I own three steel bikes: A 2003 Independent Fabrication Independence (their full touring frame, designed by Mike Flanigan), a low trail rando frame with 650b wheels made by a small builder, and a 2020 Roadini. The Indy Fab is a miraculous bike for loaded touring; incredibly stable with full panniers and surprisingly light and quick when stripped, given its stout tubing. I rode it across the US in 2004, and it has seen many, many miles since. I have converted my rando frame to function as errand runner, for I determined over the course of thousands of miles, that I just don't like the feel of 650 wheels. Since acquiring the Roadini in 2020, I've ridden nothing else. It felt, in so many ways, like the perfect bike for my needs. Exactly what I wanted from a "road + gravel" bike. The vast majority of my riding is done alone, on some combination of gravel and road, rides falling between 20-70 miles. I'm not as fast as I was in my twenties, thirties, or forties, but I keep a fairly brisk pace. I generally ride with a lightweight frame bag (made by Swift Industries) with no other bags or racks on the bike. I'm running Paul centerpulls which allows me to comfortably fit Rene Herse 38's, my favourite tires to date. Until last week, I sort of figured that the Roadini would be the bike that I would ride for the rest of my life. But then, after a short fifteen mile ride on mixed surfaces, on a different bike, everything changed.
My wife and I finally caved and bought our son a great bike, as he is almost sixteen and wishes to join me on longer rides. He has just surpassed my height, so we bought him an A. Homer Hilsen as it will fit him longer if he keeps growing, and it seemed the most versatile of choices. After the build was finished, I took the bike out to make sure that everything was working properly, and within a few miles, I quickly determined that this was without question, my favourite bike that I had ever ridden in my life. No, it did not feel as quick as my Roadini, but it didn't feel as sluggish as my unloaded Indy Fab; which struck me as odd, given that the chain stays are MUCH longer on the Homer. The comfort level was astounding. There are moments on the Roadini where I hit a smooth stretch of recently paved road, the feeling of flying is accentuated and I think to myself, "this is such a glorious sensation!" The Homer felt that way the entire ride. On both road and gravel, I felt like I was simply gliding. The steering felt a bit slower and the bike didn't accelerate as quickly, but the stability and comfort were so incredible that I just didn't care. I live in New England and some of the old gravel roads can be rough, such that I normally lift off the saddle over bumps and hold the bars lightly. Not so with the Homer. It was, to my great surprise, even smoother than my Indy Fab. I should note that I was using the same Rene Herse 38's.
Anyway, I could carry on and on, but I just wish to say that I find the two quite different. The bike also feels noticeably bigger (the frame is a 58) which may also contribute. To shorten what could be a long story, I came home, walked in the house, and ordered a Homer, which is set to arrive today. Once I build it up, I intend to sell the Roadini. After about thirty years of 3000mi annually, the Homer was instantly the bike that I'd dreamt of for a long time. You can't really go wrong with either. To me the question would come down to this: do you want to maximize the feeling of quickness or gliding comfort? For me, there was no comparison. With the Tektro side pulls and all of the same parts, I cannot tell a weight difference between the two; perhaps the Paul brakes and extra bits nullify the frame savings. Anyway, I was in a similar decision dilemma as you a few years back and went with the Roadini, and while it all worked out in the end, the Homer was the right choice for me.
Good luck!