Really this is a bug that should be reported to whatever utility you use in outlook.
CalDAV clients have the option to tell the server that the client, and not the server, handles invitations.
If this option is correctly set, sabre/dav would not send anything out.
I would rather see that outlook sync tools don't email at all and completely rely on the server, but if this is not an option, see if you can get SCHEDULE-AGENT=CLIENT set.
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