Robert Bannister:
> I'm trying to remember when "making love" acquired this sexual meaning.
> I am guessing the early 1960s. ... I thought the American expression
> "making out" meant having sex for a long time.
As usual, it's older than you'd think.
The earliest cite in the OED Online is from 1927, and I was puzzled
enough by their abbreviated citation "J. S. Bolan Deposition in
L. Schlissel 3 Plays Mae West (1997)" that I looked it up in Google
Books, which was willing to show me enough pages to figure it out.
It turns out that in 1926 Mae West wrote and starred in a play
titled "Sex", which was a hit on Broadway until she and others
were convicted on obscenity charges over it.
This play was republished, along with two others about homosexuality
that West wrote in the following years, in a book edited by Lillian
Schissel and logically titled "Three Plays by Mae West". But the
book also includes at least some of the documents from the obscenity
trial, and one of those is a deposition by Deputy Inspector James
S. Bolan, who attended the play on behalf of the police. And this
deposition is what the OED is citing.
The passage reads:
At another point all the characters have left the scene except
Jimmy Stanton and the prostitute Margie LaMont. Jimmy embraces
Margie LaMont and goes through with her the business of making
love to her by lying on top of her on a couch, each embracing
the other.
So it's clear enough which meaning was intended. Mae West played
Margie, but the way.
Curiously, I found this in Google Books by searching for the exact
phrase "Jimmy embraces Margie LaMont" -- and it claimed to find
six hits. The first one was the intended hit and was the only one
to actually show the phrase in the search results. The others were
* "Rape of the Fair Country" by Alexander Cordell, 1998
* "Dictionary of Word Origins" by John Ayto, 2011
* "Chambers Dictionary of Etymology" by Robert K. Barnhart and
Sol Steinmetz, 1999
* "Song of the earth: a novel" by Alexander Cordell, 1970
* "Getting Started with Beef and Dairy Cattle" by Heather Smith
Thomas, 2005
Okay, the dictionaries make sense and I have no comment on the
Cordell books, but get a load of that last hit!
Returning to the OED, the next three cites are from Ernest Hemingway
("A Farewell to Arms", 1929), George Orwell ("Burmese Days",
1934), and Mervyn Peake ("Ghormenghast", 1950). I'm not sure
if the Hemingway one really has the intended meaning, though.
Again I'll give a bit more context than the OED does:
It was lovely in the nights and if we could only touch each other
we were happy. Besides all the big times we had many small ways
of making love and we tried putting thoughts in the other one's
head while we were in different rooms.
It seems to me that "small ways of making love" must refer to,
ah, making out rather than making love in the sexual sense.
For the next two cites it's pretty clear what was meant, though.
As for the "whispering sweet nothings" sense -- or as they put it,
"to pay amorous attention; to court, woo" -- the OED has cites for
that one as far back as 1567, and as recently as 1972 and 1991.
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