I’ve been experiencing this problem too. I did switch bots to try if it would make a difference. It appeared so, but after a few days things were equally bad. Alerts arrive out of sequence and sometimes up to 5 minutes late, kind of defeating the purpose.
The native app does work better in that regard, but requires one has a phone/watch handy at all times. I spend lots of time working on my iMac and want to see alerts there. Telegram allows that, the native app does not (unless you use Apple frameworks to make this code run on the Mac as well).
My alert frequency does not appear excessive. There are occasions where 3-5 alerts get generated in quick succession, but then often times there is nothing for 30 minutes or more. I am not familiar with Telegrams “sense” of “large number of alerts”, but I would certainly not qualify this as such.