I just remembered, that are coming to the list is because I send it directly to the email address. Maybe I have to do that when starting out a thread and when wanting to respond to a message. I have no idea how to fix this.
So how do you know if it is coming from an individual or from the list without having to go back through the columns? You are correct, it worked this time so you must have sent it to the list. there has to be an easy way to know where it was sent but maybe not.
I guess all the years I thought i was sending to the list, when I did not type in the list name from the beginning, they were private messages, right?
The interesting thing, as I think I mentioned earlier, is that on this list I can send a message to the "sender only" but cannot do that on the groups.io lists. I definitely like that for a list in case it definitely is a private message.