Has ANYONE had success meeting others on a.p.s.?
Nice But Naughty Boy Craves OTK w/SWF
Hey, just wondering. Has anyone been successful
at meeting up with others via a personals ad on
a.p.s.? And for that matter, have single
heterosexual men been successful? Just a
hunch, but I think that if I were gay, I'd
probably have already found lots of action.
Just a guess.
Aren't there many women reading this group?
Or is it their reticence, cyberphobia,
or just plain fear of men that's holding them
back?
Or, maybe it's erythrophobia, which no real
spanker/spankee should have. (For those who
are logophobic, erythrophobia is an abnormal
fear of the color red. Not one of my problems! :)
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non-smkr/drgs to spank naughty boy's bare bottom
and be spanked. Casual, no LTR or hassle. Safe
sex. Discrete. Good cunnilingus available. ;)
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>
>Hey, just wondering. Has anyone been successful
>at meeting up with others via a personals ad on
>a.p.s.? And for that matter, have single
>heterosexual men been successful? Just a
>hunch, but I think that if I were gay, I'd
>probably have already found lots of action.
>Just a guess.
>
You're correct that guys looking to spank guys can find lots of action here,
but you're wrong to assume that all (or most) are gay.
I spank 8-12 guys a month, and get many responses from this board. Most of the
men I spank are married.
Go figure.
John in Boston
Marvis Fairley
and a wonder full woman too
Collared her publicly last sat
Marvis
Jonathan Madsen
difficulties. I was tempted not to post, thinking you might take it the
wrong way... Yeah, it sometimes is sexual, sometimes not... It's a turn
on either way..... If I need to stop posting so that you can meet that
special person, just say the word!!!
Nice But Naughty Boy Craves OTK w/SWF wrote:
> In article <19990611151552...@ng-fn1.aol.com>,
> buttb...@aol.com (ButtBlazer) wrote:
>
> > You're correct that guys looking to spank guys can
> > find lots of action here, but you're wrong to
> > assume that all (or most) are gay.
> > I spank 8-12 guys a month, and get many responses
> > from this board. Most of the
> > men I spank are married.
>
> Hey, thanks for sharing the information! That
> brings up other questions. Do the men who want
> to spank other men tend to be gay?
>
> And why do heterosexual men want spankings from
> other men?
>
> For me, spanking is a sexual thing, a turn-on,
> and so I want to be spanked/spank women.
>
> I'm not saying that men who are into the
> men-spanking-men thing are wrong, however.
> It's just that I don't share that inclination.
> (We're on this group because we're into special
> stuff anyway, so why would/should we criticize?)
>
> So those married men who get spanked by other men,
> how do they act? Is it something like, "hey, my
> wife just doesn't hit hard enough, so would you
> do it even though you're a man"? I just can't
> envision how that goes down.
>
> > Go figure.
>
> That's what I'm trying to do, figure it out,
> not to mention meet a woman, as solicited in
> my other threads.
>
> I already see that a good many people
> treat spanking as something a lot
> different from sexual stuff.
>
> I can see a strong spanking from
> a woman as a tension-reliever or
> invigorator, etc., in addition to
> a turn-on. What else is it? (Yeah,
> time for me to take a look at the FAQ. :)
>
> Anyway, thanks to those who've chimed in
> with their thoughts on the matter.
>
> Is there anyone else who'd like to
> share some insight?
>
> Thanks.
Nice But Naughty Boy Craves OTK w/SWF
Spank Tail
I've never had a girlfriend who could or was willing to spank with any
intensity, to make it feel like a spanking.
When I have posted ads, I've only received responses from other guys and am
beginning to feel that if I want to experience it, the only way it will happen
is with another guy!
Jamie
Dave
>>why do heterosexual men want spankings from other men?>>
It's not necessarily a sexual activity. Most men are hetero, therefore
most spankee's are hetero, also. The numbers explain it all once you
put aside the spanking as foreplay idea.
>I've never had a girlfriend who could or was willing to spank with any
>intensity, to make it feel like a spanking.
>
>When I have posted ads, I've only received responses from other guys and am
>beginning to feel that if I want to experience it, the only way it will happen
>is with another guy!
Remember when you were young and your Mom would say "You just wait
'till your father gets home, young man!" ?
She said that because she didn't __want__ to do the spanking herself.
They still don't want to do the spanking, and when they try, it's not
always a pretty picture - they tend to work their faces up into a
terrible grimace!
