KiCads default grid in the schematic editor (and probably symbol editor too) is 0.05", but I personally find this too compact, and I do everything on a 0.1" grid. It requires more space but I find it easier to follow parallel lines at this spacing. I rarely ever use any other grid size for schematic or symbol editing.
Pins on packages pretty much have to be spaced a minimum of 0.1" apart to avoid a mess of text and pins overlapping, so I feel that a 0.1" overall grid makes more sense anyway.
And yeah, please DONT make schematic symbols that are just a copy of the package pinout. Its a horrible practice, and tends to result in messy and complicated schematic drawings to get signals where they need to be. I try to design my symbols for "inputs on the left, outputs on the right" so that everything flows from one side of the page to the other too, with some exceptions. A schematic should be a logical/functional representation of the circuit, the PCB is for the physical representation. Dont confuse the two.</rant> :-)