Hi Mark. I've been bottling nearly all of my ciders "pet nat" whenever possible, and this can be an issue, especially if you don't have a firm control over the fermentation. I like to bottle mine when I am at about 5-10 FSUs, over at least a month or so in the late spring or summer. Claude's book goes into great detail on this. I am also using wild yeast, which is a bit easier to control. I've had ciders below 5FSUs, that still got decently carbonated, which makes me question my hydrometer readings. I'm not sure how many bottles of this pet nat you have made, but when I've had this issue, I use my bottle opener to slowly release the pressure from the bottles by slightly lifting the caps and burping them, without removing the cap completely and causing an explosion of carbonation. Once I burp them to the point where they are not gushing, I quickly recap the bottles. It's time consuming, but it beats having to plan on an explosion every time, and then losing half the cider all over the place! You may want to wear gloves and safety glasses if the carbonation is as bad as you are saying. Slowly burp those ciders and recap and save them for some future drinking!
Pat