So now I was able to fix all of the errors concerning the content of the cards and everything seems to work as intended. Thanks again for all your great help and your work on sabredav Evert Pot!
I guess this is a pure client problem and has nothing to do with sabredav... but I thought it wouldn't hurt to get a second opinion. maybe there is something i can do from the server side, to make the client more responsive, even with thousands of addresses?
if anybody has an idea, it would be very appreciated.
08.10.12 23:28:16,108 Contacts[6872]: *** -[IADomainCache init]: IA domains cache is out of date.
08.10.12 23:28:46,708 Contacts[6872]: Process com.apple.AddressBook deleting 6125 contacts
08.10.12 23:28:56,916 WindowServer[102]: CGXDisableUpdate: UI updates were forcibly disabled by application "Contacts" for over 1.00 seconds. Server has re-enabled them.
08.10.12 23:29:01,910 WindowServer[102]: reenable_update_for_connection: UI updates were finally reenabled by application "Contacts" after 5.99 seconds (server forcibly re-enabled them after 1.00 seconds)
08.10.12 23:29:06,518 Contacts[6872]: Error, could not create MachMessagePort for com.apple.AddressBook.abd
08.10.12 23:29:13,423 Contacts[6872]: Error, could not create MachMessagePort for com.apple.AddressBook.abd
08.10.12 23:29:15,699 WindowServer[102]: CGXDisableUpdate: UI updates were forcibly disabled by application "Contacts" for over 1.00 seconds. Server has re-enabled them.
08.10.12 23:29:17,113 WindowServer[102]: reenable_update_for_connection: UI updates were finally reenabled by application "Contacts" after 2.41 seconds (server forcibly re-enabled them after 1.00 seconds)
08.10.12 23:29:26,273 WindowServer[102]: CGXDisableUpdate: UI updates were forcibly disabled by application "Contacts" for over 1.00 seconds. Server has re-enabled them.
08.10.12 23:29:26,862 WindowServer[102]: reenable_update_for_connection: UI updates were finally reenabled by application "Contacts" after 1.59 seconds (server forcibly re-enabled them after 1.00 seconds)
08.10.12 23:29:27,954 Contacts[6872]: Error, could not create MachMessagePort for com.apple.AddressBook.abd
08.10.12 23:29:38,387 Contacts[6872]: Error, could not create MachMessagePort for com.apple.AddressBook.abd
08.10.12 23:29:38,703 WindowServer[102]: CGXDisableUpdate: UI updates were forcibly disabled by application "Contacts" for over 1.00 seconds. Server has re-enabled them.
08.10.12 23:29:41,563 WindowServer[102]: reenable_update_for_connection: UI updates were finally reenabled by application "Contacts" after 3.86 seconds (server forcibly re-enabled them after 1.00 seconds)
08.10.12 23:29:43,008 WindowServer[102]: CGXDisableUpdate: UI updates were forcibly disabled by application "Contacts" for over 1.00 seconds. Server has re-enabled them.
08.10.12 23:29:53,770 Contacts[6872]: Error, could not create MachMessagePort for com.apple.AddressBook.abd
08.10.12 23:29:57,008 WindowServer[102]: disable_update_likely_unbalanced: UI updates still disabled by application "Contacts" after 15.00 seconds (server forcibly re-enabled them after 1.00 seconds). Likely an unbalanced disableUpdate call.
08.10.12 23:30:02,529 WindowServer[102]: reenable_update_for_connection: UI updates were finally reenabled by application "Contacts" after 20.52 seconds (server forcibly re-enabled them after 1.00 seconds)
08.10.12 23:30:08,404 Contacts[6872]: Error, could not create MachMessagePort for com.apple.AddressBook.abd
08.10.12 23:30:21,593 WindowServer[102]: CGXDisableUpdate: UI updates were forcibly disabled by application "Contacts" for over 1.00 seconds. Server has re-enabled them.
08.10.12 23:30:26,815 Contacts[6872]: Error, could not create MachMessagePort for com.apple.AddressBook.abd
08.10.12 23:30:28,050 WindowServer[102]: reenable_update_for_connection: UI updates were finally reenabled by application "Contacts" after 7.46 seconds (server forcibly re-enabled them after 1.00 seconds)
08.10.12 23:30:29,753 WindowServer[102]: CGXDisableUpdate: UI updates were forcibly disabled by application "Contacts" for over 1.00 seconds. Server has re-enabled them.
