As far as I know, it's not possible yet (haven't checked for changes for a while though).
I think the proper way to do it would be to setup a communication mechanism between the parent and the children isolates.
The parent would send an "exit" message to the child that we want to close, the child closes all its pending listeners and sends a confirmation message back to the parent.
I haven't found a way to make sure the isolate actually exits, as there may be sockets, receive ports, files, etc ... we forgot to cleanup.
I guess it's sometimes a matter of "faith" :P