Testosterone just makes a big difference in how you feel about
inflicting pain (via spanking at least), on a loved one. Those
feelings can be changed of course, but that's where most gals are to
start, and most won't change throughout their life. IMO.
Lots of reasons why people, as adults get spanked. If you're really
interested, email me.
Dave
lucky...@my-deja.com
could even make a nice business out of it.
In article <7jr33l$fml$1...@nnrp1.deja.com>,
Nice But Naughty Boy Craves OTK w/SWF <swm_2...@my-deja.com> wrote:
> Hi fellow fans of OTK!
>
> Hey, just wondering. Has anyone been successful
> at meeting up with others via a personals ad on
> a.p.s.? And for that matter, have single
> heterosexual men been successful? Just a
> hunch, but I think that if I were gay, I'd
> probably have already found lots of action.
> Just a guess.
>
> Aren't there many women reading this group?
> Or is it their reticence, cyberphobia,
> or just plain fear of men that's holding them
> back?
>
> Or, maybe it's erythrophobia, which no real
> spanker/spankee should have. (For those who
> are logophobic, erythrophobia is an abnormal
> fear of the color red. Not one of my problems! :)
>
Nice But Naughty Boy Craves OTK w/SWF
lucky...@my-deja.com wrote:
> No, I'm also still looking for a women to spank me. Just think they
> could even make a nice business out of it.
Maybe so. But not from me, they wouldn't. I seek
relationships (casual or otherwise) with women
who will be friends in addition to spankers/spankees.
I have no interest in whores, nor in the
spanking-equivalent of them, not that I much
mind others paying them for sex or
spankings. Just my $0.02.
Corey
Nice But Naughty Boy Craves OTK w/SWF <swm_2...@my-deja.com> wrote:
>Has anyone been successful
> at meeting up with others via a personals ad on
> a.p.s.? And for that matter, have single
> heterosexual men been successful?
Well, you'll probably be cheered to know that I am an honest-to-God,
card-carrying woman, and I have met a spanking friend (hetero male)
through this ng. So I have been successful, and I'm assuming he
considers that he has too <g>.
> Just a
> hunch, but I think that if I were gay, I'd
> probably have already found lots of action.
> Just a guess.
A suggestion: I checked back to your posted personal ad, and it was
pretty specific as to the Palm Springs area. Palm Springs has been Mecca
to a large number of Gay men and Lesbians over the past decade, so you
may find demographics working against you. Why not widen your search to
include the rest of So. Cal.?
>
> Aren't there many women reading this group?
> Or is it their reticence, cyberphobia,
> or just plain fear of men that's holding them
> back?
There are a lot of women lurking on these groups. I lurked for years
myself, off and on. Most "nice" girls have been conditioned to be VERY
cautious around strange men (no offense, of course, intended <g>) and
with good reason. Sexual assault happens a lot more often to women than
to men.
The good thing about newsgroups is that the little woodland creatures can
step into the meadow once in a while without being tracked back to the
den. :->
It seems odd, I know, to be talking about caution when one is letting it
all hang out, so to speak, in an attempt to get a powerful stranger to
spank you silly, but there you are. No one ever claimed that people and
their fantasies were going to be LOGICAL.
So, how do you attract a woman, that being the case? Well, I don't speak
for everyone (even if I sometimes sound like I intend to <g>), so I'll
just tell you what prompted ME to answer an ad after years of just
lurking and saving them.
I think your ad is very clear about what you need, and what limits you
will respect and expect. That's good--and it's grammatical and spelled
correctly, which is good, too.
Maybe you could put in a little more information about yourself, and
interests you might have other than spanking. Talk about your own
fantasies, as well as a general hint about your "real life". (If
you sound more like a human being than an axe murderer, your odds improve
<g>). Also, open up the possibilities a bit more--casual is fine, but
does the woman need to assume that sex is automatically a given, without
even having met you first? And you might want to invite a woman who is
intrigued by your fantasy to write to you and discuss it further, or
share one of her own. The e-mail exchange in itself is foreplay,
something women are notoriously tedious about requiring <g>.
On the plus side, you're looking for someone to spank YOU, primarily--
that's a bit safer from the woman's perspective. And don't lose heart,
either--I know an earlier response said that the urge to redden someone's
butt is testosterone-linked, but I've known some incredibly dedicated
female tops who could compete Olympically if the event is ever approved.
Corey
--
Before you criticize someone, you should walk a
mile in their shoes. That way, when you begin to
talk about them, you are already a mile away--and
you have their shoes.