08.10.12 23:30:36,154 Contacts[6872]: Error, could not create MachMessagePort for com.apple.AddressBook.abd
08.10.12 23:30:43,753 WindowServer[102]: disable_update_likely_unbalanced: UI updates still disabled by application "Contacts" after 15.00 seconds (server forcibly re-enabled them after 1.00 seconds). Likely an unbalanced disableUpdate call.
08.10.12 23:30:56,349 Contacts[6872]: Error, could not create MachMessagePort for com.apple.AddressBook.abd
08.10.12 23:30:58,198 WindowServer[102]: reenable_update_for_connection: UI updates were finally reenabled by application "Contacts" after 29.45 seconds (server forcibly re-enabled them after 1.00 seconds)
08.10.12 23:31:00,741 WindowServer[102]: CGXDisableUpdate: UI updates were forcibly disabled by application "Contacts" for over 1.00 seconds. Server has re-enabled them.
08.10.12 23:31:11,142 Contacts[6872]: Error, could not create MachMessagePort for com.apple.AddressBook.abd
08.10.12 23:31:14,741 WindowServer[102]: disable_update_likely_unbalanced: UI updates still disabled by application "Contacts" after 15.00 seconds (server forcibly re-enabled them after 1.00 seconds). Likely an unbalanced disableUpdate call.
08.10.12 23:31:30,893 Contacts[6872]: Error, could not create MachMessagePort for com.apple.AddressBook.abd
08.10.12 23:31:43,493 Contacts[6872]: Error, could not create MachMessagePort for com.apple.AddressBook.abd
08.10.12 23:32:00,098 WindowServer[102]: reenable_update_for_connection: UI updates were finally reenabled by application "Contacts" after 60.36 seconds (server forcibly re-enabled them after 1.00 seconds)
08.10.12 23:32:01,939 WindowServer[102]: CGXDisableUpdate: UI updates were forcibly disabled by application "Contacts" for over 1.00 seconds. Server has re-enabled them.
08.10.12 23:32:04,674 Contacts[6872]: Error, could not create MachMessagePort for com.apple.AddressBook.abd
08.10.12 23:32:15,938 WindowServer[102]: disable_update_likely_unbalanced: UI updates still disabled by application "Contacts" after 15.00 seconds (server forcibly re-enabled them after 1.00 seconds). Likely an unbalanced disableUpdate call.
08.10.12 23:32:26,724 Contacts[6872]: Error, could not create MachMessagePort for com.apple.AddressBook.abd
08.10.12 23:32:45,905 Contacts[6872]: Error, could not create MachMessagePort for com.apple.AddressBook.abd
08.10.12 23:33:02,365 Contacts[6872]: Error, could not create MachMessagePort for com.apple.AddressBook.abd
08.10.12 23:33:19,397 Contacts[6872]: Error, could not create MachMessagePort for com.apple.AddressBook.abd
08.10.12 23:33:37,113 Contacts[6872]: Error, could not create MachMessagePort for com.apple.AddressBook.abd
08.10.12 23:33:53,102 Contacts[6872]: Error, could not create MachMessagePort for com.apple.AddressBook.abd
08.10.12 23:34:13,787 Contacts[6872]: Error, could not create MachMessagePort for com.apple.AddressBook.abd
08.10.12 23:34:33,752 Contacts[6872]: Error, could not create MachMessagePort for com.apple.AddressBook.abd
08.10.12 23:34:47,556 WindowServer[102]: reenable_update_for_connection: UI updates were finally reenabled by application "Contacts" after 166.62 seconds (server forcibly re-enabled them after 1.00 seconds)
08.10.12 23:34:50,301 WindowServer[102]: CGXDisableUpdate: UI updates were forcibly disabled by application "Contacts" for over 1.00 seconds. Server has re-enabled them.
08.10.12 23:35:04,302 WindowServer[102]: disable_update_likely_unbalanced: UI updates still disabled by application "Contacts" after 15.00 seconds (server forcibly re-enabled them after 1.00 seconds). Likely an unbalanced disableUpdate call.
08.10.12 23:36:45,511 WindowServer[102]: reenable_update_for_connection: UI updates were finally reenabled by application "Contacts" after 116.21 seconds (server forcibly re-enabled them after 1.00 seconds)