There's been a misunderstanding, and it's all my fault

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Elizabeth

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Nov 4, 2025, 6:30:09 PM11/4/25
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Hi Everybody,

I'm sending this email from a place of compassion, confusion and respect for the KNA. I have made several mistakes. I'm terribly sorry that I did not understand, since our last meeting, what is going on with this month's location. I'm sure it seems from the other board member's POV, that I'm doing everything possible to not have the meeting be Zoom only. That isn't the case at all. 

Here's the series of events that has happened, from my perspective:

1. I got back in town from a 2 week vacation in Kentucky about 24 hours before the October meeting. As you can imagine, I was exhausted from the flight.

2. It was announced that we couldn't have our November meeting at the school

3. We talked about our other options in the meeting

4. I posted on Instagram, on the grid, that our next meeting location was to be announced. That post has been up since October 18, with no follow up post letting people know where the meeting is

5. I thought that we had an in person meeting once a month. I had no idea that would change because we can't have it at the school. I thought the goal was to find a place to have the November meeting. I was wrong.

6. When I received the email to have the meeting take place on Zoom, I thought that was a last resort. I was wrong.

7. When I spoke with Rick at Vino, and Matt at Bennett's Best Bites, I thought I was doing what we all wanted to do. I thought this because this is what I understood from our last meeting. I was wrong.

8. When I spoke with Matt a few days ago, I asked him if we could have the meeting there, he said yes. I told him that we appreciated it, and we would see him on the 19th. I was wrong. 

9. I posted on IG and FB that we were having our meeting at Bennett's because I saw a number, a vote count, on an email.  I thought that was the only, and last vote count. I posted that we would be having the meeting at Bennett's Best Bites. I was wrong. Once it was pointed out to me that not everyone had voted, I immediately removed those announcement posts. Now, Matt is under the belief that we're all going to be there on the 19th because I told him that. I was wrong, and I have to fix it sooner than later.

I'm not at all trying to force anyone to meet anywhere. I'm happy to take part in a Zoom call meeting. But, I feel an obligation to create a follow up post, saying where- in person, or virtually- we are having the meeting. Otherwise, our community won't  know. I understand if the board does not feel that same urgency. 

Follow up question:
Have we voted, and if so what is the resolution? 

Again, I don't have an agenda here. I'm not trying to boss anyone around. I didn't understand that we have some of our meetings 100% virtually. I'd love to hear from Jay, our President, for specific instructions on how to proceed. I apologize for everything, it was never my intention to force anyone to come in person to the last meeting of the year.
I'll make sure nothing like this ever happens again.

Thank you,
Elizabeth Armstrong
Certified Pet Care Specialist

Andrea H

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Nov 4, 2025, 6:55:59 PM11/4/25
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In situations like these, just remember that “slow and steady wins the race.” I remember that I emailed that the vote seemed tied 3-3 and unresolved, and later that night saw an insta post that it would happen at the Bites place. I completely believe it was an honest misunderstanding. But with 2+ weeks away, no rush, best to just wait for affirmative confirmation before posting and putting online if it is up in the air with a 3-3 vote.

“Slow and steady” is always better than “rushed and risky!” I’ve had to learn this many times myself. 

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Jay Harris

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Nov 5, 2025, 10:47:33 AM11/5/25
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Hi Elizabeth,
(And everyone else!)

First off, I’m sorry that I have not been in on these discussions very much as I’ve been nursing a sore back/neck for a month now and living a quite disrupted life.

Second, I wasn’t at the last meeting so I can’t speak to how it was decided to look for another physical location since we can’t be at Pacific Crest in Nov.

But….with the above said, I think that Elizabeths efforts are great and unless anyone has further objections, we should just go ahead and meet at Bennets Bites this time particularly since Dave has offered to continue to facilitate it via Zoom for folks who can’t be there in person.

The last tally Dave sent seemed to indicate that the voting was split so…how about if I just make the above decision from the Chair so that we can proceed with clarity?

Thanks again to all concerned and Elizabeth for her conscientiousness.

Thoughtfully,
Jay for KNA

Dave Weaver

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Nov 5, 2025, 10:58:39 AM11/5/25
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Thanks Jay! That's a good solution.
We will center the Zoom so that people on Zoom will be fully included in the meeting.
Looking forward to the meeting.
If anyone wants to add items to the agenda please suggest them here.

Oh - and I want to share with the board - Alex from SE Uplift called me yesterday and wanted to know our decision about the $1500 in grant funds for the postcards and I told him that we're not going to be able to use it. I thanked him for the opportunity and said we don't have the bandwidth and they can use it for other grants. Hopefully we can rekindle this project again in the future.

-Dave

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Elizabeth

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Nov 5, 2025, 5:18:55 PM11/5/25
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Hi Everybody:

Thank you to everyone for bearing with me through this process, especially Jay. I’m working with Matt Bennett to set up a drink station at Bennett’s for everyone. He makes delicious coffee drinks, and other non-coffee drinks. I’ll bring cupcakes, of course 😀 

Thank you very much,
Elizabeth Armstrong
Certified Pet Care Specialist
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