My suggestions;
FLARM
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The Fusion PowerFLARM will work fine but is a little bulky. There is also the LXNav PowerMouse which is smaller.
They both come with all the antennas (GPS and Flarm), and power cabling, that you will need.
You will need to buy the appropriate cable to send data to a ADS-B and FLARM traffic display.
Transponder
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The Trig TT-22 is the current gold standard. Unsure why the TT-23 isn't suggested in this thread.
It comes with separate base unit and a control head. You will need to buy or make the cable that goes between them.
You will need a transponder antenna and coax cabling.
Yes, you must have a GPS antenna. As you mention that your ship is NOT experimental you will need three items;
TN70 GPS receiver, TA70 GPS antenna, and cabling between the two plus to your TT22.
Contact one of the glider specific avionics sellers and they will guide you on your way.