which I don't remember. I was just looking at her.
Then suddenly I realised that they are asking me to ask questions if I have any. And at that moment, my brain completely betrayed me, it was like “who am I and where are we”. She asked me something which I could see her asking but didn't hear anything. I was like 'aaan'. She asked again with confused look on her face. I managed to answer that. Then she asked something in English, I was answering in Marathi. I asked few things for formality. And then everyone stopped talking. I was stealing the moments by looking at her every other second. Our families asked us to talk to each other in private. It was my first time to come to arranged marriage visit, so had no idea what to ask. I just started with some random topic by asking about her job role. But at the other hand, she had a list of questions ready. After around 30 mins, our families asked us if we are finished. I was loving every moment talking to her there. When we were leaving the room, she just looked at her mother and laughed loudly. I didn't even dared to look back.
After coming back to my home, my parents asked me if I liked her. I was like, “Yes, she is good looking, educated, brilliant.” You can discuss further if you Pepe like her. My family liked her a lot. Though my mom didn't met with her, she was already picturing us together. So, our family gave Positive response to girls family.
Later their family also came to my small rented house (because my house was under construction). We also called each other multiple times. I was talking to her like she is my fiance. I was completely involved in her. I liked each and everything about her. Loved her at first site. My mind accepted that she is mine. Even she also said that she is positive about this match. Her parents liked me. I talked to her for 3–4 days, we discussed for hours asking about each other. Everything was going perfect.
So, around Sunday, mediator uncle came to our house. My grandmother was also there. They were discussing about astrology and all. My grandmother was saying that since girl and boy both belong to same Gotra, they are like sis bro to each other. Consult with some good brahmin to see if it is okay. This all discussion happened I front of mediator uncle. My father told them that we should stop further discussion until we discuss this with brahmin guruji. So if girls family call, ask them to give us some more time to decide.
I don't know what happened, but somehow the girls family took it as negative response. I was completely unaware of the situation. As usual, I msgd her. But now, she was talking to me with feeling of rejection in her mind. I was trying to become friendly by asking personal questions and she was answering politely but getting irritated within mind. At last, she asked me, “what is in my mind, first you reject me and now, why are you chatting with me?”. I was clueless. I called my parents and asked what happened, they told me the scene. The msg that my father gave was perceived as a negative response.
I was heartbroken. Angry at my family, and her family too. I tried to talk to her and asked her if she want me to talk to families again to come and discuss again. But she was also hurt and she said, ”my father will never ever consider this proposal again as there is a negative feeling involved already”.
I felt helpless and heartbroken. I told this all to my father and they were like no problem, we will see anothe girl.
This was my first arranged marriage meeting experience. I didn't went to my hometown for around 5 months after that incident happened. I liked no other girl afterwards. I tried to keep contacting her by finding some reasons. She also casually talked to me for few days and eventually stopped. Later at the end of 5–6 months, one day, she simply msgd me on WhatsApp status. She asked me about life and if I am married or not. Also, she asked me if we can meet sometime casually. I told her that I'm coming to Pune for attending friends marriage and we can meet that time.
We both agreed and I started counting days. Finally, on the day, I informed her date. She was ok with it.
But on the day when I started traveling to Pune to meet her, she msgd me that she will be very busy with relatives in her home and won't get time to meet me.
I asked her to keep me informed if any change in plan. I was staying in my sister's house which was just 5 mins walkable distance from her home. I had to catch flight at 11:00pm that day. So I contacted her at around 6:00pm if we can meet. I waited waited and waited for her response but she didn't respond call or msg. I waited with a hope. Later that day, she msgd me on WhatsApp and said, she didn't get time and can't meet me. That day, I missed first flight of the life.
That was the day when my brain accepted that I have lost her. She doesn't want to meet me and I should forget her. I felt free. No feelings were remaining now. Ready to start looking for new arranged proposals.
https://www.quora.com/What-is-your-dirtiest-experience-as-an-adult-which-you-want-to-share-with-everyone-anonymously