I spoke a little too soon. It's *almost* fixed in that it no longer is live synching, but now I have a less terrible issue but still gonna keep me from upgrading.
The issue:
If I have a browser instance opened to my wiki, the next instances will load with all the default tiddlers as expected, but then they get replaced with the same StoryList as the previously opened instance.
Once they do their initial start, they no longer synchronize no matter which instance I change.
Importantly, all new instances will start with the same tiddlers that the original instance had when it first connected with the server, even if I change that original instance.
If I close all instances, then create a new one, it still gets those tiddlers that the original instance started with.
I deleted $:/StoryList from disk and it's not getting created again.
Seems like the StoryList is getting cached on the server and the only way to clear it is by restarting it.