I'm waiting hopefully for Jed to release a secure easy to install raspberry pi server one day and then I don't have to struggle with sync issues. There are instructions in existence but I'm too novice to understand them.
I'm the mean time there's a promising thread about HomelabOS that might also lead to an answer for you
Good luck!
- Dave
I should have added that part in when I described my usage. Currently any script I run to start Bob also pauses the sync feature on the tiddlers folder.