It's over... but at least we're still friends
Ricardo A Lafaurie Jr.
romantic relationship today. I couldn't take the worry and insecurity
of an online relationship and I had to tell her so. Fortunately, she
understood and we are still friends... I actually feel a little
relieved... but lonely...
Oh well...
Kyt the Panda
<PandaHuggles>
Sorry to hear it had to end, Ricardo - I hope you can maintain the
friendship, as I am sure she would lose out much by losing you entirely.
Online romance can be so hard sometimes - and still very worthwhile
(like any romance). Not too long ago, I was involved with a wonderful
guy in Michigan (remember, I'm in Ontario, Canada), and we had some
really special moments together... unfortunately, his work had to come
first and we ended things. But I still email him now and again to say
hello, and I'm proud that the work he put first has worked out so well
for him... maybe some of you know of Slashdot.org? Well, take it from
Panda - Rob Malda's a great guy. :)
<PandaCuddles> and lots of <tugs> for keeping the faith,
Panda
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Thev
Hey at least your still friends and you have all your other friends so
you actually aren't very alone at all. :) There's always someone to
lean on when you need to.
Tuggy
<das...@cyberspace.org> wrote:
>If anyone caught my earlier post about my online GF... we terminated our
>romantic relationship today. I couldn't take the worry and insecurity
>of an online relationship and I had to tell her so. Fortunately, she
>understood and we are still friends... I actually feel a little
>relieved... but lonely...
I'm sorry to hear that, but it sounds like you have made a good
decision for yourself. On-line relationships are difficult.....
Hugs, Tuggy
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greybear
from tu...@tuggy.demon.nl (Tuggy) contains these words:
> On Tue, 04 Jan 2000 08:30:57 GMT, "Ricardo A Lafaurie Jr."
> <das...@cyberspace.org> wrote:
> >If anyone caught my earlier post about my online GF... we terminated our
> >romantic relationship today. I couldn't take the worry and insecurity
> >of an online relationship and I had to tell her so. Fortunately, she
> >understood and we are still friends... I actually feel a little
> >relieved... but lonely...
<thanks for the cuddleback Tuggy>
Ric, I get a bit worried that you are desperate for any kind of relationship
just to stop feeling lonely.
I've been there and done that in the past, and you know what?
It didn't work. I still felt out of it - only now I got caught up with
someone who wasn't right for me, and I had all that stress to deal
with as well.
You sound a really thoughtful, interesting, articulate guy:
Just believe how good and worthwhile you are, and then
maybe being on your own for a while will be ok.
Relax.
**Hugs**
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relationship
> just to stop feeling lonely.
>
> I've been there and done that in the past, and you know what?
> It didn't work. I still felt out of it - only now I got caught up with
> someone who wasn't right for me, and I had all that stress to deal
> with as well.
>
> You sound a really thoughtful, interesting, articulate guy:
> Just believe how good and worthwhile you are, and then
> maybe being on your own for a while will be ok.
> Relax.
>
> **Hugs**
> --
> Sir GreyBear kita and Squire Vido the virtual doberman
Just when I did not think it was possible to respect you more than I already
do, you come around with this wonderful wisdom. Thanks Jim
Mysty
C. Whetstone
>
> You sound a really thoughtful, interesting, articulate guy:
> Just believe how good and worthwhile you are, and then
> maybe being on your own for a while will be ok.
> Relax.
>
Listen to what Sir Greybear is saying. He hits it on the head. There
is a saying that you have to be happy with yourself before you can be
happy with anyone else. It is true. You sound like a nice guy--didn't
see and major warts or horns. Work on enjoying your own company first.
relationships will follow!
The old grey wolf.
Wendy
Ricardo A Lafaurie Jr. <das...@cyberspace.org> wrote in message
news:3871B029...@cyberspace.org...
> If anyone caught my earlier post about my online GF... we terminated our
> romantic relationship today. I couldn't take the worry and insecurity
> of an online relationship and I had to tell her so. Fortunately, she
> understood and we are still friends... I actually feel a little
> relieved... but lonely...
>
Ric, I'm just going to hug you, long and hard. Then, give you another big
hug.
Well done. What you did was very hard, but it was the best decision. It's
probably better for you to build a relationship with someone you've met
online gradually while you're still in such a vulnerable position. Once
you've got burned, you've got to protect yourself and that's what you're
doing now. I'm very proud of you.
Loving hugs,
Wendy
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>
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Ricardo A Lafaurie Jr.
she won't talk to me... and I recently found out that she no longer wants to
associate with me.
*grunt* Some people...
Tuggy
I'm sorry!
*hug*
Maybe you are better off without her, if she is going to be like that.
Catherine
[cuddled]
I'm sorry to read about this, Ricardo.
big *hugs* to you and *tugs* for your quest for happiness
Catherine
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[cuddled]
Just wanted to say, well said/written Jim!
I had pretty much the same advice, didn't know exactly how to word it
though. Being in love with being in love can be very dangerous to all
involved.
Good luck Ricardo and once again, well said Jim!
Wendy
Very, very tight hugs,
Wendy.
Ricardo A Lafaurie Jr.
That short post carries so much meaning.... thanks
Catherine
[bad news cuddled]
Ahh, the great lie of women -- "I hope we can still be friends".
Equates to "I'll call you" in men, and no less hurtful when you learn
the meaning behind the words. And yet, in both cases, the words are
spoken in honesty enough that we still hope against hope, and believe.
I know that it is hard. It will get easier. In the meantime ...
*hugs*