Chi FemSwitch
ENJOY spanking submissive men. yes its a turn on for me, but it doesnt
have to lead to sex (thats reserved for my husband anyway)being a Switch
i know what its like to be on both sides of the paddle/flogger/hand/what
ever your particular implement of choice may be. and honestly, i find it
quite a *head trip* to be able to be in Top space...oh, and YES i like
to spank hard <g>
hope this helps
ChiSwitch
Nice But Naughty Boy Craves OTK w/SWF
Corey <corrin...@hotmail.com> wrote:
> A suggestion: I checked back to your
> posted personal ad, and it was
> pretty specific as to the Palm Springs area.
> Why not widen your search to
> include the rest of So. Cal.?
Good idea. I just hoped that I'd find someone nearby.
Actually, Los Angeles and Orange County, too,
are OK. Or is that OTK? :D
> There are a lot of women lurking on these groups.
Good! Come on, timid but nice females who'd like
to be a top, de-lurk. This naughty boy's bare
white bottom waits for you to make it pink.
> It seems odd, I know, to be talking about caution
> when one is letting it all hang out, so to speak,
Or over the knee.
> in an attempt to get a powerful stranger to
> spank you silly, but there you are. No one
> ever claimed that people and
> their fantasies were going to be LOGICAL.
Understood.
> I think your ad is very clear about what you need,
Yes, some good OTK by a woman who isn't a sociopath
and in fact would likely surprise her friends and
neighbors who don't know she's into spanking.
> and what limits you will respect and expect.
Right. I'm not even looking for pain, really.
Well, maybe a little. :D I'm new to this.
Getting spanked (by a woman) would be really
neat, I think. I can't even say for sure
how much I'd like it, having not had it
(memories from childhood set aside).
And as for wanting to spank a female, it
just sounds like a logical thing to do,
to spank each other. And hey, I'm a guy who's
non-violent and hasn't even ever been in
a fist-fight. Infliction of pain is not
something of interest. The spankings
I give would have to be pretty damn mild
in comparison to what many on this group
have in mind, I think. It'd take a lot
of encouragement by the recipient for me
to hit more than just lightly.
For that matter, she wouldn't need to spank
me all that hard, I suppose. I'm mostly
turned on by the idea of a mild spanking
that is hard enough to give me that much-needed
pink color and long enough for me to just
have a good time being over her knee letting
her have her way with me. Blisters and welts
are not of interest to me.
> That's good--and it's grammatical and
> spelled correctly, which is good, too.
Thanks. Too bad others on this group
don't write so great. (The plura of
"lady" is "ladies", not "lady's", for
example. Peeve: The random misuse of
an apostrophe.)
> Maybe you could put in a little more
> information about yourself, and interests
> you might have other than spanking.
I'm 34. White male. Blue hair, brown eyes.
Just kidding. Brown hair and blue eyes. :D
And some gray hair, I'll confess. But my
hair is not prematurely gray. It is immaturely
gray! :D And for that I should be spanked
thoroughly! I enjoy cycling. I'm very
mechanically adept and enjoy building and
fixing things. My favorite TV shows are
news programs such as Dateline, Prime Time Live,
20/20 and 60 Minutes and more cerebral shows
such as Frasier (good vocabulary there, not
another lame s(h)it-com) and shows on
the Discovery Channel and History Channel.
I'll confess that I used to watch Melrose Place
and Beverly Hills 90210, also. I missed a bunch
of them and got weaned, which I guess is a good
thing now that one of them is off the air and
plus, shows such as those require a regular time
commitment to maintain continuity. TV should
be filler, not a central part of my schedule.
> Talk about your own fantasies,
OK. I'd like to meet a woman who is not only
fairly pretty (no hair on her hunchback :),
but more importantly, is intelligent. She should
be someone with whom I can carry on a real
conversation, someone who would understand a
fairly cerebral attempt at whimsy (in addition
to knowing what the word "whimsy" means :)
such as oh, "As cold as this winter has been,
forget whether the 40-degree temperature is
in degrees Fahrenheit or Celsius. Given how
cold I feel, it might as well be in Kelvin!"
(Bonus points given for knowing how to
convert among the three. :)
Her looks need not be along the line of models
or cheer-leaders. I do want her to look nice,
though, but it's more along the lines of taking
good care of herself (e.g., good skin thanks to
using sunscreen, not fat thanks to eating right
and getting some exercise, etc.).
Big hair and big breasts aren't a turn-on for
me. I don't have anything against them, though.
But small to medium breasts are actually kind
of neat, IMO.
I just thought I'd throw that in here for
those women who wish their breasts were huge
(and why, to attract men who are mammarily-
obsessed?) and may even be considering surgery.
They can be the size of oranges and they're
just as nice as the melons. (Sorry, but I'm
a guy who lives in pretty much total ignorance
of bra sizes and so I can't cite real sizes.
Hence the fruit anaologies.)
I feel the need to dispel the myth that all
men want women with huge breasts even if
they're fake.
Anyway, the one I'm seeking would be nice, kind,
caring, uninhibited and discreet. She would have
her own life and not smother me. We would be
good friends and respect each other.
Fantasies? Well, to get a woman to spank me.
Besides that, well, I do have a sexual one.
I would like to try anal sex. Here's the
surprise, though. I'm not talking about
doing it to her (although that's welcome
and of course with protection :) but rather,
having her do it to me! I wouldn't mind
"trading places" with her. Although not
gay and not even bi-curious, I recognize
that that part of the body is an erogenous
area and I'm open to exploring it.
> Also, open up the possibilities a bit
> more--casual is fine, but does the woman
> need to assume that sex is automatically
> a given, without even having met you first?
Well, I was hoping so. But then again, even
the spanking -- even just giving me one and
without me returning the favor :) -- is
optional.
> And you might want to invite a woman who is
> intrigued by your fantasy to write to you
> and discuss it further, or share one of her
> own.
Sure, by all means! The ads I've placed here
are by no means a commitment from me that I'll
even accept a spanking from any female who
responds. It's just a means of well, advertising.
I had hoped to receive some e-mail to discuss
things further, to share memories, fantasies,
even opinions about other stuff.
> as well as a
> general hint about your "real life". (If
> you sound more like a human being than an
> axe murderer, your odds improve <g>).
OK. With the population explosion here in the
global village, there's always that fear that
I might be discovered by someone with whom
I don't want to share information about my
kinks, such as a client, business prospect
or especially a relative. But here goes.
Self-employed small business owner.
College-educated. Not going bald.
> The e-mail exchange in itself is foreplay,
> something women are notoriously tedious about
> requiring <g>.
Good. I've always been a big believer
in foreplay. The fun is in the journey,
not just the destination.
> On the plus side, you're looking for
> someone to spank YOU, primarily-- that's
> a bit safer from the woman's perspective.
And for me, more fun! I'm a non-violent
guy who really doesn't want to hurt anyone.
If I'm the recipient of whatever's going on,
then I'm really at ease knowing that everything
is totally OK and consensual, that she's
enjoying what's happening. That's why in
sex I've always enjoyed having her be on
top of me (not that it isn't fun to be on
top :). Plus, as for spanking, I like the
idea of giving in to someone else, letting
someone else be dominant, in control.
> And don't lose heart, either--I know an
> earlier response said that the urge to
> redden someone's butt is testosterone-linked,
> but I've known some incredibly dedicated
> female tops who could compete Olympically
> if the event is ever approved.
>
> Corey
Great! Thanks ever so much for the suggestions.
I would have replied sooner, but I thought that
I should make sure that I put in plenty of time
to do a good job of articulating my thoughts.
Thanks again!
> Before you criticize someone, you should walk a
> mile in their shoes. That way, when you begin to
> talk about them, you are already a mile away--and
> you have their shoes.
And when you go back, you can have that person
spank you with those shoes!
OK you female lurkers out there, time to
de-lurk. You've learned more about me
and hopefully have gotten the idea that
maybe I'm really an OK guy and not a
threat to your safety, that you needn't be
a body builder to spank me hard enough to please
(since severe beatings aren't being sought)
and that you don't have to be spanked by me
but that if you do, you needn't worry that
I'll be abusive.
IOW, I really am a nice guy whom you'd never
imagine would be into spanking. I promise,
limits are respected, sex not required.
I won't spank any harder than you want and
not at all if that's your decision.
OTOH, if you've been a girl and want to
accept that cathartic, invigorating and
just plain fun spanking you deserve for
whatever you've done wrong (e.g., not
de-lurking yet! :), I'd be happy to
be of assitance unless you're looking
for caning or something really severe.
Here's hoping that you'll de-lurk and
send me an e-mail. Complete discretion
is assured.
--
Seeks SWF~25-45 healthy, normal wt (no offense :)
non-smkr/drgs to spank naughty boy's bare bottom
and be spanked. Casual, no LTR or hassle. Safe
sex. Discrete. Good cunnilingus available. ;)